airing of grievances (not Bump grievances)

Heather R · June 2011

I am pissy that my SIL didn't ask me to stand up in her wedding. It makes me feel left out because my son and my husband are in it, and her fiance's sister is in it. We're on great terms and all, but we're not close (she's kind of reserved).

What / with whom are your real-life grievances?

Sweeti7307 · June 2011

I am upset with DH's job right now. They are giving him a hard time for missing a week of work, even though he has pneumonia. Work or health? Damn priorities.

CinemaGoddess · June 2011

I'm pissed at Netflix right now. Rumor has it that they're letting their DVD rental section slowly fade away so they can become all streaming all the time.

This is annoying as hell because 1 out of ever 3 DVDs we get now are somehow unplayable (scratches, snapped in two, etc.) and we're starting to get "Oh, sorry. We don't have any more of those so we're sending you the next one in your queue." messages.

Just either rip the bandaid off, Netflix, and go to all streaming or replace your DVDs.

Also, incorporate an auto-forward function to your TV streaming like Hulu does.

huber22 · June 2011

i'm pissy that dh has friends that he can spend time with. he doesn't spend a lot of time with them, but i'm angry that i haven't made any good friends here in the last two years.

Rach21 · June 2011

My biological father's parents.

Even though my mom divorced my birth father (he was a cheating tool) she and my stepdad (who adopted me and is the best dad ever) left the door open for them to have a relationship with me and my older brother. They NEVER contacted us while growing up. They tracked down my Mimi through her old workplace and Mimi (thinking she was doing the right thing) told her I was getting married, gave her the address of the home we would be closing on a few days later, and now I keep getting mail from them. They act like we've talked all our lives, yet I was a baby when they last saw me. They haven't contacted my older brother (who lives in the same house as my Mimi) and he was actually old enough to remember them when our parents divorced, so I know it hurts him.

When I told my Mimi I really didn't want to have anything to do with them, she said, "Well, if Mark (my real dad) was MY son, I could have been the one who lost out on the relationship with you." I asked my Mimi if she would have just been okay to never see/speak to Andy and me again, no matter what happened between Mom and my real dad. She said no. Then I asked if she thought for one minute my parents ever hid/destroyed a letter from them or kept them from contacting us, and I think she got the picture. I don't blame them for my real dad being a womanizing tool, but I do blame them for being crappy grandparents.

Sorry so long!

Heather R · June 2011

huber22:
i'm pissy that dh has friends that he can spend time with. he doesn't spend a lot of time with them, but i'm angry that i haven't made any good friends here in the last two years.

what area?

shrinkedink · June 2011

I am annoyed that now that I am on summer break my husband doesn't help with anything. I need to cook, clean, do laundry and take care of the baby while he doesn't do anything. Then, he was annoyed with me when I expressed that I would like to watch something of my choosing last night. He's normally great soI chalk it up to him just being unaware but if it happens again tonight... bang, zoom to the moon!

huber22 · June 2011

Heather R:

huber22:
i'm pissy that dh has friends that he can spend time with. he doesn't spend a lot of time with them, but i'm angry that i haven't made any good friends here in the last two years.

what area?

rural iowa.

apaul1208 · June 2011

My brother.

He is such an effing ***. I told him to shut up at my aunt's funeral because he was being mean to my DH and I was at my climax of grieving. He then acted a fool...I mean for real...total and complete idiot getting in my face and saying he was going to hit me or I needed hit while holding Lyla...at a funeral...of someone who was basically like our grandmother. ASS...right?

He won't apologize and I'm not budging...and my mom is torn and it makes me feel crappy..not to mention a first birthday party is approaching and it is going to be awkward. He needs to remove his head out of his behind and just say sorry and move on. Jerk OFF.

sorry for all the ... - it's my thang.

Done.

shrinkedink · June 2011

apaul1208:

My brother.

He is such an effing ***. I told him to shut up at my aunt's funeral because he was being mean to my DH and I was at my climax of grieving. He then acted a fool...I mean for real...total and complete idiot getting in my face and saying he was going to hit me or I needed hit while holding Lyla...at a funeral...of someone who was basically like our grandmother. ASS...right?

He won't apologize and I'm not budging...and my mom is torn and it makes me feel crappy..not to mention a first birthday party is approaching and it is going to be awkward. He needs to remove his head out of his behind and just say sorry and move on. Jerk OFF.

sorry for all the ... - it's my thang.

Done.

