In wedding 2 weeks after due date...breastfeeding?

MiaMyPuggle · June 2011

I am in my SIL's wedding 2 weeks after LO is due...I will prob be late, which will stink b/c it seems as though everyone in my family is 1-2 weeks late! (I, myself was 3 weeks late!)...I know I will need to get used to the whole BFing thing, so when can I start pumping and having DH feed him? I'm sure I'll be leaking, too, so I will have to have the baby right there the whole time so I can feed him so I'm not engorged, which I heard is terrible! When can I start pumping, tho? I know my supply has to be regulated and I don't know how long that takes...websites all tell you differnt things, so I wanted to ask the "seasoned professional" moms!

SeaMama · June 2011

If your baby might be 2 weeks late how will you be in a wedding 2 weeks past your due date? I would NEVER attempt this, honestly. Is this your first kid? I was in a complete fog until about a month after we got home. What if you end up w/ a C-Section and can't do anything for 2 weeks after you get home? W/ regards to your BF;ing question, you can pump from the get-go but it's hard to get the hang of it all. Everyone is different, but again if I were you, there is NO EFFING WAY I'd agree to be in a wedding immediately after giving birth.

MiaMyPuggle · June 2011

SeaMama:
If your baby might be 2 weeks late how will you be in a wedding 2 weeks past your due date? I would NEVER attempt this, honestly. Is this your first kid? I was in a complete fog until about a month after we got home. What if you end up w/ a C-Section and can't do anything for 2 weeks after you get home? W/ regards to your BF;ing question, you can pump from the get-go but it's hard to get the hang of it all. Everyone is different, but again if I were you, there is NO EFFING WAY I'd agree to be in a wedding immediately after giving birth.

i got pregnant a few months after i agreed to be in the wedding and things happen, so i rolled with it...i tried to get out of it and said that if i'm really late, i can't be in it and she didn't want me to drop out, so i tried...trust me...she said that she'll just explain why her brother and i aren't there! plus, it's 5 hours away from home...i'm going to be miserable, i already know it...i didn't want to hurt her feelings, so i will deal with what i have to if he's born in time for us to go up...he's due 8-23 and her wedding is 9-10, so it's actually more than 2 weeks, but i was originally due later on and the DD was pushed up.

llcoolay · June 2011

I would never have agreed to do this....ever. What if you have a c-section? Then you def will not be able to attend. I have to go to a wedding 4 weeks after my c-section and im not even in the wedding and i was thinking about not going. Since you seem set on going ......best bet is to have a friend or relative bring the baby...maybe stay in one of the rooms watching her and you can go there every two hours to nurse. Otherwise you will need to pump about every two hours. Do NOT give up nursing just for this wedding.Do not give formula just for this wedding. GL in what ever you work out.

KOscar · June 2011

I kind of agree with the pp that being in a wedding so soon after giving birth sounds horrible. Every person is different but at 2 weeks post partum it was very difficult for me to walk, I was still in a lot of pain from birth. As far as pumping is concerned I started right away but I didn't introduce a bottle for a few months. Another totally personal decision is to consider if you want your brand new baby around a lot of people that young. I obviously don't know the size of the wedding or any details but I'd be a little nervous about bringing my 1 or 2 week old to a big event.

llcoolay · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:

SeaMama:
If your baby might be 2 weeks late how will you be in a wedding 2 weeks past your due date? I would NEVER attempt this, honestly. Is this your first kid? I was in a complete fog until about a month after we got home. What if you end up w/ a C-Section and can't do anything for 2 weeks after you get home? W/ regards to your BF;ing question, you can pump from the get-go but it's hard to get the hang of it all. Everyone is different, but again if I were you, there is NO EFFING WAY I'd agree to be in a wedding immediately after giving birth.

i got pregnant a few months after i agreed to be in the wedding and things happen, so i rolled with it...i tried to get out of it and said that if i'm really late, i can't be in it and she didn't want me to drop out, so i tried...trust me...she said that she'll just explain why her brother and i aren't there! plus, it's 5 hours away from home...i'm going to be miserable, i already know it...i didn't want to hurt her feelings, so i will deal with what i have to if he's born in time for us to go up...he's due 8-23 and her wedding is 9-10, so it's actually more than 2 weeks, but i was originally due later on and the DD was pushed up.

