Someone tell me I am being ridiculous please.

mamabear214 · June 2011

Long story short: I have a hard time being cool with female marines. It isn't that I have a problem with them being marines. I have problems with them stalking, and trying to sleep with my husband. Back in NC my H had two girls get his phone number and they would literally call and text him all.the.time, trying to get them to go out with them, over to their house, etc, etc. It bothered me but I trust my husband and know that he was in no way interested in either of these women.

Fast forward to now. There is a girl in the office where my H works that seems to have taken a liking to him. Whatever, right? Well, now she has gotten his number from the call roster. She is texting him all.the.time. She has called him a few times "about work." He is not returning her texts, or her calls. She is married to a marine and has two children.

I'm starting to get pissed off. It is so trashy and so fvcking disrespectful for her to continue acting like this. I'm ready to go bash her face into a brick wall. H is telling me to calm down, that he isn't interested in her and I'm stressing over nothing. So, being hormonal and a little cray cray, I'm reading into this and I feel like he is taking up for her. Someone PLEASE tell me to chill out. That calling this woman's boss and throwing a fit about inappropriate conduct, or just calling her and freaking the freak out, will only make me look even crazier.

Wow. That got long. Sorry.

neferhathor · June 2011

i think you need to PIP your hawt hubby!

and I would want to cuttabitch for sure. I can't tell you what to do, but I would totally want to do all the things you just talked about.

~Flossie~ · June 2011

You are not being ridiculous! I was in the exact same boat many times as my husband is in the military as well, and has had quite a few female coworkers do the exact same thing. I don't know what it is about the military... ugh!

J+MS · June 2011

Been there, handled up on that.

I just got her number and called her. She gave me the "I just need a friend" speech. I replied with "find a man that isn't married".

CelticWife · June 2011

I would call her or answer the phone when she calls.

Either that or have DH block her number. We had to do that with one of his coworkers. He talked to her, I talked to her, their boss talked to her... It was a mess.

uluvfranke · June 2011

sorry. you are not out of line here. i would be pissed too. a coworker of mine thought it would be funny to take my h's number out of my phone when i was at lunch and she texted him. the first few times were funny until she calls at midnight because she needs a friend. fvck her.

RitaT22 · June 2011

In total b!tch mode, I would send her boss an email to let him/her know what she is up to.

J+MS · June 2011

RitaT22:
In total b!tch mode, I would send her boss an email to let him/her know what she is up to.

She's military. Adultery and actions of the sort are serious business.

mamabear214 · June 2011

Okay, I feel better now. Thank you. I'm going to give my H two options. He can handle it his way. Or I will be talking to her boss, who happens to be a friend of ours. If she doesn't get the message I'll see to her myself. I just know I tend to jump the gun a little when it comes to these things, so I like to take a step back and make sure I'm not being crazy. It doesn't help that he isn't a douchecookie like most guys, which makes him even more of a target. Slvts.

And neferhathor, just for you Smile

LinnyAnne10 · June 2011

Um no you are not being ridic. I'd be talking to the lady and tell her to back the eff off. I wouldn't talk to her boss but keep it on the level with her. If she doesn't respect you or your hubby then take it to the next level.

RitaT22 · June 2011

J+MS:
RitaT22:
In total b!tch mode, I would send her boss an email to let him/her know what she is up to.
She's military. Adultery and actions of the sort are serious business.

I didn't know that. But I would be seriously pissed off if someone was doing that with my H. AND, from reading others' stories on here, I couldn't help thinking of the movie Obsessed with Ali Larter. B!tch was cray cray.

SarahWaggy · June 2011

I don't think you're being ridiculous. If it's bothering your husband (and you, obviously), he should definitely talk to someone about it.

hopkins5 · June 2011

I'd be pissed too. Next time she calls, you need to answer the phone.

AshtonMain · June 2011

hopkins5:
I'd be pissed too. Next time she calls, you need to answer the phone.

I would do this. I would address her directly. Leave the boss out of it for now.

Btw, my sister is a Marine. Her husband is insecure and paranoid that she's always sleeping with other Marines. It's ridiculous. This has nothing to do with your story whatsoever.

mamabear214 · June 2011

AshtonMain:
hopkins5:
I'd be pissed too. Next time she calls, you need to answer the phone.
I would do this. I would address her directly. Leave the boss out of it for now.
Btw, my sister is a Marine. Her husband is insecure and paranoid that she's always sleeping with other Marines. It's ridiculous. This has nothing to do with your story whatsoever.

That sucks about her husband. I can understand why some guys would be super paranoid, but if you trust the person then that's that.
I'm of the mind that while I trust my H, I don't trust anyone else. I don't ever want him in a situation where anyone could claim any inappropriate behavior on his part. Both for the sake of his career and his reputation.

AshtonMain · June 2011

mamabear214:
AshtonMain:
hopkins5:
I'd be pissed too. Next time she calls, you need to answer the phone.
I would do this. I would address her directly. Leave the boss out of it for now.
Btw, my sister is a Marine. Her husband is insecure and paranoid that she's always sleeping with other Marines. It's ridiculous. This has nothing to do with your story whatsoever.
That sucks about her husband. I can understand why some guys would be super paranoid, but if you trust the person then that's that.
I'm of the mind that while I trust my H, I don't trust anyone else. I don't ever want him in a situation where anyone could claim any inappropriate behavior on his part. Both for the sake of his career and his reputation.

I agree. This is sooo true. Sometimes all it takes is an accusation. Good thing he doesn't return her texts. I say talk to her yourself. That way you know what was said and when. You're not relying on someone else to talk to her. Good luck!!

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