1 day period+BFP= m/c

buckeyebaby814 · June 2011

I thought I had my period last Friday (which was typical for me starting @9dpo.) After minor spotting I took an HPT Sunday and got a BFP. Went for betas yesterday morning (55), then by last night I was cramping, had a horrible backache and was bleeding heavily (with clots.) While my m/c hasn't been confirmed with betas (I go back tomorrow,) I can't go on pretending this is a viable pregnancy.

I am so frustrated and upset right now. I have been trying to tell my OBGYN that my LPs are too short and she kept blowing it off (saying since my cycle was 28 days long that I am actually ok- what?!) then suggested clomid out of nowhere. I am mad because while we will not know the exact cause of this m/c, I suspect that the reason I haven't had a viable pregnancy is because of my short LPs.

The only thing I could do last night was research new OBGYNs to keep my mind off of what was really going on. Which, I did find one-near me- that encourages charting so they can better help you- while my current doctor wants me to STOP charting?!

I am still kind of numb right now, hasn't completely sunk in. My DH on the other hand, is extremely upset. My two SILs are pregnant (his sister and his brother's wife) and we all would have been due 3 weeks apart from each other.

ECHC829 · June 2011

I'm so so sorry Buckeye

I definitely think you switch doctors, I hope the new one finds a resolution and you get a sticky healthy baby ASAP!

tiffany119 · June 2011

Oh, honey! I am so sorry. HUGS

Missa_g · June 2011

I am so sorry! I think a new doctor is a wonderful idea. I hope you are able to get some answers soon.

Zilly13 · June 2011

I'm so, so sorry. I hope you are able to find a doctor who supports you.

mfpickle25 · June 2011

I am so sorry. Please switch doctors ASAP. They should listen to your concerns and help find a resolution.

champ579 · June 2011

That stinks, I agree with PPs, try a new doctor that takes the time to listen.

meeko1985 · June 2011

Oh buckeye, I am so sorry for your loss. As I read this, the first thing I thought is you have got to find a new OBGYN! Your current OB does not seem very proactive.... I am sending very positive thoughts your way and I hope you can find a great dr!

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

I am so very sorry.

You are right though, you don't know anything for sure until betas make a decreasing pattern.

Time to get a new OBGYN without a doubt. Your doctor should LISTEN to your concerns. They work for YOU. Maybe starting fresh with a new doctor will help you in this journey. I am so sorry.

I just wanted to let you know that I had the EXACT same thing last week. A one day period, followed by tripling betas, followed by falling betas I also have a pregnant SIL, cousin, and dear friend where we would have been due within the same month with my first pregnancy. Do I smell a TTC-AL BFF-ship brewing?!?!?!?

crystalknpp · June 2011

I am so sorry for your loss! (HUGS) I definitely think you should change Drs. I had to go to a couple before I found one who was actually willing to do testing and anything else I needed to get answers!

jerryliljess · June 2011

((BIG SQUISHY HUGS)) I'm so sorry, hun! I think it's a very good decision that you are switching OB's.

Tapatio · June 2011

Oh hon, I'm so sorry ((huge hugs)). I'm so pissed that your OBGYN is just blowing you off! I think you're making the right move by looking for a new one. You need a doc that's going to listen to your concerns and not just dismiss you.

ClaraEarlene · June 2011

I'm so sorry. I agree with the PPs--a new OBGYN is a great idea, one that will listen to your concerns. I hope you're able to get some answers.

buckeyebaby814 · June 2011

hopefulmom81:
I am so very sorry.
You are right though, you don't know anything for sure until betas make a decreasing pattern.
Time to get a new OBGYN without a doubt. Your doctor should LISTEN to your concerns. They work for YOU. Maybe starting fresh with a new doctor will help you in this journey. I am so sorry.
I just wanted to let you know that I had the EXACT same thing last week. A one day period, followed by tripling betas, followed by falling betas I also have a pregnant SIL, cousin, and dear friend where we would have been due within the same month with my first pregnancy. Do I smell a TTC-AL BFF-ship brewing?!?!?!?

I know it's not 'official' until I get my next beta drawn, but emotionally, I just can't hang on. I freak out every time going to the bathroom and seeing what I see. Of course, if something switched around for the good I would be elated, but considering the heaviness of the bleeding and the clots, I can't really be in denial.

I also have a friend who has an EDD the day before my first one and a couple who are due a month after my original EDD. We can vent any time to each other

buckeyebaby814 · June 2011

Tapatio:
Oh hon, I'm so sorry ((huge hugs)). I'm so pissed that your OBGYN is just blowing you off! I think you're making the right move by looking for a new one. You need a doc that's going to listen to your concerns and not just dismiss you.

I think what really upset me (and my DH), was low progesterone has been a concern, even one my doctor agreed with I thought since she had put me on prometrium for one cycle, so when I called about getting betas I asked for them to check progesterone and they said they don't do that?! [major side-eye inserted, I'm on Chrome so I have no smileys.)

jkfranklin · June 2011

I'm so sorry. I think it is really good that you are trying to find a doctor that you can work better with. That was one of my big things with my OB, I really like him and the way he handles stuff and I think that is a huge part in this journey. You don't want to deal with frustration with your OB. There are already plenty of frustrations to go around.

Mellimo83 · June 2011

Im sorry Buckeye. Im so angry at how unfair that is for you. I agree with finding an OB who listens to you!

