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September 2011 Moms
GTKY: Tell me about your family....
I have been meaning to ask this for a while since random posts mention parents or situations when they were growing up and siblings..... This kind of stuff intrigues me....
In my family there are three kids. My sister is two years older (35) and my brother is two years younger (31). My parents and got divorced when I was in the 4th grade. Not a bad divorce, more over constant fighting due to money and what not. My dad is still very much a part of my life, in fact for all major holidays my mother comes with us to my dad's house. My dad remarried when I was in 11th grade and I gained two stepsisters, one is 36 and the other is 40. All of my siblings are married. My sister has two boys, and my stepsisters have one child each. My brother has a baby on the way and my SIL is due in November.
I am married and my DH has two brothers, one is deceased from a drug overdose at 25 years old, he left behind an evil wife and two daughters. The other brother is getting married in November. Then he has the bratty 18 year half sister. His mother and father divorced when he was a baby and she remarried when he was 5 years old. That's about it. All in all this little one of mine will have lots of aunts and uncles, cousins and grandparents! 3 grandpas, and 3 grandmas! Lots of love.
Between all of us on both sides of the family, we all live within 30 minutes of each other with my stepsisters living the furtherest in Queens. Its great to be so close to all my immediate family.
Here's a picture of my side the whole gang.... one of the only pictures to include all of us without one of us in a wedding dress:
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Re: GTKY: Tell me about your family....
My lovely family....
Mom and Dad have been married forever...well since mom was 18....so like 37 years in Nov.
Brother will be 30 in Sept, single, and does some weird computer stuff for work.
Sister is 32 and has am almost 2 year old little boy, she is a SAHM....her husband is an actuary and knows way too much about numbers
My DH has one younger brother who is getting married in August....I won't be attending because I will be 37 weeks and will not be driving to CT. His parents are divorced. Mom is not remmarried. Dad is to a crazy woman....apparently they are flying us out to visit them in Indy next month....I am sure I will have good stories for you guys from that trip.
Oh...and me...I am 28...DS is 13 months....DH is 28....I am a new SAHM but have a masters in educational leadership and have taught in the inner city for a long time (since 21)....DH is a manager for the best used car dealership in the country....
I think that is all!
My parents are still married, for I think 26 years now. My brother is 20, I am 25, and my sister is 10. My parents adopted her when she was 4 and couldn't imagine our life without her in it:)
My DH's parents got seperated when we were in high school and are now both married. They all have problems. He has one sister who is 21 and he had two brothers that died in a house fire when DH was 9.
My family is kinda the normal one and his is more disfunctional. DH was one of the few in his family to actually graduate high school and we have more then most of his family does or ever will.
DH and I have very similar families. Both of our parents are still married, we are both 26 and we each have a 21-year-old younger sister. Lil man will be the first grandchild on both sides.
We are close with other family, but live in the same small town as my mother's family. She has two sisters who have children ranging from 13-22. That makes me the oldest grandchild and lil man will be the first "great-grandchild." We are all around each other a ton and we haven't had a baby around since the 13 year old! Sometimes I feel sorry for this lil man, my grandmother jokes that she worries his arms and legs might get pulled from them fighting over him. I can't wait until Christmas this year!
ETA: Here's a pic of my mom's family from last week when we all went on vacation together:
My parents only had my older sister and myself. They were divorced when I was twelve. My dad got remarried and I gained a little step sister, who is 18 now, so 7 years younger than me. Recently, my dad and stepmom decided to adopt two kids. Allen turned 12 today and Hope is 14. Their adoption is final August 8th. They are brother and sister. My stepmom is great for the most part.
My mom remarried, but due to previous cancer, her husband never could have his own kids, so I just gained a step dad. I have a very hard time with him. He's verbally abusive to my mom and an alcoholic. I don't hate anyone, but I really don't like him, on most days.
My oldest sister is married to a wonderful man. He has a little boy who is eight. I still haven't met me nephew. =( His mom is a wackadoodle.
