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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Solved my MIL Facebook issue (long)
She unfriended me last night. Snap!
Yesterday my fiance posted a picture of Jack at a ball game. He was not wearing a hat. We were sitting under the overhang, well in the shade. MIL flips out and posts under the picture. "He needs to be wearing a hat!" He writes: "We were in the shade, Mom" and then she writes a paragraph in response about how babies need to wear hats. It will protect them even in the heat. Um...what???
Then his phone starts buzzing, she's texting now about the lack of hat. We send her a picture of him in a fvcking hat.
Fast forward a few hours and I login to the computer and she's posted an article on her wall about how to dress and care for an infant in the heat/sun! It was too much for me. I am cutting and pasting the back and forth (very sloppily) for your enjoyment:
MIL:
Protection for Baby less than one year -?Babies less than 1 year of age should be protected from direct sunlight. Always protect him or her with breathable clothing with a tight weave. Protect your baby?s face and head with a wide-brimmed hat. ?Your child may also suffer from sunburn if his or her skin is exposed to the sun. Even...the article goes on to say that even in the shade there is a chance of getting a sunburn as the sun has a way of boomeranging...baby skin is extremely sensitive. also hydration is a big factor when taking a baby out in very hot weather. I hope this information helps anyone who has a young child - I guess I was just born to worry!
ME:
Yes, baby skin is very sensitive which is why the AAP recommends only using sunscreen on babies under six months only if absolutely necessary. We keep a tube of baby sunscreen in his bag for such occasions and apply sparingly. Both of his strollers have SPF fabric sunshades, he has SPF fabric sunhats too. As for hydration I offer him a chance to nurse frequently (watching his cues for when he might need extra fluid) per our pediatrician and lactation consultant. We worry too!
MIL:
Why would I think any different..please, don't bite your tongue - I can give it and take it too!
ME:
You sounded very worried, just didn't want you thinking we were boiling the baby!
MIL:
No, - I did not imply that at all - but most importantly, I was talking to my son. I was not talking to you, or questioning your motherhood. I was questioning my son since the picture showed no hat! I did not even know if you were there! The End!
Did she really think I meant it about boiling the baby? I am so done. DONE.
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Re: Solved my MIL Facebook issue (long)
Oh I agree, I'm back to just ignoring her as of right this very second.
I should add that this is the first time I've said anything to her about all her advice. I've held my tongue for 4 months. Suddenly I just couldn't take it anymore. And geez, all I did was tell her how we care for the baby!
Good grief, she makes it seem like you bit her head off. I don't think you went too far at all. If she was my MIL, I don't think I could have held my tongue for 4 months. Did she really not think you wouldn't have seen those comments on your FI's page? What a lunatic. The End!!! p.s is she on meds?
FWIW, I'm constantly hearing about hats...from my mom, my grandmother - any time he's outside rain, shine, clouds, they make that comment. I think it's just from their generation, they feel the need to point this out every time.
Granted, sometimes I should have one on his head, but for a quick run from the car to the house I don't worry too much. Yet they still do.