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How important is a "pretty" middle name?

NelAnnNelAnn member
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We had been planning on using DH?s late mother?s name as a middle name. Her actual 1st name is Maria, but since there are a million Maria?s in DH?s Portuguese family, she went by her middle name, Eduarda. Yeah, not the prettiest name on the block. Well, we are now getting pressured by his family to use Eduarda for the middle name instead of Maria. I know that at the end of the day this is our baby and we can name her whatever we want, but if it means that much to them?

 

I guess what I?m asking is, do you think it matters that much if a middle name isn?t that great, especially if it?s a family name? I mean, how often do we use our middle names anyway?

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  • KaylaZaneClarkKaylaZaneClark
    middle names are not as important as the first. My fiance wanted our baby to have his grandfathers middle name, which is Royden, and it is now Royden. I didnt like it at first, but it grows on you. I think family names are important, if you choose to make her middle name.
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  • Sloane99Sloane99 member
    When it comes to middle names, I've always felt that the sentiment behind it is much more important than the name itself. That being said, please don't give into the pressure to give your daughter something you're not 100% okay with either.
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  • MAMAxBMAMAxB member
    As much as it bugs me that your family is "pressuring" you (wtf?) I love having a MN with a MEANING
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  • barbie92barbie92 member

    imageSloane99:
    When it comes to middle names, I've always felt that the sentiment behind it is much more important than the name itself. That being said, please don't give into the pressure to give your daughter something you're not 100% okay with either.

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  • Linds1224Linds1224

    I definitely agree that first names are more important but that being said I don't think you shoud decide on any name that you don't like or will regret. If you really prefer the name Maria I say use it .. it still has some family meaning to you. We gave both our kids middle names that had meaning to us (our son is after my husband and our daughter is after my grandma). If this baby is a girl DH really wants to use the name Catherine after his great aunt who he was really close with. I really don't like the name Catherine but I don't HATE it and can live with it and I feel like if it really means that much to DH I'm okay to use it. And like you said.. most people never use their middle names that much.

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  • anna7602anna7602 member
    If you want to honor his mother, use Eduarda. In my family as well, there are tons of Marias and they all go by either their middle names or both names. Across the board, the "saint day" they celebrate is the one for their mn, not for Maria. Personally, I think the family significance is what can make a name "pretty." Besides, Maria Eduarda is the name of one of the main characters in Eca de Quieroz's masterpiece "Os Maias."
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  • MamaWinoMamaWino member

    I've always thought that middle names should have familial significance.  They're so seldom used anymore that I think honoring a family member is the way to go. 

    All of the first born boys on one side of my family have the middle name Cyprian, after my grandfather.  Certainly not the nicest name but they all love that they're named after him.  DH and I plan to use my parents first names as our children's middle names even though we're not terribly fond of them.  GL!

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  • sugarpumpkin716sugarpumpkin716 member
    what's important is if you love it and if it means something to you!
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  • capuletcapulet member
    I love middle names that have special meaning.  DD's middle name is Ruth, after DH's grandmother.  If we have another girl, I want her middle name to be Ursula, after my grandmother.  I don't love the name itself and wouldn't use it as a first name, but my grandmother was important enough to me that I want to honor her with our LO's middle name if we can.
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  • mdsjchmdsjch
    My mn is my mother's maiden name.  DS's mn will either be my maiden name or my grandfather's middle name.
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