My mom and dad have been married for 36 years, and I have one brother, who is 24. He is getting married in a few weeks, and the whole thing is an absolute train wreck. Pretty much his whole life is a train wreck, but I'm trying not to let it bother me anymore, because it's not my problem. My mom and I are best friends, and I'm trying to work on my relationship with my dad. There was a lot of anger and borderline abuse when I was growing up, so I've had to work to get past that. He was pretty abused as a child himself, so I know the cards were stacked against him and he did the best he knew how.
DH's parents were married for 36 years, and are currently in the process of a divorce. His mom left almost 2 years ago, and totally changed into a different person. It's some sort of mid-life crisis or something. The whole thing is sad. I absolutely love my FIL though. He's just a really good man. DH has one brother who is 36 (DH is almost 34). My BIL is married with 3 kids, ages 10, 6, and 1.
We have a pretty traditional family.
Both of our parents are still married. I have one older sister who is married and just had her second child. My DH has one brother, who is single.
We have four great-grandparents for our LO (2 grandmas and a grandpa from my side and one grandma from DH's side).
I'm at work, so I don't have any pictures., but everyone is excited to meet our little girl.
My mom and dad are still married- 35 years this year. I don't think they should still be married though, and they were my role models for what NOT to be in a marriage.
I have a brother and a sister. My brother is 31, and a total free-spirit. He is arrogant and he is a genius. I love him but he drives me NUTS. My sister is 25 and she is the rebel of our family. She has finally found a job she likes and has stayed with it for a year now- her longest relationship ever! Pretty proud of her.
I have a HUGE extended family and grew up in an extended family household. I love my aunts more than I love my mom, and am closer to them. My grandparents on my Dad's side are still with us and a huge part of my life. Everyone's in NJ.
DH's father passed about 12 years ago, and his mom lives near us. His brother also lives near us- he is married to a wicked lady and they have two boys. He also has a sister who is married, in NJ.
Cute pic Pina!
I am the youngest of five. (two sisters, two brothers)
DH is the 2nd youngest of five. (three brothers, one sister)
Our parents families are HUGE. Tons of aunts/uncles/cousins.
I am an identical twin.
I have 6 nieces and nephews on my side.
DH has 5 nieces and nephews on his side.
We have a good friend w/3 kids who we also consider our nieces/nephews.
ETA: My parents have been married for 44 years, and DH's dad passed away when he was little.
My parents are still married and have been for almost 30 years. I am the oldest (will be 29 in July) and I have a sister who is 16 months younger than me (27) and my brother is 6 years younger (going to be 23 in a couple of weeks).
DH's parents are divorced and have been for almost 20 years. Neither have remarried, and they do have somewhat of a good relationship. Actually, I think MIL has a better relationship with his family, but it isn't awkward or odd at all. She still goes to holidays and parties there and is very close to FIL's sisters. DH has an older sister (turning 34 next week). He was born as quintuplets, but only he and 1 other baby survived (his "twin). They are 31. He has 2 younger brothers (one who will be 30 in August and the other is 27).
I like this poll!
My parents have been married happily for 31 years. I'm the oldest of their children at 26, my first brother is 23, engaged, and in his second year of law school, and my second brother is 17 and a junior in high school. My mom swears that my youngest brother was not planned, but my dad thinks that my mom was secretly trying to get pregnant because her sister was at the same time
. We all get along incredibly well - DH is extremely close with my family (luckily, since we currently live with my parents).
DH's parents got a divorce during his freshman year in college when we had just started dating. His dad went through some legal issues (he spent the better part of DH's senior year in high school in a white collar prison) and then had an affair after he left town to find another job. It was really hard on DH - he grew up thinking his parents had a great marriage and no problems and it literally fell to pieces in under a year. I think he's really close to my parents because they took care of him during that time (my mom's parents also divorced when she was the same age, so she related to him pretty well). DH has a younger sister who is 22 and lived with us last year. We are very close. DH's mom remarried this spring and his dad lives across the country, but does try to maintain a close relationship with us. Surprisingly, everyone came to DH's med school graduation last month and got along without fighting.
