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Beta #1 8dp6dt = 56, Beta #2 = 600, Beta #3 = 5600
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2u2 logistical questions - help!
I am trying to work a few different things out and I would love some feedback from those that have BTDT.
Issue #1: Do I need to set up a 2nd nursery now?
We live in a small rental house and are hoping to buy a new home in the fall/early winter. This baby is due at the end of Aug and we plan to keep him/her in our room for 6mo anyway. We do have a 3rd bedroom that we could declutter and turn into a nursery, but it is tiny and would be a good deal of work to get in order. I would also hate to spend $$$ on pieces to fit that room, when I am excited to set up a room for the baby in the new house.
I was thinking I would set up a 2nd changing station on the 1st floor and keep all necessary supplies there so I don't have to run up and down to E's room all day and night or disturb her during naps/bedtime.
As far as clothing storage for the new baby - we have a wall of closets in our dining room that have a ton of space and are not being used effectively right now, so I was thinking of getting a closet organizer and maybe some plastic stacking drawers to keep the daily things in - pjs, onesies, extra blanket, etc.... E has plenty of extra storage in her room/closets for the rest.
Issue #2: Do I/will I need a 2nd crib?
Right now I am planning on playing this by ear. Eliza will be 20mo when this baby is born and is content in her crib. I will reevaluate as we go. Does this work?
Issue #3: Rocking chair/nursing chair
The chair is in E's room and we still use it daily for reading and rocking before bed and naps. I used it all the time for nursing when she was small. I was never comfy nursing in bed or on the couch because her latch was so poor, we really needed more support. I can see needing/using a 2nd chair, but I can't fathom where we would put it nor do I really want to spend the $$$ on it.
Issue #4: To set up the pack n play or not?
Again, space is a major issue. I have a co-sleeper for our room and plan to get the RNP sleeper. We also have a swing and a bouncy seat and 4,579 toddler toys. Eliza hated the PNP and we never used it for anything but a changer and storage. I am thinking a changing table will take up less space and allow for better organization. E napped in her swing for 6mo straight, but is that feasible for the new baby with E running around causing a ruckus?
TTC since Dec '04
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3 failed Fresh IVFs
FET #1 - BFP!! 2 blasts tx on day 6.
Beta #1 8dp6dt = 56, Beta #2 = 600, Beta #3 = 5600
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Re: 2u2 logistical questions - help!
I don't have any first hand experience but we had planned to not set up another room for LO#2. We were going to keep the baby with us for 6-9 months and let G be in his room. When the time came, we would set up G's big boy room and move the baby to the nursery. I think we will stick to this unless G is significantly older at the time we have #2.
I can't help with the other stuff.
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Reagan was 2 years and 2 months when Madilynn was born, so I will give you my thoughts even though I didn't exactly have 2u2.
Do I need to set up a 2nd nursery now? Nope. We just moved Madilynn to her own room this past weekend. Until then, she slept in a mini co-sleeper in our room. We also set up a changing station on our dresser. We did use the closet in her room, but it sounds like you have another solution to that.
Do I/will I need a 2nd crib? We transitioned Reagan to her big girl bed (a double bed with rails) right around 20 months. She had no problems whatsoever and loved that she was sleeping in a big girl room. Then we used her old crib for Madilynn.
Rocking chair/nursing chair. Not sure about this. Since you love nursing in that chair, perhaps you could move that into your room or the living room and buy a less expensive chair for E's room?
To set up the pack n play or not? We used our pack and play from the beginning with both girls. I love that it has an extra changing station, a place to sleep or put down, and that it is out of the way. There are times when I have to leave Reagan with Madilynn in the room alone (if I am running to the bathroom or the laundry room) so at the beginning it was great having her in a place where Reagan couldn't get to her.
HTH!
We got a handmedown crib that we didn't intend to use, but #1 wasn't ready to transition and we moved her to a "big girl room". So we set it up, and she ended up being in it for 8+ months.
We did use the Pack N Play in our room for a while. We have a recliner (so not as nice as the nursery) in our bedroom that I used to nurse when she was in there.
Can you move the glidder into your bedroom?
Having a comfortable place to nurse was essential for me (still is).
Our DD is 3 months old and we plan on keeping her in our room until 6 months. There is *no* reason we would have to have a nursery or crib set up for her right now! I'd absolutely just wait and see on just about everything.
I would suggest setting up seperate areas, outside of E's room, for diaper changes and feeding the baby. I also have a chair that I used and loved with DS. . . I gave it a try feeding DD on the sofa, and it ended up working out just fine. If it hadn't, I might have considered bringing the chair in to the living room or something for just a short time. (Or, it works best with DD to feed her in bed - so I sometimes kick DH out and send him to the guestroom for the night
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GL!
eta: Depending on your set up, you might not even need an extra changing "table" - just look for any extra space on a counter or dresser, imo. I just have several blankets laid out on a counter in our laundry room that I use for middle of the night changes
Issue #1: Do I need to set up a 2nd nursery now?
No in your case I wouldn't. If you are planning to keep the baby in your room for 6mo anyways then there is no need. I did also set up a changing station on the lower level so I didn't have to go up and down. We used out pack n play for this.
Issue #2: Do I/will I need a 2nd crib?
If your oldest will be 20 months when baby is born and baby is in your room for a few months anyway then I would not buy another crib. My two are 20 months apart as well and we didn't get a second crib. We moved my oldest into a twin bed with rail at 22 months. It went totally fine!
