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February 2012 Moms
icajesica82
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First reactions, so frustrating....vent
icajesica82
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Fiance called his mom today to tell her we are expecting. First thing she says to him.....I'm disappointed. Why is she disappointed you ask, because we are not married yet. We are getting married in 6 weeks. I was so angry she would say that. Her son calls and tells her that he is going to be a dad for the first time and her first statement is not congratulations, its I'm disappointed. Even though she called back to apologize (after talking to me) that is the first thing she said to her son when he said he was going to be a dad.
I was going to *** her out when I talked to her but he asked me to be calm. So I waited to hear what she said. She sounded more happy when she talked to me so I stated that we were really excited as is everyone we have told. She needed to call him back and apologize because he is disappointed that his mom said she was disappointed that her first born son was going to be a father. UGH!!!!!!!!!
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Re: First reactions, so frustrating....vent
Sounds kind of like my MIL's reaction too---H told his parents yesterday, and when he told his mom, she said..."and?" Needless to say, I was bummed.
Sorry you had to go through this---so frustrating and heart breaking!
Yikes, that was pretty harsh of his mom. I'm glad she called back and was able to make some amends. I'm so sorry it wasn't a reaction you were hoping for.
I'm secretly worried about the reaction I will get from some of my family since FI and I are only in the 'engaged' stage without having planned a wedding yet.
Mocky Road
That is a pretty awful thing to say. Marriage has nothing to do with being good parents. At least she apologized, but I would still be very upset as well. When I called my mother to tell her I was pregnant the first time around, she said, "Oh no...well, you know you can always go have a little operation and fix it." I'm pro-choice, but I was pretty stunned that she would say that to me. Apparently she was basing her response on the fact that when I was thirteen or fourteen years old, I told her that I never wanted to get married or have kids.
My dad was thankfully happy, but at one point said, "Well, at least you didn't do like most girls and waited until you got married. Har har." I'd gotten pregnant on my honeymoon. My cousin, who had her daughter at 18 and is a wonderful mother, was in the room with my dad when he said that.