As an interesting side note, my parents theorize that the marriage that your parents have affects you in one of two ways - either you like it and seek a partner who is like your parents (which I did) or you decide you want the opposite. For example, my mom's dad was unfaithful, so she said she always sought out people who were faithful and so did her sisters - they all have very devoted family-oriented husbands and my dad's parents fought all the time, so he and his brothers all married women who were strong, but not ones who tended to fight a lot. Just an interesting observation
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My parents were married 18 years and had me and my brother who is 17 (10 year age difference). They divorced when I was 15.
Mom's been dating a fabulous guy for 4 years that DH and I absolutely love!
Dad remarried when I was 19 and I have two half sisters who are 6 and 4. They have always been drama and seperated last January. Dad is now onto another new woman who just moved in with him Monday, oh joy. I distance myself from that situation as much as possible.
Both mom and dad's family are nearby. I love mom's side and spend a lot of time with them, we are a super close family. Dad's family is very trashy and I avoid them like the plague.
DH's family is traditional - mom and dad are still married, he's got a younger sister who is 26.
Both sides of DH's family are nearby and we are close with both sides.
We are surrounded by lots and lots of family!!
My parents have been married for 26 years. They had me pretty young (20 and 22) and got married when I was 1 1/2. Before they were married, my grandparents wouldn't let my mom and dad live together (strict Catholic family), so mom and I lived at my grandparents' house for that year and a half. My mom had 4 siblings, so I was in a house full of people, which I think is why I'm so comfortable around people to this day...it really helped with social skills! Once my parents got married my mom and I moved in with my dad.
I have 2 younger brothers who are both single. One is 26 and is an electrician, and one is 25 and in the Coast Guard.
All of my extended family except one of my uncles live within 15 minutes of eachother. Our holidays are crazy because there are soooo many people!
My side of the family is more "normal" in terms of marriage. My parents will be celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary this Christmas. Both of their parents were married for 60+ years prior to deaths. I have 2 younger brothers (27 and 26), both in grad school. The younger has a serious, long-term girlfriend, and we do expect a marriage at some point (maybe after they are both done with grad school.
Just like MrsMVM, DH's parents have been role models of what NOT to do in a marriage (and he often says his father is a role model of what NOT to do as a father). His father has been married and divorced twice (DH and his only sister were a productive of the 1st marriage). He is a man who cannot be in a relationship. DH goes through periods of having a friendship with his father and not. I never know what turns the switch, but just go with the flow. DH's mom has been married 4 times and divorced 3. 1st husband produced no kids; DH and sister were product of 2nd husband; 3rd husband produced no kids. She seems to be happily married to the current husband. Husband #2, as he is FIL is still in the picture, as is Husband #3 because he was DH's step-dad growing up. We do not consider Husband #4 to be a step-dad because they've only been married for 6 years and it was not someone who DH grew up with in that role. Therefore, only Husband #2 gets the honor of being called grandpa. #3 and #4 will just be called by their first name. #3 has no problem with that, we haven't discussed with #4.
DH also has a younger sister who is married and just had a baby 4 weeks ago. Extremely cute, although not as cute as ours will be!
If you followed any of that, congrats!
My parents are married and have been for 26 years. I have an older brother (he's 29) who's married and has no kids, nor any intentions to have kids. I'm 25.
DH's parents had been married for 40 years when his dad passed away very unexpectedly at age 60. DH is 27, and has a sister that is 31. She is married and has no kids, but probably/hopefully will become pregnant soon. So, ours will be the first grandbaby on both sides!
We grew up in neighboring towns, and live in the town DH grew up in as the fourth generation owner/operators of the family dairy farm. It is an unbelievable amount of work, and the most rewarding thing I have ever been a part of.
My parents have been married for almost 45 years. My mother is BSC and my father is a good man. Both have fairly significant health issues.
I have one sister who is ten years older than me (she's 43), who is married to an idiot. She and I are relatively close. We never discuss her husband (she knows how I feel), and they seem to have a good marriage, so more power to her. They have one daughter who is 7.
We live over an hour from all of them.
I am not close to any extended family. I see a few of them at Christmas and funerals and that is it.
DH is an only child. His parents are good people and have been married for about 37 years. His dad is in very poor health and is already senile at age 60, but he is a kind soul. My MIL is working and active and we get along. I wouldn't say that I am close with them though. They live two hours away.