Issue #3: Rocking chair/nursing chair
I would play this one by ear. I used our chair ALL THE TIME with #1...all night nursing sessions were in that chair and I slept in it a few times too... it was used A LOT. Well I very rarely nursed in it with #2. I had planned to move it into our 'office' so I could use it at night...but I didn't need it. I ended up nursing in bed with #2 which I never ever did with my first. So things are definitely different with #2 and don't count on everything being the same. A new chair is expensive too...if you find you really need it maybe just move it out of the nursery for awhile.
Issue #4: To set up the pack n play or not?
We set ours up in the lower level as a changing station and also as a place to lay the baby down. It wasn't as easy to just use the swing all the time with a little toddler running around. Like if I had to go to the bathroom I was not comfortable leaving the baby in the swing and toddler out and about... I will be setting it up downstairs again with this baby. I think we only had it there for 2 months though.
1. You're planning on moving...don't bother to set up a nursery in this house. Focus on what will make your everyday activities easiest. DON'T get rid of the PNP if you ask me. You could use it as a crib/place for her to sleep once she outgrows the co-sleeper. I don't know what a RNP sleeper is?
I had a change area set up downstairs with extra diapers/changes of clothes etc. I never went upstairs for diaper changes.
2. We kept Reed in his crib until age 2....but then we converted his crib to a toddler bed...so we needed to buy a second crib for Penny. She slept with us forever, and didn't use her beautiful nursery until she was super old! lol
When you move, you could get E her toddler bed or new bed, and set up the nursery with her crib for the new baby. Save your money for.......
3. With #2, you don't have to buy that much new stuff...so if another glider would help you out, get one. Set it up in your bedroom.
4. What I did (and others may not agree but whatever works) was basically set up my living room as my ZONE for the kids. I am home with them, the main function of that space is that the kids are safe and happy. So I got rid of/moved anything that was in the way or not kid friendly/safe. We don't have a coffee table. We have the IKEA round green kids' table. Yes, my house looks like a preschool, but they are young for such a short time, and really they are my main focus...so what if there was a bouncy chair and a huge PNP right when you walk in the door? Make it so that E can play safely and you can breastfeed/tend to the baby in one area. If you are moving anyway....it will be only a short while before you are set up more permanently.
I'm just going to tell you what worked for us, since it sounds like it was somewhat similar. We had no bedroom for the twins, since we were giving them our bedroom (our would-be bedroom was damaged by a flood and we weren't able to renovate it until the twins were several months old). We kept them in our room, in a pack and play, for the first three months. It only became an issue then because they couldn't fit in the same PNP anymore.
We put an extra (small) dresser in our bedroom that held all the twins' clothes, burp cloths, bibs, etc., and we put a changing pad on top of it. We also set up another PNP in the living room. Our rocker/glider is in Ava's room, so we put a rocking chair in the living room to use to feed the twins. We also put the swing in our bedroom, and one of the twins slept in it often.
So, essentially, the twins did not have a nursery until they were three months old. It worked out just fine -- and would have even longer, had there only been one of them!
I hope that helps!
Issue #1: Do I need to set up a 2nd nursery now? We set up a nursery for DS, even though he slept in a bassinet in our room for the first 3 months. But if I was you and you mention you are moving, I would not make a nursery.
Issue #2: Do I/will I need a 2nd crib? We got a second crib. DD was 17 months old when DS was born and at 25 months old, she is still in her crib. We got really nice convertible cribs for both kids.
Issue #3: Rocking chair/nursing chair I think this is an absolute MUST have. Hubby tried to convince me that we didn't need a second one but after a few weeks, we were running out to buy one. DD was very upset that "her" chair had moved to her baby brother's room. So we bought her a comfy, oversized pink chair and ottoman that she loves to sit and read books in before bed with us.
Issue #4: To set up the pack n play or not? I think that this is really up to you, we have only used our pack n plays when we travel. What one kid likes the other one may not. DD would only nap in her swing for 6 months, DS hated the swing. DS loved the bouncer, DD hated it. DD hates the bumbo, DS loved it. And they get used to the noise level.
We left the chair in DS's room and used it to read books before bed. I never nursed in the chair (with either of them), and would feed DD overnight in the living room watching TV. Could you move your chair to your room or the living room? Issue #4: To set up the pack n play or not?What would you need a pnp for? We set one up in the living room (downstairs), so that i had a safe place to put DS while putting DD down for naps (since they shared a room and I couldn't put him in his crib - it was too distracting!)...but that didn't start until she was on more of a schedule (4months ish?). DD would occasionally nap in there as well, when she was older. Otherwise, she napped in the bouncy seat or co-sleeper for the first 2-3 months, and slept in her co-sleeper at night. You could wait until she is here and then figure out if you need it or not. One piece of advice our pedi gave to us - never leave the 2 of them alone in a room together. If you find yourself having a hard time figuring out what to do with one of them - you may need the pnp!Good luck!
Sorry, just one more thing to add...
You wouldn't believe the things that DD slept through - she used to come to DS's Little Gym class and sleep in the corner in her car seat. And that got loud!
We would set the bouncy seat up on the table (bad, I know, but DS couldn't reach her that way - may not work for you since your DD will be older and may actually be able to reach). We set the swing up in the hallway outside of whatever room we were playing in - on the other side of the baby gate. That way, DD was safe from a curious toddler! I also contemplated setting up our "cage" (the SuperYard XT) and putting DD in the middle of it, but never did it.