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Question re: 1st court date

BeachBum1223BeachBum1223
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So STBXH and I have our first appearance next week for child custody and CS.  Can anyone enlighten me on what goes on? My attorney acts like its no big deal, I probably wont even have to talk.  Next step: mediation.

I'd still like to know what to expect though... can anyone clue me in?

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Re: Question re: 1st court date

  • okballet16okballet16 member

    I would also like to know this. Ex is taking me to court for visitation and I'm nervous, do I have to talk to answer questions or does the lawyer do that for me?

    Also I don't know what to wear, it probably doesn't matter but I worry about stuff like that.

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    Also I don't know what to wear, it probably doesn't matter but I worry about stuff like that.

    Dress nice.  Do not show up in jeans, or in anything that shows too much skin.  Dress pants and a nice shirt would be acceptable.  Make it look like you care and take care of yourself.  Judges do take note of your appearance sometimes, especially if it's way out of line.

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  • PrettyInPearls23PrettyInPearls23 member

    Since you're married, I'm assuming this is to establish temporary orders for CS/custody/parenting time during the duration of the divorce.

    Mine was called a conciliation hearing and STBXH didn't show up. So, I was granted everything I was asking for, which was simply the custody/parenting time we had already been following since STBXH moved out several months before. CS was out of my control, and the courts called his employed to verify his income.

    It's best if you both can agree on something -- in my county, if STBXH had shown up and we couldn't agree, the concilator would've issued a recommendation and the judge would've signed it into an Order, effective immediately. If you feel there will be any kind of fighting, come prepared with any documentation you can think of.

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  • leepinlizzardsleepinlizzards

    Let your lawyer talk unless the judge asks you a question directly. 

    Be polite....yes ma'am/sir, no ma'am sir, thank you your honor. 

    Do NOT say anything you your ex beyond a customary hello, good morning/afternoon.  Especially don't fight in front of the judge.

    Your body language will say a lot to the judge.  Try to relax, clasp hand in front of you, try not to fidget, and don't roll your eyes or sigh.

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