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December 2011 Moms
Went to see a daycare and...
I cried my eyes out all the way home. Obviously it is not the right daycare for us. As soon as we walked in it smelled (which I understand they change about a million diapers a day, but still). Every single worker that we encountered seemed to be sooooo young.
It just seemed like an institution or something, I told my DH that it reminded me of a dog kennel. Just the thought of leaving our baby there and I lost it. So we are going to continue our search and I am going to try to get recommendations from co-workers and friends.
Glad we started early!
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Re: Went to see a daycare and...
This is what I'm so afraid of. I know a girl who I went to high school with that is on my fb and she works at a daycare. I would NOT trust her to watch my kids and she's such a camera whore she is always taking pictures of herself with the kids and putting them on fb. I dont know how many people would be ok knowing that their kid's pictures are on some random girls fb.
OMG that's horrible! I can't believe that she would think that's ok!!!!
See I just can't imagine leaving my baby with perfect strangers, especially that are that young. I guess I just got the feeling that they are just there for a job and that they don't really care about the kids.
I work at a day care and that's definitely illegal! I would call the center's director and ask them about their policies regarding photos of the children and then call the state or county's office of family services and have them direct you to where this should be reported. Its breaking confidentiality and privacy laws! I know this may sound extreme, but as a future mom, I wouldn't want strangers seeing my child on some woman's facebook. Especially, because the people on her FB know where she works, so if she had any creepers as friends, they would know where to find my child!
I'm struggling with the knowledge I can't be a SAHM. Of course that may change once Peanut arrives, but right now I'm dreading the return to work. We're going to explore in-home care as well. DH can work from home, but does have to check on properties and check in at the office from time to time. We would need someone from 1p -6p and it kills me to think of paying for full day daycare, when we need half time.
Good luck!
Ive wondered what I could do about this. It just bugs me so much everytime she posts new pictures. I wonder where are the other employees when she's doing this? I'm definitely doing something about this now.
Ditto this. It may sound extreme but maybe you could call the center's director and report it so they could take care of the problem before it goes to any authorities.
That is just so creepy.
Good! I'm glad! I just cannot believe she thinks she can do that and get away with it! On another note... I hope people know that not all day care workers would do this...or even think about it!
Yeah, we went to see a couple places today and neither one of them were great. I am also going to ask for references from people at work and I am going to call the Human Resource department at my work and ask if they know of any place - might even be able to get a discount because I work there. We'll see.
GL to you in your search.
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I hear yah! I went and say one last week and was so excited and from the moment I walked through the door my hopes sank. It wasn't anything I expected it to be and I didn't feel comfortable there. It was cold and "institutional" feeling. No way I'd take my baby there... So the search continues.
It's depressing walking into something like that and wonder if you'll find a place that you'll love, etc. At this point we're a little concerned we may not find a daycare... or even get into one if we do. The demand for daycare here is ridiculous and with 1800 pregnant people on post right now, the waiting lists are extremely long.
We don't have family or friends where we live and they all live across country, so it'll be interesting if we can't get into one...
Hope your search goes better with the next one!
DS started at Montessori on Monday. It's an amazing place. Absolutely lovely. The environment is amazingly calm and they've a 1:3 teacher:child ratio. He's only going 2 mornings per week (6 hours total) just so I get a bit of free time to sew / clean / do the shopping / nap / whatever. I picked him up and one of the teachers told me he had trouble settling for his nap so she just sat with him in the nap room until he fell asleep! So lovely.
Don't lose hope just yet. There are amazing places out there with wonderful carers that will be a perfect fit for your child. I'm just lucky we have one here in our town of 5,000 people!
Don't lose hope. I'm lucky enough to be able to stay home but I do in home care out of here also. I found a very nice family that has a little girl that is my sons age and they have a 10 week old little boy now.
I have watched her since the kids were 3 months old and I have to say that I love her like she is my own. Little man is just the sweetest thing also. If you can find someone like me that offers flexible hours, both parents are doctors in the ER and work crazy shifts, and cares about teaching them and loving them then you'll be set. That's not to say that you can't get that in a daycare center ever but I just love in home care for when thy are very small.
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That would be so discouraging...good luck in your child care search.
There is a daycare a block from my home, but when I googled them last year (just thinking ahead), it came up that 3 years ago or so, they left a child there and everyone went home! Thank goodness the girl was old enough to know how to use a phone and call her mom! And DH didn't find it as alarming as I would have hoped....he just said, "Oh that's a couple years ago, they would have changed their procedures since then." And he insists that we at least do a visit there to check it out, but I don't feel great about it.
thanks ladies! It is good to know that they aren't all like this. I am going to try to find an in-home would be ideal, but I know we'll find something.
I think it was a combo of the disappointment in the daycare and my first major run in with pregnancy hormones, and I just lost it. I guess the worry and motherly instincts start way before the baby is even born, and I imagine last, well, forever!
Scout+Finch-wow that is scary. If you do go there maybe you should bring up that incident to them and ask them if it's true and also what have they done to change their policies and procedures so that doesn't happen to your child.
I completely understand how you feel. I went to see a few centers when I was pregnant with DD,and afer we left I was seriously considering being a stay at home mom because I could not imagine leaving her there (and I have a fairly large and well paying job that I love). I ended up talking to some friends and neighbors and discovered an in home day care that is down the street--I had no idea! I met with the woman (who is in her early 50's and has been running this licensed in home daycare for over 25 years), and we instantly connected. We knew it was the right choice. We also got glowing references from not only our neighbors and friends, but others who she provided--there are literally 100's of people over the years that know and love her. We felt so lucky, and after almost two years are just as happy as when we first started with her.
Make sure to expore all of your options, and really ask around. I know you mentioned talking to your HR department--my company offers an EAP program that has child care resources (both centers and licensed in home), and it was a great start as well.
Good luck!!
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i'm not sure if i'm to late but before you report it screenshot or save the pictures. if they bring it up to her before hand she can easily delete them. so having them saved and sent in an e-mail as proof would be good to have. i would suggest screenshots because it will show it's on facebook.
if you don't know how to screenshot all you have to do is:
Open the program Paint
Go to the site you want to screenshot CTRL+ALT+PRT SC??
Go into Paint and hit CTRL+V then save the file
? you can also use CTRL+PRT SC but it will show your taskbar
? F11 can show more the web page and hitting again will make it go back to normal but i suggest showing the full browser so it shows you're on Facebook