You "tried" to get out of it??? There is no "try" you just tell the person you cant do it. Your worried about her feelings but what about yours and your family? If they are anything of a real friend they will understand. I can not imagine ever expecting someone to be in my wedding two weeks after giving birth.....GL

llcoolay · June 2011

BTW- what if your baby comes a week later then the due date?? Then you will have to leave and attend a wedding one week after giving birth? or worse still what if you have a c-section one week after your due date?? You should have thoughtt this threw better.

KOscar · June 2011

Just read that the wedding is 5 hours away. That fact alone would make me say sorry. I know your SIL would be disappointed but there's just no way I'd go. Five hours of sitting in a car when you have stitches, swelling, and other fun issues going on just wouldn't happen. I'd actually ask your doc if this would be ok. You're also going to be stopping at least every two hours to feed and newborns need diaper changes every five minutes. Your five hour drive is going to end up being almost twice that long with all the stops.

islandgirl79 · June 2011

She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.

Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.

Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

MiaMyPuggle · June 2011

llcoolay:
BTW- what if your baby comes a week later then the due date?? Then you will have to leave and attend a wedding one week after giving birth? or worse still what if you have a c-section one week after your due date?? You should have thoughtt this threw better.

since I'M the one that will need to deal with being in the whole wedding thing, I will figure all of that out...I told her if I go past sept 1, i can't be in it, so that was already established...the whole point of my post was to ask about pumping...nothing about how crazy i am for being in my sister's wedding...I straight out asked her if she just wanted me to read or i would be happy just sitting in the audience...she wants me to be a part of her day...it's not a full Mass, so it's 15 mins in the church and the pics afterwards, which DH will bring the baby for and keep him in the air conditioned car...we thought this out in case we go...we're not staying for the whole reception and we're going back to my MIL's house...we're keeping the baby in the car seat, so everyone won't be passing him around...

islandgirl79 · June 2011

KOscar:
Just read that the wedding is 5 hours away. That fact alone would make me say sorry. I know your SIL would be disappointed but there's just no way I'd go. Five hours of sitting in a car when you have stitches, swelling, and other fun issues going on just wouldn't happen. I'd actually ask your doc if this would be ok. You're also going to be stopping at least every two hours to feed and newborns need diaper changes every five minutes. Your five hour drive is going to end up being almost twice that long with all the stops.

OK, just read this too. Above poster is totally right, five hours in a car 2 weeks post postpartum is really pushing it!

MiaMyPuggle · June 2011

islandgirl79:

She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.

Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.

Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

thank you for getting the whole point of my post!! i never breastfed and just needed to know what people have found out as they breastfed, themselves b/c there are so many websites out there that are saying different things...i didn't want to call my doctor b/c i have so many prompts and can't get thru to her and have to talk to rude secretaries all of the time, so this is easier! thank you for your kind advice!

maddiemoon43 · June 2011

Best case, and LO is born on due date, you have a vaginal birth, and you feel up to travelling 5 hours 3 weeks later...what is your dress like? Will it allow you to wear a nursing bra? Is it dark (I am paranoid about bleeding and spotting). Do you have comfortable shoes in case you're swollen?

I had my SIL in my wedding party when our nephew was 9 months old, and she was still BF (occassionally pumping, but since we are off for a year here before heading back to work, she wasn't really trying to wean him or move to bottles exclusively yet). I let the girls pick out their dresses, and she picked a strapless top with a seperate bottom, as the tops on other dresses wouldn't have let her easily nurse. GL!

NandN2005 · June 2011

I'm assuming that your DS and DH will be at the wedding with you? If not I'm not sure that it is really truly possible for you to get away (especially if you're traveling a long distance) to the wedding. If baby and H are with you, I would probably skip the pumping and just breastfeed when DS is hungry. It will be inconvenient, but pumping as often as you need to not mess with your supply so early on will be stressful too. That will mean that basically your available for pictures and the actual wedding, but then after that your first priority is your son and not the bride. It sounds like you tried to get out of it once you realized that it would be so close to your due date, but SIL wasn't interested, so it is what it is. Hopefully, she'll be understanding of the situation. Stock up on breast pads and have someone available to help you in and out of your dress (if needed) to nurse and it will be fine. It won't be great, but it will be doable. I was in a wedding right around 6 weeks after my first, so a much bigger gap than you, but I remember it being stressful and HATING being away from my baby ever for an hour at a time and struggling each and every time that I heard a peep from her during the service, but we survived. Also, I've traveled anywhere between 1-3 weeks after giving birth (even after a c-section) and it's been fine too. Granted that's not everyone's experience, but I found it to be okay as long as I had help. So even if you end up with a c-section 2 weeks before hand, it's not out the question to travel (or even crazy to think about doing so). Just remember, you really need to think about you and your baby first in this situation. If you're not feeling up to it or your recovery is not going smoothly, etc. etc. don't push yourself for the sake of the bride. She's been made aware of the fact that you'll be giving birth shortly before her wedding and she still wanted you to be apart of it so if there are consequences (you not physically being able to be there) then so be it. Best of luck to you!

