Has anyone changed OB's? Kind of Long...

AlissaCell701 · June 2011

So, I do really like my OB. HE is NOT Mr. Personality, doesn't really hold your hand during apts ect. He is very conservative when it comes to ultra sounds and sometimes I kind of feel like he isn't taking my concerns seriously..But as I said he isn't Mr. Personality and can be hard to read..

What I do like about him is that he was AMAZING during my delivery, I don' think I would have wanted anyone else there. He also is a one man show..he does have a partner who he works just so he can take a weekend off every once in a while..but I love that most likely I will just see him. He is also one of the TOP doctors in South Fla.. everyone who I tell that I see Dr S are like ohh he is AMAZING...he delivers at the hospital that I like..and he is jewish (not super important to me but a bonus)

Here is my concern though..When we went in for our first apt to see #2 he didn't quite remember me..even though I it wasn't that long ago that I was there...that kind of rub me the wrong way. And then when I brought up the IUGR issues that we had with Jake and me seeing a Peri he didn't really think it's that necessary. Hello, I had a 3lb BABY that was in the NICU for 14days. Not that I think there would have been a whole lot that we could have done if we knew about the IUGR before I had Jake. But still I am KIND of freaked out about the whole thing..He did say maybe we would do more u/s as the end of the pregnancy gets closer..This didn't really make me feel better..:(

So What would SAIF do? Change OB's? At least interview meet another doctor and get a feel for them? My other gf's see a great ob and they gave me her number..Push Dr. S for me to see a Peri; I think I am going to do this anyway..Other Options that I can't think of??

TIA

naflmj · June 2011

I switched for some of the same reasons as you but I probably would have stayed if I could have gotten to see the one doctor in the practice I loved and not the others. DS also had IGUR and I would absolutely insist on at least more u/s and I don't see why he won't refer you to a peri...can you bring you concerns up again next time?

qtpa2t · June 2011

If you switch or not is up to you, but as someone who also works with a lot of people who are dealing with a personal event, cut him a break. How many babies do you figure he delivers in a year? Would you be able to remember that many people specifically when you were in the midst of a bevy of current, past and upcoming patients in the line? Spring feels like a year away to me already, and it's only summer. It's really hard to remember that many people - and yet I know for all of my clients, it's an extremely personal occasion they are dealing with and they would feel much like you.

LisaMarisa · June 2011

I was upset with my OB and the MFM in the beginning of my second pregnancy for a similar reason. I went into PTL during my first pregnancy but no one seemed to care the second time around. I had an extra u/s at 16 weeks, plus the one at 20 and they determined that I was not at risk. I wasnt comfortable with that but couldnt really do anything about it. I loved my OBs otherwise and wanted to stay with them. I'm glad I did because this pregnancy ended up being normal.

I guess the point of my post is to trust your doctor. They do tests to check for problems and if something comes up along the way then I'm sure their approach will change but for now you're a normal pregnant person. Hang in there!

Oh and if you want to talk to the MFM about it anyway, mention it at your NT scan or Anatomy scan (I had to see the MFM for those, I assume most people do).

firsttogo · June 2011

I changed at 18 weeks with Gwen. My OB from the boys was WONDERFUL but, was not attentive to my anxiety. He basically told me to relax and read a book..... um ok, how about the not sleeping EVER and constant panic? Also, I had bled through my two previous pregnancies, and he wrote off my bleeding with Gwen as status quo.

I felt uncomfortable with this, and switched. My new OB discovered a silent abruption, and infection that the other OB did not test for. Long story short, my gut feeling that made me change was probably what saved Gwen, and my pregnancy for as long as it did.

I think it is at least worth a second opinion. I do not think your current OB is terrible, or negligent, but maybe sometimes they get comfortable and do not pay as close of attention as they should.

GypsyEsq · June 2011

I've changed and I'm not even pregnant yet (and may never be again). I think the OB/patient relationship is too important to have any doubts. And while I think it's perfectly reasonable to have forgotten you given the number of babies he probably delivers that "excuse" is good in the grocery store. When I'm naked from the waist down in a paper gown and my entire med history (relevant med history) is on the door I expect my OB to have refreshed him/herself before walking in and to at least feign remembrance.

dusk42 · June 2011

I would ask him why he feels like the IUGR issue is not something that he would refer you to a peri - does he think that it was an isolated incident and not likely to happen again based on his medical knowledge or that it worked out "okay" last time (obviously NICU time is not "okay", but does he not think it was as serious as it was for you)? Or does he just think there is nothing that can be done about it except some extra ultrasounds?

FWIW, I saw one OB when we first started trying that just wrote me a script for clomid and said come back in six months if you aren't pregnant, so I stopped seeing him (he was a jerk all around and I couldn't imagine seeing him and his practice for nine months). My second OB practice post-RE was an organizational disaster - if you went in the AM, you waited an hour to check out, and if you went in the PM, you waited an hour in the room undressed. The OB also miscalculated my delivery date and set it 2 weeks early. My third OB office was awesome, and I still love them. So I am obviously a big proponent of switching if you are not comfortable. Your needs may have changed after your last experience, and maybe you need a new doctor.

sliz · June 2011

I would switch. I loved my ob - but that is because she dealt with a lot of my emotional issues from losing the twins. I think you need to find someone who listens to your concerns.

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