Wow, that really sucks... what is his beef with your DH?

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Libby1978 · June 2011

My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

huber22 · June 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
huber22:
Heather R:

huber22:
i'm pissy that dh has friends that he can spend time with. he doesn't spend a lot of time with them, but i'm angry that i haven't made any good friends here in the last two years.

what area?

rural iowa.

Yeah, sorry about your luck there. It blows.

yeah. not like there are many mixers here! 45 minutes to.... well, anything. what area are you in?

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apaul1208 · June 2011

shrinkedink:
apaul1208:

My brother.

He is such an effing ***. I told him to shut up at my aunt's funeral because he was being mean to my DH and I was at my climax of grieving. He then acted a fool...I mean for real...total and complete idiot getting in my face and saying he was going to hit me or I needed hit while holding Lyla...at a funeral...of someone who was basically like our grandmother. ASS...right?

He won't apologize and I'm not budging...and my mom is torn and it makes me feel crappy..not to mention a first birthday party is approaching and it is going to be awkward. He needs to remove his head out of his behind and just say sorry and move on. Jerk OFF.

sorry for all the ... - it's my thang.

Done.

Wow, that really sucks... what is his beef with your DH?

I haven't a clue. He never liked any of my boyfriends (he had just cause for that) but I finally got a good one (who I married) and he is just constantly "picking" at him.

It is kind of funny but he called him Mr. Rogers at the funeral. But that was just my breaking point. He is always a douche....I just couldn't hold it in anymore.

He can't seperate his job from his real life.

shrinkedink · June 2011

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

Her loss! Your baby is friggin adorable!

Rach21 · June 2011

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

UGH!!! You've mentioned your MIL before and her coldness to your LO. I really don't know how you can be civil. Mad props to you for keeping your cool when that whole situation is incredibly unfair and hurtful. **HUGS**

sodelish · June 2011

I would like to complain about the "express lanes" and stoopid Seattle drivers. There are a couple of exits that are carpool only that single drivers get in so they can move ahead in line for their own exit. It slows down the carpool exit and irritates me.

Heather R · June 2011

Boo on rural Iowa. and boo to the MIL neglecting Oliver's room! And Indifferent to the funeral crashing brother.

Boooooo.

apaul1208 · June 2011

AND (cause I'm spunky today) The Bump.

I have been trying to do a clicky poll for days now about where you girls clip your toe nails out and it just won't let me. Unless it has posted as many times as I have tried...which would be very embarassing.

Libby1978 · June 2011

shrinkedink:

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

Her loss! Your baby is friggin adorable!

Thanks lady! She loves Oliver, but I can just see this turning into him taking the back seat to the new baby. Nothing I can do about it I suppose.

CinemaGoddess · June 2011

sodelish:
I would like to complain about the "express lanes" and stoopid Seattle drivers. There are a couple of exits that are carpool only that single drivers get in so they can move ahead in line for their own exit. It slows down the carpool exit and irritates me.

OMG, THANK YOU. I love the ones who get off the express lanes on James and then are full of shock and surprise when a cop pulls them over. Because the express lanes end right in front of the police department.

huber22 · June 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
huber22:
SookieFrackhouse68:
huber22:
Heather R:

huber22:
i'm pissy that dh has friends that he can spend time with. he doesn't spend a lot of time with them, but i'm angry that i haven't made any good friends here in the last two years.

what area?

rural iowa.

Yeah, sorry about your luck there. It blows.

yeah. not like there are many mixers here! 45 minutes to.... well, anything. what area are you in?

Central. Fun stuff, for real. Thank God for alcohol and Directv.

blah. i'm in eastern. with netflix... pretty much if i wasn't so fricking busy with work, i'd go nuts. really, i feel like everyone here has friends, or if they don't, there is a reason for it...

shrinkedink · June 2011

apaul1208:
shrinkedink:
apaul1208:

My brother.

He is such an effing ***. I told him to shut up at my aunt's funeral because he was being mean to my DH and I was at my climax of grieving. He then acted a fool...I mean for real...total and complete idiot getting in my face and saying he was going to hit me or I needed hit while holding Lyla...at a funeral...of someone who was basically like our grandmother. ASS...right?

He won't apologize and I'm not budging...and my mom is torn and it makes me feel crappy..not to mention a first birthday party is approaching and it is going to be awkward. He needs to remove his head out of his behind and just say sorry and move on. Jerk OFF.

sorry for all the ... - it's my thang.