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rider5344 · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:
llcoolay:
BTW- what if your baby comes a week later then the due date?? Then you will have to leave and attend a wedding one week after giving birth? or worse still what if you have a c-section one week after your due date?? You should have thoughtt this threw better.
since I'M the one that will need to deal with being in the whole wedding thing, I will figure all of that out...I told her if I go past sept 1, i can't be in it, so that was already established...the whole point of my post was to ask about pumping...nothing about how crazy i am for being in my sister's wedding...I straight out asked her if she just wanted me to read or i would be happy just sitting in the audience...she wants me to be a part of her day...it's not a full Mass, so it's 15 mins in the church and the pics afterwards, which DH will bring the baby for and keep him in the air conditioned car...we thought this out in case we go...we're not staying for the whole reception and we're going back to my MIL's house...we're keeping the baby in the car seat, so everyone won't be passing him around...

Coming out of lurking....It is unsafe for you to have lo in that public of an environment so soon after birth. This is clearly your first child because anyone with any experience with newborns would NEVER even consider this. It is also unsafe to travel with lo so soon after birth. GL

islandgirl79 · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:
islandgirl79:

She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.

Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.

Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

thank you for getting the whole point of my post!! i never breastfed and just needed to know what people have found out as they breastfed, themselves b/c there are so many websites out there that are saying different things...i didn't want to call my doctor b/c i have so many prompts and can't get thru to her and have to talk to rude secretaries all of the time, so this is easier! thank you for your kind advice!

Ideally you will just want to nurse the baby on demand. Most newborns need to nurse at least every two hours, but quite commonly every 1.5 hours. Good luck, hopefully you will deliver on your due date and everything will go smoothly! It sounds like you have a good plan of just being in the ceremony and pictures.

Nutrguru · June 2011

Ok, so I understand family dynamics can be hard to deal with and not wanting to hurt your SIL or anyone else is understandable.

I am not a seasoned Mom but I have been VERY blessed to have my Mom (who had 3 kids) talk to me about pregnancy, and post partum. It IS possible to travel with a newborn, my mom did it at 8 days old with her first because her father passed away and needed to fly down to visit family and help her mom take care of things. She never pumped because she had so much trouble with it. Like people said colostrum is different than your normal supply...and I would plan on bringing baby with you. It sounds like your husband is willing to help with feedings so maybe he can just be in charge of all the in betweens while you feed when it needs to happen.

Talk with you husband about the support you will need to get through the wedding weekend. And also have another talk with your SIL to make sure she understands that your new baby is your #1 priority and that you may be MIA for a lot of the wedding events so you can feed and take care of the baby. Feedings will happen every 2-3 hours and diaper changes will happen with that same time frame.

For leaking you can buy breast pads that will fit in your bra to soak up whatever leaks out so hopefully you won't have any embarassing leakage.

It's going to be hard, but totally doable. Just plan on taking feeding breaks every few hours and that should help reduce engorgement or whatever. Wear pads to help with leakage. Enlist the help of your husband to take care of EVERYTHING ELSE. And as people said "large" crowds aren't great for baby, so your husbands job will be to sheild the baby from the masses. Keep a blanket over the top of the carrier to help deter people.

GOOD LUCK! Sorry this was such a long response!

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rider5344 · June 2011

hallamb:
Ok, so I understand family dynamics can be hard to deal with and not wanting to hurt your SIL or anyone else is understandable.