Whoa mama! I followed it all, but that's a whole lotta siblings! What's the final count on them all?
My parents just celebrated their 36th anniversary. Mom was 19 and Dad was 23 when they got married then had me right away. I'm an only child, which I'm pretty happy with most days.
DH's parents are celebrating their 40th anniversary this October. DH has one younger brother who is married and has 2 children. I love my M&FIL. I love B&SIL for the most part, but they're pretty self involved sometimes. It's gotten better over the years but there are times when I just have to roll my eyes at how unreasonable they can be.
DH doesn't have a very large extended family, he only has 3 first cousins and doesn't really see them that often.
I, on the other hand, have a very large extended family. I have 12 first cousins on my mom's side and 3 on my dad's. My mom's family is quite honestly insane. And exasperating. But my mom likes to stay close to them since she's lost two sisters (one to cancer, one to suicide) so I go to the family gatherings and see them pretty often.
That's pretty much it. Then there's just me (35) and DH (34) and a new little girl.
I have a sister who is 7 years older than me and is my BFF, aside from DH. DH and I have been married for 3.5 years and knew we were meant for eachother. We both have 1 sibling in our families, and we both viewed our parents' marriages as something we did not want. As a result, we have figured out our marriage plan and it works amazingly for us and nothing like what we grew up with.
My parents divorced after 41 years together. My dad had an affair and remarried his high school sweetheart. Apparently, I have 2 stepsisters, but we do not acknowledge eachother. My relationship with my father is all but severed as a result of how he handled all aspects of their divorce.
My mom is the happiest she has ever been, dates, and enjoys her new house. My mom, sister, and I are incredibly close. We love to shop and meet up to have coffee, even though my sis and I live an hour away from mom.
DH's parents are still together and live in the same small town as my mom. They do not have a lot in common whatsoever. My FIL is a modern day Grizzly Adams, my MIL is amazing, and my SIL is just a different chic (enough said). DH's family is more normal than mine, and I inherited a great set of grandparents from this marriage.
Good thread... love learning about other families!
I'm 33, DH is 38. Our families could not be more different.
My parents will celebrate their 38th anniversary next week. I've loved seeing them grow closer to each other as time's gone on - they work together, but are "semi-retired" and travel often. Have a younger sister who is 32 and single, so Baby is 1st grandchildren. Mom and Sis are crazy-excited, and it kind of breaks my heart for them that we live on the other side of the country. We're very close, would never think of staying in a hotel when we visit, and would rather have "family game night" than do just about anything else.
DH was born in the states, but the rest of his nuclear family did not. His mom and older brother immigrated, then his dad came over to marry his mom through an arranged marriage. Parents separated about 26 years ago; while they're still legally married, they haven't spoken in at least 10 years, which is how long I've been around. Probably more like 25, though. MIL can be challenging, but it's purely out of love. FIL is kind of done living, and just complains about the evils of society when we see him. He avoids/hides from family members when anyone tries to visit, doesn't have a phone, and doesn't read English. Since DH doesn't write Chinese, I'm not even sure he knows he's going to be a grandfather. That's been really hard on DH, but he has amazing father figures in his brother, who's 15 years older than him, and my father, who he's very close with. BIL has two sons, who are both in their 20s (still not quite adjusted to being called "Aunt Shannon" by a 6'5" man!). The relationship with the in-laws is good, but very different than my family. We may be in their hometown for 4 or 5 days, but stay in a hotel and only see them for a couple hours one night at family dinner. I hope Baby encourages them to make a little more time for us when we visit, but am not convinced. Time will tell.
Here goes.
Mom and Dad got married and had me, They divorced when I was 3. Mom remarreid when I was 4 and I was raised by her and stepdad - stepdad had 2 boys - 2 yrs older than me and 2 weeks younger than me. Dad got remarreid when I was 6 but got divorced when I was 9. Then got married to wife #4 when I was 11 - I got a stepbrother - 6 yrs older than me and a stepsister 10 yrs older.
Happy dysfunctional families. Fast forward to 2 years ago. My dad and stepmom were killed in a car accident, due to financial issues my step siblings from her no longer speak to me... oh well.
