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Anyone else far from family?

MackalackMackalack member
in February 2012 Moms

So DH and I live in CO.  My family is in VA, his is in MD.  We're lucky in the fact that my parents were out here when we got our BFP (I actually showed my mom the test... she looked at it and went "oh shiiit" - they weren't expecting it until this fall) and DH's mom and stepdad will be out here next week so we're able to tell them in person and not have to wait too long.

But we've been a bit concerned about how things will be once we get further into the pregnancy and don't have our family around physically to support us.  So I was wondering if any of you 2nd/3rd/4th timers have been in this situation and have any words of advice for us!

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Re: Anyone else far from family?

  • aglennaglenn member

    Yes!  We are in the Seattle area and both of our families are on the east coast (mine in TN, DH's in NY).  We had actually only been living out here for 6 mths when I got my BFP with DD, and my parents happened to be visiting at the time so we told them right away.  This time around we're trying to wait until after 1st tri to tell everyone.  But anyway, yes, it is hard at times; not so much the pregnancy part for me as the baby/toddler stage.  A lot of my friends have family around to help out and we just don't.  But you figure it out, and Skype is a wonderful thing.  I also have a good friend out here who was pregnant the same time I was with DD, and we are on the same timeline again with #2, so that is fun. 

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  • lesleyn21lesleyn21 member

    My husband is military so our whole family is far.. we have his family in Ohio and mine in Colorado and California. We dont know how we want to do it, have them ome and hopefully be here for the birth or come right after or have my family try and come for the birth and his right after... good thing I have 8 months do figure it out!

     

     

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  • KaleighMKaleighM member
    We just moved to CO almost 7 months ago and all our family is in CA.  This is our first and I'm really nervous about not having any family support. Especially not being near my Mom since we have always been really close.  We will see how this works out.  My mom's bday is Feb 8 and my due date is Feb 9 so hopefully we can have her come out for a birthday trip and be here for the delivery.  It's hard being so far away from family!
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  • anardianardi

    My parents and MIL,live in SC and FL. We have my FIL here but let me say, we do it ourselves. You figure it out. My mom did come stay with us for a month to help and that was really nice and very helpful.

    There are times we totally wish we had someone to watch him so we could just run errands but after awhile you get so used to doing it yourself it just becomes 2nd nature. You will create a routine and it will work.

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  • MackalackMackalack member
    imageanardi:

    My parents and MIL,live in SC and FL. We have my FIL here but let me say, we do it ourselves. You figure it out. My mom did come stay with us for a month to help and that was really nice and very helpful.

    There are times we totally wish we had someone to watch him so we could just run errands but after awhile you get so used to doing it yourself it just becomes 2nd nature. You will create a routine and it will work.

    Thanks - I know we will.  It's just a bit overwhelming sometimes to think about doing this with just us two.   We tried all we could last summer to get closer but it didn't work out that way, and we weren't going to put off children because of distance.

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  • tickled_pickletickled_pickle
    Yeah, my parents are in another country. It's hard sometimes, mostly just because I miss them - but we get by. MY ILs live close and they do help out when we need them, but they aren't my favourite people so I avoid asking at all costs. You will manage, though, challenging as it may be. It's an adjustment, but it would be either way. And you get used to it. Smile
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  • mamaofboysmamaofboys

    Both my parents and DH's parents live abroad (he is from England) so our kids have never been around family (all my siblings live 17+ hours away).  We are fortunate to have close friends locally that have become "family". Skype is wonderful to be able to chat and have video so the kids can see grandparents, cousins, etc and vice versa. I never needed much physical help (you body is made for this) but skype and phone calls were wonderful.

    When I gave birth, DH had a week (maybe 2, I forget) off so he did lots of the home stuff so I could recover. My parents came a week later so my Mom helped. Our church brought meals every night for 2 weeks so that was wonderful but I know a lot of moms prepare for recovery while they are toward the end of the pregnancy.

    After that fortunately baby sleeps a lot so eventually you figure out how to do things with a new baby. Its a learn as you go but you can do it!! 

     

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