I am not a seasoned Mom but I have been VERY blessed to have my Mom (who had 3 kids) talk to me about pregnancy, and post partum. It IS possible to travel with a newborn, my mom did it at 8 days old with her first because her father passed away and needed to fly down to visit family and help her mom take care of things. She never pumped because she had so much trouble with it. Like people said colostrum is different than your normal supply...and I would plan on bringing baby with you. It sounds like your husband is willing to help with feedings so maybe he can just be in charge of all the in betweens while you feed when it needs to happen.
Talk with you husband about the support you will need to get through the wedding weekend. And also have another talk with your SIL to make sure she understands that your new baby is your #1 priority and that you may be MIA for a lot of the wedding events so you can feed and take care of the baby. Feedings will happen every 2-3 hours and diaper changes will happen with that same time frame.
For leaking you can buy breast pads that will fit in your bra to soak up whatever leaks out so hopefully you won't have any embarassing leakage.
It's going to be hard, but totally doable. Just plan on taking feeding breaks every few hours and that should help reduce engorgement or whatever. Wear pads to help with leakage. Enlist the help of your husband to take care of EVERYTHING ELSE. And as people said "large" crowds aren't great for baby, so your husbands job will be to sheild the baby from the masses. Keep a blanket over the top of the carrier to help deter people.
GOOD LUCK! Sorry this was such a long response!

I think a funeral for someone close is totally different than a wedding.

Jake Ian's Mommy · June 2011

islandgirl79:
She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.
Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.
Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

This!

Megs12411 · June 2011

There is NO WAY IN HELL I could have participated in a wedding 2 weeks pp.

Newborns need to nurse CONSTANTLY the first few weeks. The baby will not accomodate the wedding schedule....he will eat wheneve the hell he wants.

CONSTANTLY.

Hon, as a "seasoned professional" I'm telling you quite honestly, I think this is a really bad idea.

4 weeks? maaaaaybe. 2 weeks? hell-to-the-no.

I barely made it to Target, FFS.

Good luck with whatever you decide, but I think you have no idea what you are in for.

amos07 · June 2011

This is definitely going to be a difficult situation for you. Regardless if you nurse your infant or pump you are going to have to make sure that you do it every 2 hours. Either way, be prepared for it to take a bit of time. My DD took 45 mins to nurse when she was a couple week old and pumping took a little while too until you get everything ready when you are first getting used to it. Also, I would make sure to have something that you can cover your dress with so that you don't get breast milk everywhere. I had a crazy oversupply form engorgement for the first couple weeks and DD would choke occasionally and get milk everywhere.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2011

islandgirl79:
She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.
Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.
Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

Confused

Thanks, board police. So if someone comes in and says she is thinking about smothering her baby in its sleep and asks the best way to do it, good to know they can count on you to just simply answer the question and not try to talk her out of it.

madhatter2003 · June 2011

I gave my son his first bottle at 2 weeks. It's doable and ok if you aren't having any latch issues, etc.

I'd pump the weekend before so you have a bottle ready in case you are mid-pictures or something when he's ready to eat. Otherwise, plan to have DH have him there for feedings and like you said just leave the reception early, etc.

DEFINITELY wear nursing pads though. Lansinoh worked best for me.

aubreyalise · June 2011

Megs12411:
There is NO WAY IN HELL I could have participated in a wedding 2 weeks pp.
Newborns need to nurse CONSTANTLY the first few weeks. The baby will not accomodate the wedding schedule....he will eat wheneve the hell he wants.
CONSTANTLY.

this exactly. at 2 weeks i was nursing every 2-2.5 hours and DS was taking anywhere from 45 min to 1 hour to eat. and that was 'start time to start time'.

llcoolay · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:

llcoolay:
BTW- what if your baby comes a week later then the due date?? Then you will have to leave and attend a wedding one week after giving birth? or worse still what if you have a c-section one week after your due date?? You should have thoughtt this threw better.

since I'M the one that will need to deal with being in the whole wedding thing, I will figure all of that out...I told her if I go past sept 1, i can't be in it, so that was already established...the whole point of my post was to ask about pumping...nothing about how crazy i am for being in my sister's wedding...I straight out asked her if she just wanted me to read or i would be happy just sitting in the audience...she wants me to be a part of her day...it's not a full Mass, so it's 15 mins in the church and the pics afterwards, which DH will bring the baby for and keep him in the air conditioned car...we thought this out in case we go...we're not staying for the whole reception and we're going back to my MIL's house...we're keeping the baby in the car seat, so everyone won't be passing him around...

