I am afraid, has this happened to you?

fadedfiefly · June 2011

Hello, I am a mother of twenty-one month old twin boys and I think or thought we ere expection our next child but here is the deal I have been spotting on and off for a few weeks and was told by the nurseline to go to urgent care at that point they said I had a UTI and prescribed antibiotics. Things seemed to improve with light spotting here and there. Yesterday I got home and went tot he bathroom and instead of just spotting when wiping like before I actually had blood dripping int he toilet, like the beginnings of a period so I went to the ER. They did blood work and my hormone levels were exactly where they should be somewhere around 10 weeks, but my ultrasound (internal and external) showed a 6 week size baby. They told me to take it easy contact my doctor etc... The doctor says since my hormone levels are normal that we do know that the baby just didn't stop growing at six weeks. They also could not find a hearbeat but I guess thats normal sometimes. I never had any spotting but once very light when I was pregant with the twins. I now that people here are not medical professionals but I get the feeling im headed for disaster. Has this happened to anyone else? How can the baby be 4 weeks smaller than it should be. They were talking bedrest last night but my job is just sitting at a desk all day. I'm feeling very depressed and confused, I don't even have my first OB apointment until NEXT Thursday.

ShellBear+ · June 2011

This board is for women who have had confirmed miscarriages so this post may not be received very well. It is not a place to ask if you are having a m/c. That being said, if indeed your dates are correct then it is a bad sign that it is measuring only 6 weeks and no h/b. I saw the same thing at my first u/s and I was supposed to be about 9 weeks. The doctor wanted to wait a week and do another u/s to confirm m/c. You can either call and try to get in earlier with your doctor or go next week. I know its not easy not knowing but nature will take it course either way. Good luck to you.

sweepie412 · June 2011

I am sorry that you are going through a hard time, but this is a board for women who have had confirmed losses. You should delete this and repost on another board.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/54859092.aspx

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

I am sorry you are going through this.

Unfortunately any woman on here who would respond has lost a baby or babies in the process so there won't be any happy endings to our stories.

This board is not exactly the place to ask if you are having a miscarriage. Try Pregnant after a Loss or Success after a loss, but honestly most people who have had losses don't know what to say to these kinds of questions. As you said, "we are not medical professionals".

It is a tough spot to be in and I sympathize, but until you have an answer from your doctor next Thursday, this board is probably not the right place for you. This board is to support women who have definitely lost babies.

MrsJC · June 2011

I am not going to flame you for this post because while it is incredibly inappropriate for this board (see Cowgirl's post below that says "read this before posting"), I do think there is something very wrong with your pregnancy. Now, I am not a doctor, so take what I say with a grain of salt, but if I were you I would be pressing my doctor for a reason why the baby is measuring 4 weeks behind. That is just not normal. Also, by ten weeks, you should be able to see a heartbeat on the vaginal ultrasound (actually, you should see this around 6 1/2 weeks). And just because your hormone levels are in the "normal" range does not mean your baby is healthy. Often, with a missed m/c, your hormone levels keep increasing because your body has not yet realized that the baby died.

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

PetraStonegirl:
I've got to step in here. I know that we say over and over that this isn't the board to come to if you don't know if you are having a m/c or not. I agree with that.
But I ask, is there anyone here who read her story and actually thinks it will end well? This isn't a 'oh noes, I spotted so I must be losing my bebe' that we try to protect grieving mothers from. She could turn to is 1st tri, and they are so intrenched in puppies and rainbows that they'd flame her for bringing them down. She could ask PGAL, but no one there is going blow P&R up her butt to try and make her feel better. She's in a shitty situation.
OP, I am so sorry that you are going through this. If I were in your shoes (and I've been in them before), I would get on the phone with your OBs office and explain what is going on. They need to run a "repeat quantitative HCG" level to determine if your beta HCG is doubling or going down. I want to be hopeful for you, but it doesn't look good. Don't accept them putting you off until your appointment. Your second blood draw should be 48 hours after your first one. That being said and to answer your implied question, HCG at 10 week levels and u/s measuring at 6 weeks is bad.

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mchisolm · June 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope everything turns out all right in the end. I also have a feeling that your post may not be received well by some of the ladies on here as many are going through very traumatic losses and there is still that flicker of hope that your pregnancy will be ok...as you're already in an (understandably) depressed and confused state, I'd really recommend you move this to another board before you get flamed by others (who would also understandably be stung to read that the doctor feels that you could still have a H&H pregnancy).