Last October my stepdad died 17 days after being diagnosed with cancer pertty much everywhere. So I went from 2 dads to 0 dads in a 1.5 yr period. My mom has turned pretty cray cray ever since she retired 10 years ago, so I pretty much don't have a lot of family.
Now DH on the other hand has a pretty normal family. ILs married 48 yrs. He has a sister 4 yrs younger than him and she has 2 kids.
My family is pretty normal:
Parents have been married for 42 years.
I have 2 older sisters and a younger brother, ages 41, 37, and 27. I am 29.
Both older sisters are married with children - two nephews from oldest sister 13 and 11, two nieces from 2nd sister, twins who are 7. Brother is engaged and has a baby boy with his fiance who will be 1 in September. They are getting married next year.
I am 29, married to DH who is also 29, and this is our first.
DH's family is not as normal...this part can get kinda sketchy:
His mom passed away when he was in 9th grade and his dad remarried shortly thereafter. DH has one older half-brother who has a different dad, but DH's dad adopted him as his own so he just calls him his brother. So brother had 2 kids with this girl, so DH has a niece and nephew on that side too. Then, this girl's mom met DH's dad, and they ended up getting married shortly after DH's mom died. The brother and that girl never got married and broke up and he's no longer in the picture. The weird part is that the kids technically only have one set of grandparents since that girls dad is nowhere in the picture either. And DH's step-sister also would have been his sister-in-law had they gotten married. Sounds like some crazy inbred stuff, right?
ETA: All of my family lives within 10 miles of us and I see them at least weekly. DH's dad and stepmom live about 15 miles away, and we see them maybe 2-3 times a year.
My parents divorced when I was a little over a year old. My dad raised my brother and I. My mom remarried right away, and is still married to that man. They have no children together. My dad remarried when I was 8, and she was a horrible woman. Very abusive. They divorced when I was 15 or so, and he remarried in 2004. I love this woman! She's awesome.
Anyhow, my brother is a couple years older. He is married, and they have one son together.
My DH's parents have been married for 35 years. DH has one sister, who's older, and she has one daughter. DH's family is interesting in that many family members live together. It's his parents, sister, niece, aunt, and grandpa. Plus us, but that was temporary and we are moving in less than 2 weeks. It's a multi-generational household and it seems to work for them. It drives me batty, though.
Our entire family lives pretty close. One of my grandmothers lives in Arizona but everybody else is within the state we live in.
My mom is pretty sick with cancer right now and I'm really unsure how long I will have her in my life. But I treasure every moment.
Let's see if it will actually post this time...
I am an only child. My parents divorced when I was a baby. My mom remarried when I was 5, so my step-dad is a true dad to me, as is my real dad. Both are pictured with me walking down the aisle at my wedding. My dad is gay and has a great partner who he's been with for probably 8 or so years.
Here is the break down of sides from there:
Mom's family - 2 grandparents (married 50 years), 1 uncle, 2 cousins - ages 8 and 12.
Dad's family- My grandmother, my step-grandpa, an Aunt, and Uncle (deceased). 2 cousins, ages 32 and 30. The 34 year old has 2 kids, ages 14 or 15, and 9 (I think). The 30 year old has 1 child, age 1. She will be a good playmate for my LO! Both of them are married. I have step-aunts/uncles and cousins via my step-grandpa on this side, but we really don't do anything with them.
Step-Dad's Family - 1 Grandmother, 2 Aunts (and their husbands), 1 cousin, age 10. The one aunt, her husband, and her son all live in California, so we see them once a year if we're lucky.
On my mom's side I'm the oldest of all the grandchildren, on my dad's side I'm the youngest. I'm 28.
DH's parents have been married for over 30 years. He has an older brother, 30, who still lives with his parents, and a younger sister 24, who is married and just moved out of her parents house a few months ago. She and her DH are both still in school. DH has one Grandmother left and she also lives with his parents. He also has an Aunt, Step-Uncle, and Cousin. His cousin is 23 and in grad-school. They aren't super close.
This is the first grand-child for both sides. First great-grandchild for my mom's side, step-dad's side, and DH's side. She is already incredibly loved.