Good luck with that. Indifferent

denall · June 2011

Don't do it. Period. Your comfort, sanity, and baby is your priority... not this wedding. I have told my SIL who is having a wedding one week after my due date (assuming I give birth on that day in the first place) that I will NOT be attending whatsoever. My husband (her brother) said no too. He refuses to put me through that stress. He turned down being in the wedding himself even afteragreeing to be in it originally (before we knew the date of the wedding).

There is no reason for you to be there. PLEASE prioritize. You will NEED this time for you and your baby... if your SIL can't understand this, then she is extremely selfish.

Pumping and breastfeeding too.. ready to leak all over your pretty gown? Ready for baby to cry in the crowd needing you at the most inappropriate time? I hope you know it isn't just clear cut and simple... I am a FTM but I know there will be difficulties bfing or pumping this early on. I just think it is much more feasible for you to stay home, take care of yourself, get the hang of everything first.

MiaMyPuggle · June 2011

marriedfilingjointly:
islandgirl79:

She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.

Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.

Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

Thanks, board police. So if someone comes in and says she is thinking about smothering her baby in its sleep and asks the best way to do it, good to know they can count on you to just simply answer the question and not try to talk her out of it.

calm down, lady! no one is talking me out of anything..i'm a strong woman and will handle my business! it's called support from other mothers-to-be! i was asking for friendly advice not for a war! it's about SHOULD I START PUMPING BEFORE THE WEDDING SO DH CAN FEED THE BABY WHILE I'M DOING BRIDESMAID DUTIES! i got my answer...now, let's move on to other posts to HELP people...not get our their hormonal aggression! thanks for the advice, everyone! happy weekend!

islandgirl79 · June 2011

marriedfilingjointly:
islandgirl79:
She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.
Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.
Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?
Thanks, board police. So if someone comes in and says she is thinking about smothering her baby in its sleep and asks the best way to do it, good to know they can count on you to just simply answer the question and not try to talk her out of it.

ok- totally different scenario! But generally if I can't answer someone's questions I just stay out of the post.

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denall · June 2011

PLEASE read this:

https://theleakyboob.com/2010/12/a-time-to-heal-a-look-at-postpartum-recovery/

you need a reminder... we all do really. When I read this it was eye opening.

SeaMama · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:

llcoolay:
BTW- what if your baby comes a week later then the due date?? Then you will have to leave and attend a wedding one week after giving birth? or worse still what if you have a c-section one week after your due date?? You should have thoughtt this threw better.

since I'M the one that will need to deal with being in the whole wedding thing, I will figure all of that out...I told her if I go past sept 1, i can't be in it, so that was already established...the whole point of my post was to ask about pumping...nothing about how crazy i am for being in my sister's wedding...I straight out asked her if she just wanted me to read or i would be happy just sitting in the audience...she wants me to be a part of her day...it's not a full Mass, so it's 15 mins in the church and the pics afterwards, which DH will bring the baby for and keep him in the air conditioned car...we thought this out in case we go...we're not staying for the whole reception and we're going back to my MIL's house...we're keeping the baby in the car seat, so everyone won't be passing him around...

I totally get this sentiment - I was just offering my experience as someone who has been through it. I always hated when people were like "you need food delivered/freezer meals cause you wont' be able to cook, etc" with my first. I was defiant that DH and I would be fine and he could cook while I watched the baby when we came home. I was TOTALLY WRONG. The fact is you just can't know what you're in for. What if your baby has collic and won't sleep? There are a MILLION things to consider and you shouldn't be worrying about someone else's wedding. I wouldn't even be GOING to the wedding, let alone IN IT.

My BROTHER is getting married 7 weeks after LO is born and I am struggling with whether or not I can make it work (it's a 3 hour flight, etc) and I'm an experienced mom who has some idea of what it will take to manage. At this point you have NO IDEA what childbirth/nursing/NO SLEEP/Travel etc. is like with a newborn. Feeding yourself and showering is still hard at 2 weeks PP. I was still in pajamas every day recovering from an unplanned surgery. At 2 weeks pp w/ my son I went to the doctor for a follow up appt and was terrified to leave the house alone w/ him and drive. Honestly I'm not trying to be snarky, and I know your question was about bf'ing but I would consider telling your SIL NOW that you most likely won't be there. It will be SO MUCH PRESSURE for you to try to do this whole thing to avoid hurt feelings and out of obligation.

