Boy name and bad karma?

Linds1224 · June 2011

Okay .. I'm going to start by asking that you all don't think I'm crazy! LOL! But I'm in need of some thoughts on this. I'm not an overly superstitious person but there are some things I believe in .. like signs or things happening for a reason .. stuff like that. So here's the thing ...

Yesterday morning there was a police officer killed in the line of duty about 10 minutes north of where we live. He was in his early 30's, lived close by to where we just bought our new house, had recently passed his promotional exam and was awaing promotion to sergent and had a 9 week old baby boy named Nolan.

5 months ago there was another police officer killed in the line. He worked for the same police department my husband does and my husband knew him. He was in his early 30's, had been recently promoted to sergent and worked at the division right downtown in the city. He had a 2 year old son named Nolan.

My husband is a police officer. Is in his early 30's and recently passed his promotional exam and is awaiting promotion to sergent and will likely be sent to the same division where the officer mentioned above was recently killed. If this baby is a boy we are planning to name him Nolan.

I can't help but feel like is some eerie foreshadowing. The similarities between these two police officers and my husband is a little crazy to me and it's making me second guess our name choice if this baby is a boy. I know I probably sound like some crazy person and if something is going to happen it's going to happen (God forbid) but I can't help but wonder if using the name Nolan is just bad karma or something. Am I crazy or would anybody else out there have the same thoughts??

LaComtesse · June 2011

... yeah, it's a little crazy.

Total coincidence and think nothing of it. Look at it this way: there's a whole lot more these different men didn't/don't have in common than things they did/do have in common.

SailorGray · June 2011

I think it just means Nolan is popular in your area.

austenfan919 · June 2011

That's something I would probably notice, too, but I don't think I'd worry too much about it. I don't think changing your name choice is going to protect your husband in any way, but if it is going to bug you, I think it's OK to choose a new name.

You should be comfortable with your LOs name, even if you don't have a great reason for being uncomfortable with it.

MAMAxB · June 2011

What a weird coincidence!

But, as a completely UN-supersticious person. You naming him will not determine the fate of your husband

MamaWino · June 2011

I agree with PPs but if naming him Nolan is going to constantly remind you of these officers I'd go with something else.

leapgirl8 · June 2011

If a name makes you uncomfortable for any reason, why use it? Sure, it wouldn't 'cause' anything to happen to your husband. But if something did happen to him, your son's name will bother you even more. That sucks for both you and your son. I'd choose something else and not feel bad about it at all. You don't have to tell people why you changed your mind. None of their business.

Linds1224 · June 2011

Thanks for the replies ladies

I know it sounds a tad crazy and I know it's not going to determine the path our life takes but it just stuck me as oddly similar. But I appreciate your comments. We'll see how I feel about it IF we find out in a few weeks weeks this baby is a boy. On a good side note .. we already had a second name picked out (Colton) so it wont be a huge ordeal. Girls' names are taking the cake on that one!

KZBurnworth · June 2011

I would probably have to pick a different name. Just because if something ever did happen you would always wonder "what if" and I am a big believer in karma.

apc1929 · June 2011

I think its a total unfortunate coincidence and I personally don't think I would expect "karma" to follow the name. BUT it really doesn't matter what anyone thinks becuase if it is bothering you this much maybe you should look for something else... FWIW I think Nolan is a great name and know a few of them..

lisa5201 · June 2011

I believe strongly in paying attention to signs and coincidences and following your gut.

Seems like something is telling you not to name your son Nolan. I don't think anything bad will happen to you or your family if you do, but if you noticed those coincidences and they concern you, there's probably some reason for it...

Also, Nolan is probably ridiculously common in your area, and that alone would lead me to rethink

KZBurnworth · June 2011

I would probably have to pick a different name. Just because if something ever did happen you would always wonder "what if" and I am a big believer in karma.

Shawnee11507 · June 2011

leapgirl8:
If a name makes you uncomfortable for any reason, why use it? Sure, it wouldn't 'cause' anything to happen to your husband. But if something did happen to him, your son's name will bother you even more. That sucks for both you and your son. I'd choose something else and not feel bad about it at all. You don't have to tell people why you changed your mind. None of their business.

THIS. Probably pure coincidence, but it would creep me out. I would choose a different name.

msgde2shus · June 2011

I don't think you are crazy at all. I would be a little weirded out, too. However, if you love the name...go for it!

femmepink · June 2011

I live in the same area and was thinking the same thing when I found out they both had sons named Nolan.

The Styles murder is incredibly saddening though. I can't believe it.

If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't use the name. I'm sure nothing would happen to your or your husband if you did use the name, but to me, it's just too much coincidence at the moment.

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