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July 2011 Moms
No Godparents for LO?
I am catholic, so LO will be baptized. That said the two people we originally chose as godparents for him we are having second thoughts on.
We originally asked my sister and DH's twin brother. For one, my sister and I have not gotten off very well this summer since both of us being out of school, she's even told me off and that she didn't want to be his godparent... and then DH's brother seems about as excited about being a godparent as being offered to eat a plate of sh!t.
Both DH and I have been questioning our decision of asking them. We have decided that in the event something DID happen to us, LO would legally go to my parents and I've already told my parents this, so doesn't that defeat the purpose of a godparent? I guess I could always have my parents be his godparents... I'm just not sure how well that will go over with the IL's even though MIL still "doesn't want to be a grandmother".
So WWYD? Do you have godparents picked out for your LO, are they the people you would actually want caring for them if something happened to you? Or are you going to set something up separately in a will? At this point I just want to throw away the idea of even having godparents for my LO, but I'm not sure how that works out with the baptism.
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Re: No Godparents for LO?
Godparents and guardians are two separate things. Godparents are (based on what I've been told) supposed to be a spiritual influence, someone who will help your child in regards to your religion. (Advice/guidance etc.) Guardians are who will raise your child in the event something should happen to you and DH. We have godparents picked out (SIL & DH's best friend) and guardians picked out (my parents). They can be the same people, but they don't have to be.
As far as having a baptism and no godparents, I'm not sure about that. You should probably contact your church and see what they say about it. I think that at our church you need at least 1 godparent for the baptism, but again I am not 100% on that. Sorry that your family isn't excited about the prospect of being godparents!
Godparents are people who are to take responsibility for your childs religious upbringing & education, not who would take care of the child if something were to happen to you. So, no, having your parents as legal guardians and 2 other people as Godparents would not defeat the purpose.
Maybe talk to your Priest? He may have some suggestions on how to move forward. So sorry you're having to worry about this- dealing with siblings can be a real pain in the a*s.
We're having this problem too, but we need to pick out FOUR godparents, two for each baby.
I thought we had settled on My brother, DH's brother, My cousin and my best friend, but then DH's brother did something to really upset us both so we're second guessing him as a godparent and DH is not really close enough to anyone else that he would want to be a godfather.
Then there's the added problem that at least one person (the godfather or godmother) has to be Catholic.
I don't know, I think we're (me and DH) are taking this too seriously. We absolutely want our children baptized but like pp's said if anything happened to us the babies would go to the guardian (our parents), not the godparents.
My godparents are my aunt(mom's sister) and my uncle (dad's brother). My aunt I'm pretty close to but I'd say we're close because she's my aunt, not because she's my godmother. And my uncle I hear from once a year if that. And I really don't feel that either of them were good at "spiritual guidance"...especially my uncle...lol...but that's another story!
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Godparents are supposed to be the ones you trust to teach your LO about God and your faith. They aren't the ones who take care of your children if something happens to you. That's a legal matter that you set up in your will. Totally separate things.
So maybe your sister and DH's twin aren't excited about it, because they think they'll be guardians and aren't up to the task. Maybe you should talk with them about what being a godparent means to you and ask them if they feel they are up to the job.
I guess I've always been confused about this, since my parents picked my godparents to also be who would legally be guardians over me. So for some reason I didn't think they could be separate. But thank you for clearing that up.
Either way I don't think my sister or bil would make for good religious role models...