To address the BF'ing thing - BFing can be intimidating and difficult in the best circumstances. I just wouldn't even try to attempt this - that's all I was saying.

JaqiDec04 · June 2011

While I'm aware that everyone is different, my DD is 2 weeks old, and I had a c-section and I'm a FTM. I could easily be in a wedding tomorrow. I feel great, no issues with walking etc. like some previous posters. The point is, everyone is different and so is every baby. Take it a day at a time, take it easy and accept help from DH. Good luck.

MELLEN08 · June 2011

islandgirl79:

She asked for advice on breastfeeding, not whether you thought she should be in the wedding.

Mia-it will probably be too early to bottle feed if you want to exclusively BF. Nipple confusion is something to think about for the first few weeks. Also, if you skip a feeding that early on your supply can get wacky.

Hopefully the wedding is at a hotel or a place where you can go to a room and nurse. I imagine with a bridesmaid dress on it would be pretty hard to nurse in public. Will your parents be attending or someone that could help keep an eye on baby while the ceremony is going on?

Yes

lucylea · June 2011

If the wedding is important to you then you can make it work, although as PP have pointed out it will be difficult. With DD I started pumping when she was about a week old due to her having problems gaining back her birth weight. She was fed a bottle her second night in the hospital and never had a problem. If I were you, I would work hard to get a good latch down in the hospital and use the LC as much as you can. Once you are home start pumping to build up a stash so you at least have one bottle ready to go if baby needs to eat during the ceremony. You will want to make sure you are either feeding or pumping every two hours on the day of the wedding so your supply doesn't take an early hit.

As far as everyone's concern about the car ride, only you will know when the time comes if you are up to it. We drove 4 hours to visit family when DD was 2-3 weeks old and I had no problem even after a c-section. For those people saying their pediatricians recommended not taking LO out for weeks/months after birth I wish you luck. Especially with a warm weather baby fresh air will be good for all of you. No, I wouldn't let people play pass the baby, but getting out and about is a good thing for all of you!

marriedfilingjointly · June 2011

MiaMyPuggle:
calm down, lady! no one is talking me out of anything..i'm a strong woman and will handle my business! it's called support from other mothers-to-be! i was asking for friendly advice not for a war! it's about SHOULD I START PUMPING BEFORE THE WEDDING SO DH CAN FEED THE BABY WHILE I'M DOING BRIDESMAID DUTIES! i got my answer...now, let's move on to other posts to HELP people...not get our their hormonal aggression! thanks for the advice, everyone! happy weekend!

whoooosh. Did you see that? It was the point going totally over your head.

SailorGray · June 2011

I started pumping at 2 weeks, but that was b/c DS wasn't gaining weight and his pedi advised us to. We never had an issue with nipple confusion.

Good luck with the wedding!

babyduejune · June 2011

Just wanted to say, you're not the only crazy one. I'm supposed to be in my sisters wedding July 3. I will be induced by 6/15 if I don't go into labor before then, so we're looking at 2.5ish wks PP. There's no way in hell I can miss this wedding. I don't know how the logistics will work out, but I will make it work! It won't be easy, and I too plan on bf'ing. I'm just going to keep G with me all day & feed when I have to, wherever u can. If I'm not in some pics or whatever, oh well. It def won't be easy but I think it is doable. Good luck to us both I guess

mommy2b08 · June 2011

Megs12411:

There is NO WAY IN HELL I could have participated in a wedding 2 weeks pp.

Newborns need to nurse CONSTANTLY the first few weeks. The baby will not accomodate the wedding schedule....he will eat wheneve the hell he wants.

CONSTANTLY.

Hon, as a "seasoned professional" I'm telling you quite honestly, I think this is a really bad idea.

4 weeks? maaaaaybe. 2 weeks? hell-to-the-no.

I barely made it to Target, FFS.

Good luck with whatever you decide, but I think you have no idea what you are in for.

Yes

And fwiw you will either have to pump every 1.5-2 hours or feed baby at the breast, you cannot skip a pumping session just because you have prepumped bottles available. I would leave the pump at home and just feed the baby on demand. Sometimes they will nurse for an hour at a time and be ready to begin all over again half an hour after stopping so hopefully the photographer moves quickly for you.

nykimac · June 2011

I had my LO exactly two weeks late so I'm glad I didn't commit to anything like that.

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