That being said...I do agree with PP...it is never a good sign when your baby is measuring 4 weeks behind. It's good that your hormones are still high, but mine were as well, even in the days following my natural m/c. There may be a medical reason the baby is measuring so far behind but I would INSIST that the doctor's discuss some of these reasons with you rather than just telling you to take it easy.

I do hope everything turns out ok for you. Best of luck...

sweepie412 · June 2011

PetraStonegirl:
I've got to step in here. I know that we say over and over that this isn't the board to come to if you don't know if you are having a m/c or not. I agree with that.
But I ask, is there anyone here who read her story and actually thinks it will end well? This isn't a 'oh noes, I spotted so I must be losing my bebe' that we try to protect grieving mothers from. She could turn to is 1st tri, and they are so intrenched in puppies and rainbows that they'd flame her for bringing them down. She could ask PGAL, but no one there is going blow P&R up her butt to try and make her feel better. She's in a shitty situation.
OP, I am so sorry that you are going through this. If I were in your shoes (and I've been in them before), I would get on the phone with your OBs office and explain what is going on. They need to run a "repeat quantitative HCG" level to determine if your beta HCG is doubling or going down. I want to be hopeful for you, but it doesn't look good. Don't accept them putting you off until your appointment. Your second blood draw should be 48 hours after your first one. That being said and to answer your implied question, HCG at 10 week levels and u/s measuring at 6 weeks is bad.

I do agree with you completely and I do think that posters including myself (although I was brief) did not flame this post, just asked that she seek advice elsewhere for the time being.

OP I do wish you all the best, and I do hope that you never find yourself on this board. In the sad event that you do, please know that we will all be here to support you.

RovinChick · June 2011

Sorry you're going through this. My understanding is that you should be able to see a heartbeat at 6 weeks (I was being closely monitored and saw hb at 5wk6d). Hormone levels can vary greatly once you're past the first few weeks, so it's hard to believe they know it's right on track for a 10 week pregnancy. However, in the case of a missed miscarriage, the fetus can stop developing, while the placenta continues to grow and produce hormones, which can explain an unfortunate difference in known gestational age and measurement.

pinkcallalily · June 2011

PetraStonegirl:

But I ask, is there anyone here who read her story and actually thinks it will end well? This isn't a 'oh noes, I spotted so I must be losing my bebe' that we try to protect grieving mothers from. She could turn to is 1st tri, and they are so intrenched in puppies and rainbows that they'd flame her for bringing them down. She could ask PGAL, but no one there is going blow P&R up her butt to try and make her feel better. She's in a shitty situation.

I do agree with this and I haven't responded to this post until now because my response wouldn't be hopeful. My baby was measuring 2 weeks behind (7 weeks when it should have been 9 weeks) and my doctors gave me hope because there was a heartbeat. I didn't believe them at first but after another ultrsound at 10 weeks I actually started to believe it could be ok. We found out at 12 weeks that our baby had severe abnormalities (which is what caused the slow growth) and didn't actually lose her until almost 16 weeks.

I honestly don't believe this will turn out well as much as I hate to say it. Unless there is some way your dates are off by that far then this seems like a bad situation. If this doesn't turn out well, I truly hope that it ends sooner rather than later for you. It's very hard to have a loss stretched out over several weeks or months.

I also understand not really knowing where to post. I posted once here after we found out our baby would die, but before she actually had. Everyone that responded was very nice, but later that day or the next day I saw complaints about people posting here while there baby was still alive even if it wasn't going to make it. I don't know if they were about me, but it kept me away until my baby had actually died. It's not an easy situation to be in and I totally feel for you.

blm432 · June 2011

I also agree with pp. This is almost exactly what happened to me except we knew that the baby wasn't growing right and were going for weekly us. I also posted on here a little prematurely because I knew what was happening we just had to wait on it to stop growing to do anything. It never developed a hb but I was 10 4/7 before they called it. While I appreciate the doctor being cautious in diagnosing a m/c I know that lonely desperate feeling of having no where to turn. I too was told to post somewhere else , call your doctor etc. That felt like a slap in the face. I didn't have doubts about whether not I was having a m/c I knew I was. I hate that you are going through this. Don't let anyone scare you away. You will need some support and I know there are several of us on here who will be happy to talk to you about it. My baby also measured 6 weeks at 10 weeks with no hb.

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