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OliveBaby · June 2011

lrn327:
I'm so so sorry this is happening. My heart breaks for you and your DD. Hugs and prayers are headed your way.

This. Sad

And agree w/ PP about not talking to him until you've gotten a lawyer. WTF is he thinking!?

::hugs::

CFH79 · June 2011

I'm so sorry. The only thing I can add is (if you are a working mom and I can't remember if you are), check your health insurance, you might have an employee assistance program that can set you up with a counselor if you don't already know who you want to go to and they usually give you a few sessions for free before you start paying your copay or deductible, so check that out if it's applicable to you. Just call the mental health phone number on the back of your ins card. Good luck taking care of that precious baby!!!

Mommysaurus123 · June 2011

principessa81:
emmaleaf:

What do I say to him when he comes home tomorrow? I think I need to get an apartment with DD. Should he stay living here?

I just skimmed through the other responses and I came across your reply. My advice? No. He's abandoning you guys. He can fvcking leave and get an apartment. You and your DD deserve so much better, and I really want to beat the crap out of your H for you.

Also, good for you for calling a lawyer and having your mom spend the night there with you guys. I'm glad that you have family close by you can lean on.

Personally, I would kick his @ss out and change the locks before he got home. That is just me. He can get the hotel/apartment when he gets back but he doesn't need to be able to just walk into your home with your DD.

And from experience with single moms of daughters, PLEASE do not let this man teach your daughter that his actions are OK. I have no doubt that you are strong and can take great care of her and guide her well... but if he is active in her life and she learns that it's "OK" for a man to treat someone he loves this way, I feel like she will be destined for a life of heartbreak.

Please keep us updated and get a lawyer! I agree with PP, I would not want him to be allowed to take her out of state (heck, I wouldn't trust him enough to have unsupervised custody at all!)

emmaleaf · June 2011

Wow. Thank you, all. This board is so amazing. He is not coming over today, and in fact, I told him I don't want him stepping foot in the house until at least Friday. That will give me some time to meet with the lawyer, figure out my next steps, etc. I know a lot of you are advising not to leave the house, but this is our first home together, and the house we brought DD home to. I can't stay here with all of the memories around me. What I am going to do is add to the divorce decree that I want him to buy me out of the house. It just recently got appraised, and he can pay in installments. Don't worry, I will not just give up this house. But we can't live here.

yaeger16 · June 2011

Oh that gave me the chills, I'm so sorry you have to go through that!

JulietL129 · June 2011

Omg.... I'm so, so sorry this is happening to you. There's really nothing else I can think to say because I know nothing I can possibly say can make it better. But please know that you and your beautiful daughter really will be in my t&p.

Huge, huge e-hugs to you. .

LaLaaaa · June 2011

Your post is bringing tears to my eyes. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I don't know what else to say, but we are all here for you. I wish I could give you a big hug

jkjacq71 · June 2011

I am late to this but wanted to add my thoughts and prayers for you and say how sorry I am for you. Take good care of yourself and LO.

belizeitornot · June 2011

wow. this is crazycakes. i'm so sorry you have to go through this! i agree with the pps that one day he will realize just how badly he fvcked up and by then it will be too late. big hugs to you and your LO!

EVM1216 · June 2011

emmaleaf:
Wow. Thank you, all. This board is so amazing. He is not coming over today, and in fact, I told him I don't want him stepping foot in the house until at least Friday. That will give me some time to meet with the lawyer, figure out my next steps, etc. I know a lot of you are advising not to leave the house, but this is our first home together, and the house we brought DD home to. I can't stay here with all of the memories around me. What I am going to do is add to the divorce decree that I want him to buy me out of the house. It just recently got appraised, and he can pay in installments. Don't worry, I will not just give up this house. But we can't live here.

Good for you! It's terrible that you're husband turned into a skeeze, but you seem to be staying strong for your LO. I can't imagine what you must be feeling, but just reading this has made me seethe in rage. My thoughts will be with you and your DD.

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