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Really, mom?

NativeFloridianNativeFloridian member
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So, I've been in a whirlwind getting ready for the new baby, and I'm super excited about everything, from diapers to teeny clothes and all the little things that come with having a baby.  And my mom looks at me and says, "I just see that you're so excited about this baby and everything...are you still going to love [DD#1]?  Like, just as much as the new baby?  I mean, because I know this baby's father is going to be in the picture and everything, and maybe that's more exciting for you.  I just wonder if you're going to forget about [DD#1]."

Um...HOW could I forget about my first child?  REALLY?  That she could even think that is ridiculous to me!  I could see if a random, clueless stranger were to ask me a stupid question like that.  But my own mother?  Of freaking course I'm still going to love my first daughter, just as much!!  There's no way on earth I could ever give her a backseat to her sister.  WTF.

And then I thought, "What, I'm not allowed to be as excited for my second child as I was for my first?"  Because that sort of thinking seemed to be the catalyst for her train of thought.  *facepalm*

I was completely incredulous.

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  • cookierlr1cookierlr1
    wow...I don't even know what to say to that....
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  • NurseLaLaNurseLaLa member

    Seems like a legitimate concern she had about DD1 not feeling as loved by both you and baby#2's daddy. She just worded it poorly.  Although it's a common situation nowadays, it wasn't back when your mom was raising her own little herd. 

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  • Kvitale87Kvitale87
    I think mothers have a poor way of wording things...
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  • erika1677erika1677

    imageKvitale87:
    I think mothers have a poor way of wording things...

    This! I know my mother sure does. 

     

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  • NativeFloridianNativeFloridian member
    imageNurseMom1:

    Seems like a legitimate concern she had about DD1 not feeling as loved by both you and baby#2's daddy. She just worded it poorly.  Although it's a common situation nowadays, it wasn't back when your mom was raising her own little herd. 

    I could maybe accept this if she, herself, hadn't had us kids each with different dads and then end up marrying my stepdad, who cares for and loves us all unconditionally.  I'd have figured that she, of all people, would understand the position I'm in, especially given the phenomenal relationship DD#1 and FI have.

    Then again, I'm assuming, and you know what they say about that, lol. 

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