With the exception of the one Aunt, everyone lives in GA. DH's Aunt and her family all live about 4-5 hours away. My Dad's parents and sister live about 1.5-2 hours away. And everyone else is less than an hour from us. Most of them being like 20-30 minutes, so we're all pretty close together!
my fam
1 brother, 4 years younger. 3 cousins, all male, 2 older than me and 1 younger, not close with any of them. parents have been married for 25 years.
DH's fam
1 brother, 16 months older. tons and tons of cousins/second cousins/etc. and huge family network that we're really close with. parents have been married for 28 years. his brother + wife had a baby 9 months after DS was born.
DS was the first grandchild on both sides, then my niece was born 9 months later. I am due when she will be 9 months, oddly enough. I don't anticipate my brother having kids, or at least not for a loooong long time. BIL and SIL will probably have at least one more, if not a few.
My family is not very normal and completely different from DH's. Let's see, my parents are divorced, they separated when I was 10, got back together and had my brother. He and I are 12 years apart. When I was in college, my parents divorced, I moved out and really don't have a relationship with either. I see them on a weekly basis, but it more to pick up/drop off my brother because he lives with DH and me.
My mom remarried, I dont refer to him as my step dad. He has 3 spoiled, wicked horrendous, manipulative kids. I try not to pay much attention to them. They treat my mom's DH and my mom like crraaap. Dad remarried too. Yet to meet her, but my brother loves her.
DH's parents are still married. MIL is the sweetest woman I know and FIL is a nice man. He has one sister, also very sweet, and she has a toddler.
Well played, LaComtesse. Well played indeed. You win two internets!
Geez, I thought my brain was shot-to-sh_t, but apparently its not - because I followed the whole thing too! Go me. :-) Michelle, you have a HUGE family... good heavens!
YAY!
I assume my internets are either kitten or porn based (since that seems to be the majority of what's on the internet...)?
HA! Love it!
i am like the 85 year old grandpa when it comes to uploading pictures. sigh. as for my family...
grew up in a fairly idyllic suburban life....two great parents and a younger brother (he's now 29 - I'm 32) my mom and i are super close and i miss my dad a lot - he passed away from pancreatic cancer two years ago.
dh came from a fairly different background. his parents were divorced when he was 3 and his dad has been married 5 times since (and once before). His last wife was younger than me. awesome. i like his dad a lot, just very different than mine, for certain. his mom never remarried, but we both kind of wish that she would. ;-)
I have one sister who is 34 and lives on the other side of the country with her husband and their two sons. Our parents live right between us in the midwest. They've been married for 40 years and about 5 years ago bought a downtown condo which they love. (especially the heated garage and no yardwork!)
My mom's sister used to be very good friends with my dad's brother. It resulted in "one big happy family", meaning my mom's nieces and nephews are very close with my dad's nieces and nephews, so we all are "cousins", even those who are not directly blood related. For family events and holidays, both sides of my family all get together. I have 8 cousins, two who are married. We had a big family reunion with both sides last summer and it was so much fun.
DH is an only child. His parents also live in the midwest. His dad is very close with his two brothers (DH's uncles) and so that whole side of the family is very close. Between them, the uncles have 3 daughters, one of who is married. The oldest is 7 years younger than my DH, and my DH has sort of become a 3rd brother to his uncles.
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Here is the amended version:
Parents divorced when I was 8, Dad is a double PHD and Mom a teacher. Dad had an affair and left my Mom for his girlfriend.
My Mom has a nervous breakdown and moves us, threatening my Dad to not try to see us.
Mom becomes an alcoholic, Dad gives up on trying to see us and adopts 2 new kids and my brother (2 years older) has a breakdown and becomes very abusive. He later becomes schizophrenic and refuses all treatments and drifts in and out of jail and mental hospitals.
I start to raise myself, my Mom get's worse and becomes mentally ill. Should would be classified as a sociopath and hides us from family/friends- sits us down at nights to tell us to keep her secret (of abusing us and drinking) and tells us horrible things about ourselves to make sure we don't spill the beans.
