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July 2011 Moms
Hunter22
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Are there any physical traits that you are hoping NOT to pass on to your DC?
Hunter22
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Admittedly, this may sound like a pretty vain question. I never wanted a little girl and everyone always thought it was because I just favored boys or wasn't into girlie little things. The truth is I was petrified that I would pass on to her a few physical traits that made my life a living hell in middle and high school and didn't want to watch my child suffer like that. Now that I am pregnant with twin girls everyone laughs at the irony but I am just even more concerned than ever and even feeling guilty over it.
So background - I had very large breasts in proportion to my body. I was a 32D by 7/8th grades and in high school ballooned up to about G cup but I never bought correct sized bras because I was so embarrassed that a DDD didn't fit and couldn't find anything larger. I was not a big girl by any means, 5'7" and a size 2 or 4. My sisters and cousins also had bigger chests (I think it was from my grandmother) but the most they were a D. I was a freak. I was teased mercilessly in high school. I was an athlete and when we would go running around the track the boys would yell about me giving myself black eyes, they would try to grab my boobs in the hall, I would dress in baggy clothes to hide my body and would starve myself thinking that you are supposed to lose weight in your breasts first...it was horrible. Finally in the summer going into my senior year my mother brought me to a plastic surgeon which she could not afford but she saw how much pain I was in. Insurance ended up covering the cost of the reduction and they took a pound and three quarters off each breast. It took a really long time for my self esteem to recover but I am so grateful for my mom doing something about it.
I know there is a good chance that the girls are going to be fine and hopefully get whatever breast gene from my husbands family (or heck, my mom who is an A cup!) but I am still concerned. Maybe it is shallow, but it was a really rough time for me and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. So this made me wonder, is anyone else afraid of passing on something maybe they don't like to their children?
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Re: Are there any physical traits that you are hoping NOT to pass on to your DC?
My nose!
And.....should this be a girl (which I doubt it is....), I am totally with you: I do not want her to have my family's large breasts. There are large breasts on both my mom and dad's size. I was in a regular, underwire bra by 4th grade, I never got to wear cute tank tops without a bra or those cute bikinis. And, I had a lot of back problems.
On my list of things to get when we become rich is a breast reduction
My nose. I hated my bump back in middle/high school. Now my face has kind of grown into it and I couldn't imagine getting a nose job...but that being said, hopefully DD gets DH's straight nose or my sister's little cute bump instead of my large one!
ETA: I should have actually said DH's straight nose gene...it's got a bump too since he broke it in middle school! But at least he's got the good gene lol.
I pray so hard my girls don't get my PCOS (which is heritability...ugh.). But at least I know i have it, so I call tell their doctors right away when they come to adolescence.
Besides that, I hope they don't get my crummy eyesight.
I love my boobs so I hope they get those.
ETA - oops, I just read "physical trait" - I guess PCOS isn't really a physical problem, but it can be for some women.
After 2 years, Injects, PCOS diagnosis and 2 IUI's, we were blessed with our beautiful twin girls!
Baby Girl #3!
I really hope if I have a girl (team green) she doesn't have wide feet like me. No cute heels or anything for me, my feet are too uncomfortable.
I am also 5'9 so a little shorter, maybe 5'6ish? So she doesnt feel she is towering over anyone.
And last but not least, hopefully they will not get my eyesight. I didn't start wearing glasses/contacts til high school, but I really wish I didn't have to. DH has perfect eyesight and never wore braces..so I hope baby inherits his good genes.
DH and I always joke that if our baby gets all our least favorite genes, they will:
-be pasty pale (this is pretty much inevitable between the two of us)
-have terrible eyesight (I have contacts, DH glasses)
-have scoliosis (a contribution from my side of the family)
-have terrible teeth (we both wore braces for 2-3 years)
-have awful feet (bunions run in my family...sexy, right?)
Poor kiddo. lol. I know he/she will manage (especially since I had all of those things against me growing up).
At least the chance of red hair is in our favor...I'm definitely rooting for that!!
Me: 36 DH: 41
I come from a long line of short and round people and its a constant struggle to stay in shape...DH is very tall, muscular and in fantastic shape (He's 37 too...which is good...almost every guy is in good shape in their 20s...but if they hang onto it during their late 30s I'd say thats a very good sign!)
Even the women on his side of the family are very athletic and slender. So I'm hoping this LO and all future children get those physical traits...but not their noses....please not their noses.
I hope she doesn't get my nose...as DH calls it a 'whiskey nose' because it kind of has a bulb on the end of it. Unfortunately in the 3d pic it looked just like my nose!
I also felt super awkward growing up and never thought any of my characteristics were 'good' enough, but now I am comfortable in my own skin. So I hope if she does end up with more of my traits that I can help it be a smoother transition for her in middle school/high school.
Thats not vain at all, trust me, I have BTDT. I am also well endowed and from a long line of well endowed ladies. To top it off, so are the ladies in my husbands family. I am terrified of what my littler girl might end up with!! Maybe it will be ok though, so far, my SD who is almost 9, doesn't seem to have the boob gene from DH's family, so maybe we will get lucky. I know buy her age I had already passed the training bra and was on to a real one.
I do have one that is probably vain....I have naturally curly hair and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I hate it, always have. It is a family curse though and I know my little girl will have it.
Oh no, I hear you on that one! If it wasn't for my flat iron I would die. If the poor things end up with my lion's mane I will show them early on how to work with it. I also will introduce them to waxing which I feel as though my mother did not do soon enough with me lol!
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
I hope Lucas doesn't get his father's family's horrible teeth issues (they are all seriously cavity prone and have periodontal disease- even DH has a ton of cavities atm). I hope he doesn't get my family's short stature, even my dad is pretty short, and I'm only 5' myself.
This is hilarious because my husband and I have the exact same joke and our list is nearly identical to yours!!! We always say if she got the worst of everything she would:
Be basically see-through (what we call pale, and is also pretty inevitable for us)
Have bad eyesight
Have bad teeth and need braces like we both did
Have my thin hair and squishy belly
Have ugly feet. No bunions here, just unattractive feet on both of us!
Thankfully we ALSO have a chance for red hair from my husband which I am also hoping for a little. It's even the straight kind. Not that I'm against curls, but I wouldn't know at all what to do with them!
Not a lot of physical traits I'm worried about, but definitely concerned about passing on my anxiety. I didn't think I wanted a girl, but since we've found out that's (probably) who's in there, I'm excited. All except for the possibility that she'll inherit the anxiety that plagues the women in my family. My great-grandma, my mom and me. Although, my brother struggles with it too, so I guess not all men and boys are exempt?
Hopefully there is some nature vs nurture here too and LO can pick up some of her daddy's laid back skills.
ETA: ooo, I thought of one. I hope baby has daddy's coloring and isn't as pasty pale as me! I can get burned just looking at the sun.
Completely agree yet I was 5'4" with DDD breasts in highschool. I was teased and called G's and Kirsten with (awkward hand motion infront of chest to mean large breasts) and other ugly names. I felt all the boys wanted to talk to me for my breasts ugh it wasn't until JR year when I started to accept that they were large and it wasn't changing. I never got surgery or anything I just wouldn't date anyone who was mainly focused on my body especially measuring 36 28 36. So hopefully my daughter will just be propotionate with her height and not have to worry about this.
I also hope she doesn't have my DH feet ... I love him but ugh his feet aren't really pretty lol. this he's knows...