AngnShaun · June 2011

I am so sorry... i cant believe they wouldnt check the Progesterone when they know you have a preexisting issue with it... how ridiculous!!!

I also know the frustration of a Dr you dont have faith in...

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

buckeyebaby814:
hopefulmom81:
I am so very sorry.
You are right though, you don't know anything for sure until betas make a decreasing pattern.
Time to get a new OBGYN without a doubt. Your doctor should LISTEN to your concerns. They work for YOU. Maybe starting fresh with a new doctor will help you in this journey. I am so sorry.
I just wanted to let you know that I had the EXACT same thing last week. A one day period, followed by tripling betas, followed by falling betas I also have a pregnant SIL, cousin, and dear friend where we would have been due within the same month with my first pregnancy. Do I smell a TTC-AL BFF-ship brewing?!?!?!?
I know it's not 'official' until I get my next beta drawn, but emotionally, I just can't hang on. I freak out every time going to the bathroom and seeing what I see. Of course, if something switched around for the good I would be elated, but considering the heaviness of the bleeding and the clots, I can't really be in denial.
I also have a friend who has an EDD the day before my first one and a couple who are due a month after my original EDD. We can vent any time to each other

I understand how you feel, and I'm sorry, I didn't mean to give you any false hope. I have just developed a "scientific" view of pregnancy to protect myself. Betas up--pregnant, betas down--miscarrying. Why does this have to be so hard?

I am the same way with being freaked out every time I go to the bathroom.

I am so sorry you are going through this ((HUGS))

EclairAngst · June 2011

So so sorry you're going through this... again

Definitely find yourself a new doc that will listen to you.

buckeyebaby814 · June 2011

hopefulmom81:
buckeyebaby814:
hopefulmom81:
I am so very sorry.
You are right though, you don't know anything for sure until betas make a decreasing pattern.
Time to get a new OBGYN without a doubt. Your doctor should LISTEN to your concerns. They work for YOU. Maybe starting fresh with a new doctor will help you in this journey. I am so sorry.
I just wanted to let you know that I had the EXACT same thing last week. A one day period, followed by tripling betas, followed by falling betas I also have a pregnant SIL, cousin, and dear friend where we would have been due within the same month with my first pregnancy. Do I smell a TTC-AL BFF-ship brewing?!?!?!?
I know it's not 'official' until I get my next beta drawn, but emotionally, I just can't hang on. I freak out every time going to the bathroom and seeing what I see. Of course, if something switched around for the good I would be elated, but considering the heaviness of the bleeding and the clots, I can't really be in denial.
I also have a friend who has an EDD the day before my first one and a couple who are due a month after my original EDD. We can vent any time to each other
I understand how you feel, and I'm sorry, I didn't mean to give you any false hope. I have just developed a "scientific" view of pregnancy to protect myself. Betas up--pregnant, betas down--miscarrying. Why does this have to be so hard?
I am the same way with being freaked out every time I go to the bathroom.
I am so sorry you are going through this ((HUGS))

You're fine! You did not give me false hope. Of course, in the back of my head, I'm praying for a miracle, but when I actually think about it, I know that's not happening this time. That's one thing my doctor seemed 'irritated' with me about, she said "You're making having a baby too scientific"- this was her response when I brought my charts to her back in April. Whaaaaa? Sorry for wanting to chart until my body was doing normal stuff!

1220winterbride · June 2011

((hugs)) so sorry. I hope your next Dr helps you determine the cause or lengthen your LP. It just sucks knowing you would have had cousins closer in age to your LO. Take extra gentle & good care of yourself this week.

MrsJC · June 2011

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think it's a good idea to find a new doctor who is a better match for you.

DCWJes · June 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. *hugs* I hope you are able to switch Drs and the new Dr listens to you.

buckeyebaby814 · June 2011

Thank you so much ladies, your T&Ps mean a lot to me! I already planned out my day so I won't just be doing nothing and thinking (weed my flower beds and vegetable garden), clean up the house, go grocery shopping and I'm going to lay out- getting some sunshine always feels good. I will be around on and off the bump, I just didn't want to appear as though I abandoned a thread!

LDW80 · June 2011

I'm so sorry! Hugs to you!

CashewsMommy · June 2011

Oh hun!!! I am so so sorry!!!! (((hugs)))

I really hope you can get in right away with this new doctor and that they do someting about that LP of yours!

tdmd09 · June 2011

I totally agree -- it's time to switch doctors. Personally I'd call today and make an appt to establish care ASAP. No use in waiting any longer to find better care.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Limbo sucks.

andrea3122 · June 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss.

sbphotos · June 2011

Oh man, this sucks so bad. I'm so, so sorry. I can only imagine that high of the BFP and then having it grabbed right out of your hands so fast. And then to have all the SIL's pregnant too...UGH.

I understand that you are being "realistic", but I hope to see a raising betas post from you anyway :-)

As far as your doctor goes...RUN, DON'T WALK to a new doctor. Your current one sounds like a really bad fit for you. Any doctor that doesn't encourage charting is to be avoided in my opinion. To say that you're making things too scientific is just asinine. And to just throw out words like clomid seems like he/she is just not very educated. Ovulation isn't your problem. If they bothered looking at your charts, they'd see that! It scares me actually to read some posts on these boards because I feel like sometimes we know more than our doctors! I really hope you find a great doctor who will listen, take you seriously, and be proactive.

HUGE HUG for you and for your hubby.