At 12 things are worse, checking my mom's pulse many mornings to see if she is alive and I have to lock my door at night to feel safe- at 13 my Mom decides that it will be easier without me, locks me out and I become homeless. Too scared to tell on her and convinced that no one would believe me anyways I decide to just make my own way.
I lived outside, in parks, with friends and eventually hitch hiked the country and pretended to be old enough to get job in resort towns. Kept on with that gypsy lifestyle and went through Arizona and California alone to study meditation and medicine from some Native American groups.
Eventually I got my act together, back in Canada and worked my ass off to finish school, get a job and eventually open my own business.
I have no contact with my family except for occasional emails from 2 aunts. Sometimes it sucks, but I haven't really known much else. I hope to give this little one so much more and DH has quite a big ( and wonderful) family- but they are on the other side of the country.
My mom and dad got married because mom got pregnant with me. They stayed together for 11 years until mom met back up with her high school best friend. I guess she ended up falling in love with her and they got together when I was 11, then mom and dad divorced.
Mom and step mom have been together for 10 years. Dad is not remarried. I am an only child and have a good relationship with all my parents, more so my dad though.
Husband was adopted at age 2 by family friends. He knows his birth mom, I haven't met her yet. His mom and dad have been married for something like 40+ years. His parents are quite older, his mom is 69 and his dad is 65 or something.
He has an older sister by his adopted mom and some siblings by his birth mom. I'm not positive how many from her. His sister is 45, same age as my mom.
Husband is 27 and he has two boys from his first marriage. I am 21 and this is my first baby. We have been married for 6 months.
Let's see... My mom has me when she was 18. My biological father was 20 and was horribly abusive and an angry drunk. It got so bad that when she was 7 months pregnant with me, he and two friends jumped her in the middle of the street because he decided he didn't want to deal with a baby. She finally left him when I was around 4 or 5 after much more abuse and cheating and I haven't had much contact with him since.
When I was 10, my mom had my sister with a man that was pretty much exactly like my own father. She tried to leave him, but became pregnant by him a few month after my sister's birth. So now I have a 10 and a 9 year old sister. During their entire short little lives, my mother and their father have had a complete on/off relationship based on abuse, drugs, and alcohol. Thankfully, she finally left him for good two years ago but he currently has custody of them.
Then as I recently found out, my father has a few other kids, two of which have been trying to keep contact with me. He has all girls with me being the oldest at 20 years old. The two that have contacted me are both by two different women and one is 19 years old and the other is 18. He has another girl with yet another woman (I don't know anything at all about her, no name or age or anything) and that he legally adopted that woman's two children (another girl and a boy). They are now divorced and my father is trying to marry yet another different woman (she has her own kids, three boys and she is a year older than my fiance).
He is now trying to make amends with all of his daughters. The others seem so young an naive and are thrilled by the thought of having their dad back in their lives. I'm not buying it and he's been trying extra hard to prove to me he's changed. He's even trying to help out with things for the baby. But up until we found out we were having a boy, I've heard from him twice since I was 5 and have only seen him once (we went out to breakfast to catch up' a couple months ago).
Now for FI's family! He has two siblings, all three have different fathers. He has an older sister (I think she's 31 or close to that) and a younger brother (who just turned 16). He's the middle child at age 27. His sister and her father are close, and since their mother passed away, his brother lives with his own father. FI never met his father (his mother claimed she cheated on her husband at the time with her drug dealer. She didn't even know what race he was, just that he 'looked Mexican or middle Eastern").
My Dad was married and divorced young and brought me 2 stepbrothers out of that relationship. (16 & 14 yrs older then me)
My Mom was in a long ongoing relationship that ended with him going to jail for drugs and she came out of it with my stepsister (9 yrs older then me)
My Mom and Dad got together when my Older sister was 2 and have been together ever since. They BARELY got married in 2007 which was the same year that my older sister and I both got married.
Together my parents had 4 children. Their first born was a boy and he was still born. Then there was me followed by my 2 younger sisters.
DH's parents started out really young and are still together. Dh has 4 brothers and a sister. His siblings together have a total of 4 girls and a new Lo on the way.
My side of the family, I have 10 nieces and nephews and then of course we have our 3 boys together, DD on the way and I have a SS whom I adore.
Perfection