Done.

Wow, that really sucks... what is his beef with your DH?

I haven't a clue. He never liked any of my boyfriends (he had just cause for that) but I finally got a good one (who I married) and he is just constantly "picking" at him.

It is kind of funny but he called him Mr. Rogers at the funeral. But that was just my breaking point. He is always a douche....I just couldn't hold it in anymore.

He can't seperate his job from his real life.

That sucks.... Is there someone that can talk some sense into him? My BFF gets like this and I am always available to knock his head in when necessary. His wife always appreciates it. I hope he comes to his senses so he doesn't miss out!

Libby1978 · June 2011

Rach21:

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

UGH!!! You've mentioned your MIL before and her coldness to your LO. I really don't know how you can be civil. Mad props to you for keeping your cool when that whole situation is incredibly unfair and hurtful. **HUGS**

Thanks! She does love Oliver, but I have a feeling she's going to love the new baby more. I don't know, it's a mother/daughter thing I guess. Her baby is having a baby, yada, yada, yada. I guess I don't get it.

HBaylies · June 2011

A big FU to my upstairs condo neighbors who failed to get regular checks of their HVAC system causing them to not realize there was a clog in the drainage, filled their catch basin with condensation water, and making it leak all through their ceiling, into our HVAC system, down our walls and making a puddle all across DS's laminate wood floor. And I also hate that it's now MY respoonsibility to get the ball rolling by providing our homeowners insurance company with a bizillion documents from our condo association before they will come to look at the damage. Then they have to talk to the neighbor's insurance company, possibly send out their own adjustor, then haggle the price because we can even talk about repairs. The water ruined a ton of books, damaged the drywall and floor boards and now he can't even play in his own room. MAINTAIN YOUR CONDO UNITS PEOPLE! You have an effect on everyone around you if you don't!

sodelish · June 2011

cinema_goddess:

sodelish:
I would like to complain about the "express lanes" and stoopid Seattle drivers. There are a couple of exits that are carpool only that single drivers get in so they can move ahead in line for their own exit. It slows down the carpool exit and irritates me.

OMG, THANK YOU. I love the ones who get off the express lanes on James and then are full of shock and surprise when a cop pulls them over. Because the express lanes end right in front of the police department.

HAHAHA! Exactly. Morons. Whenever I see a single passenger in front of me taking the Pike exit (also carpool) I cross my fingers and toes that a cop is waiting for them. I also yell at them. Even though they can't hear me.

D_Nett86 · June 2011

I'm pissed with DS's daycare. I am sure I was told when I first brought him to this daycare that his rate would drop $25 a week when he turned one then to $90 when he's potty trained. Now I'm finding out it's when he turns 2 that the rates drop. I can't wait to find my handbook. This is really bothering me.

Libby1978 · June 2011

Heather R:

I am pissy that my SIL didn't ask me to stand up in her wedding. It makes me feel left out because my son and my husband are in it, and her fiance's sister is in it. We're on great terms and all, but we're not close (she's kind of reserved).

What / with whom are your real-life grievances?

Sorry about your SIL not asking you to stand in her wedding. My SIL's wedding was in January & I was not asked to stand either & neither was my husband. Our two older kids were in her wedding though. It hurt my feeling a little, but I was also kind of relieved at the same time.

write2nicole · June 2011

ILs. My SIL is now having MIL babysit her daughter 3 days/week. So ILs act like we're a huge burden if we ask them to keep Mac for a couple hours. And it has reached the point that MIL is now nervous to even hold Mac.

It just makes me so sad. I don't want him to grow up feeling like his grandmother doesn't love him as much.

Rach21 · June 2011

Libby1978:
Rach21:

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!
UGH!!! You've mentioned your MIL before and her coldness to your LO. I really don't know how you can be civil. Mad props to you for keeping your cool when that whole situation is incredibly unfair and hurtful. **HUGS**
Thanks! She does love Oliver, but I have a feeling she's going to love the new baby more. I don't know, it's a mother/daughter thing I guess. Her baby is having a baby, yada, yada, yada. I guess I don't get it.

Eh, both my SIL and I were both pregnant at the same time. My parents were over the moon for both babies. It just seems like your MIL has a hard time spreading the grandma love around.

Libby1978 · June 2011

write2nicole:

ILs. My SIL is now having MIL babysit her daughter 3 days/week. So ILs act like we're a huge burden if we ask them to keep Mac for a couple hours. And it has reached the point that MIL is now nervous to even hold Mac.

It just makes me so sad. I don't want him to grow up feeling like his grandmother doesn't love him as much.

I'm with you Nicole! Sad

Sweeti7307 · June 2011

write2nicole:
ILs. My SIL is now having MIL babysit her daughter 3 days/week. So ILs act like we're a huge burden if we ask them to keep Mac for a couple hours. And it has reached the point that MIL is now nervous to even hold Mac.

It just makes me so sad. I don't want him to grow up feeling like his grandmother doesn't love him as much.

That is awful Nicole. FWIW, I would totally watch Mac for you if I lived in Az. With pleasure.

write2nicole · June 2011

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

We have commiserated before, Libby. I think it's awful. And I never would have believed a grandmother could act this way if I hadn't seen it myself.

Libby1978 · June 2011

Rach21:
Libby1978:
Rach21:

Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!

UGH!!! You've mentioned your MIL before and her coldness to your LO. I really don't know how you can be civil. Mad props to you for keeping your cool when that whole situation is incredibly unfair and hurtful. **HUGS**

Thanks! She does love Oliver, but I have a feeling she's going to love the new baby more. I don't know, it's a mother/daughter thing I guess. Her baby is having a baby, yada, yada, yada. I guess I don't get it.

Eh, both my SIL and I were both pregnant at the same time. My parents were over the moon for both babies. It just seems like your MIL has a hard time spreading the grandma love around.

Haha! Maybe so. MIL only has two kids, DH & SIL. We have three kids & this will be SIL's first. So, we will see how it goes. I'm really going to have to let it go or I'll just drive myself crazy.

Libby1978 · June 2011

write2nicole:
Libby1978:
My MIL right now. We just found out my SIL is pregnant. She's only like 5 weeks along. MIL ordered furniture to set up a nursery a few months ago. First, Oliver is already 9 months old, so clearly this isn't mainly for him. Second, she has yet to take the crap out of the boxes even though she keeps saying she is going to set it up for Oliver to use. Of course, now that her kid is pregnant she is all of the sudden gung-ho about starting to get the nursery set up. She even said at dinner last night, "I'm going to start setting up and decorating the nursery since we have another baby on the way." Wow, thanks. I guess Oliver wasn't important enough to set a nursery up for when I was pregnant last year!!
We have commiserated before, Libby. I think it's awful. And I never would have believed a grandmother could act this way if I hadn't seen it myself.

I know, right? Right now it only hurts my feelings because Oliver doesn't know or understand. One day he'll be old enough to know if she has a favorite. The twins are 12, so I don't think it's a big deal to them. They had 12 years of being the only grandchildren & have had that long to form a very close relationship with my IL's. Oliver on the other hand will only be 18 months old when the new baby comes along, so if she does favor the new baby he will know at some point & I'm sure it will hurt him.

Heather R · June 2011

write2nicole:

MIL is now nervous to even hold Mac.

wth?

jlthompson19 · June 2011

I'm mad at FIL.

DD's birthday party is Sunday. They've known this for over a month. Now GFIL and GMIL want to go to Tunica on Monday for their anniversary so FIL is driving them. He's now not coming to the party b/c he'd be driving 5 hours roundtrip on Sunday and then another 3 hours to Tunica on Monday (separate directions).

He's coming Saturday, but now my day of cleaning, cooking and running around like a mad person getting ready for the party has been taken away from me.

Why did they feel the need to just tell me all of this 30 minutes ago???? Either they knew about it and never bothered to tell us or they just planned it and I think that's shltty too.

historychick79 · June 2011

I'm still not speaking with my mom after all the drama she pulled around C's arrival and then claiming I 'disowned' her as a mom when I said I needed to distance myself.

I feel sort of gypped by the education system, being told my entire life that I was 'gifted' and I obviously HAVE to go to college, and then to go for my Masters when I didn't have any financial support or resources. I ultimately made the decision and took out the loans, but the expectaction was all around me and what the heck does one really know about long term consequences when you're 18? I could easily have a job with this pay rate with either a 2yr degree or taking civil service exams at this point.

I also wish some coworkers could get their heads out their ass already.

And where the heck is that winning lotto ticket...

emilydholmes1 · June 2011

My BFF is trying to make me feel bad about settling down and getting married and having a baby (she is still single). At first I was trying really hard to see things from her point of view and be sympathic towards it all but after 2 years of that, I am tired of her bullshiit.

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