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DH doesn't want to cut cord???
My DH is ecstatic about the arrival of our little darling. However he does not want to cut her cord. I've explained over and over it won't be disgusting. But he's being totally sqeamish and i've begun to find it funny. He says he wants to be with me, not cutting the cord. Any one else DH not willing to cut the cord?
PS I'm not saying it's a requirement or mandatory either!
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Re: DH doesn't want to cut cord???
My DH isn't cutting the cord either. I'm the one who suggested it, mainly because I know he's a bit squeamish but also because I really don't think there's anything special about the man hacking away at a gigantic vein with a pair of scissors.
I get that men want to feel involved in the process but my DH is going to be my birth coach so he's involved enough. Plus I'm in agreement with your DH here, I want mine to be at the head end with me, giving me and our LO all his attention.
Remember, your DH not wanting to cut the cord isn't a rejection of you and the baby, or him saying he doesn't want to be involved.
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My DF kept saying he didn't want to cut the cord or even look down there when our son was born. I made him watch a few videos online and he started turning colors... I thought it was a lost cause to even try and push him. When the day arrived, he was down there watching and thought it was the most amazing thing ever even wished we had a video of it. He also didn't even think twice about cutting the cord when asked because he was so caught up in the moment.
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My FI won't. I asked him if he wants to, and he said no. I think that's fine. It's up to him. He also plans on staying near my head, and not looking down there.
I really don't care either way if he does or doesn't, as long as he's in the room with me.
Like a PP said - it's a really quick moment that I think gets more hyped up than it's even worth. My DH cut the cord when DS was born but he's a physician and obviously not squeamish. I wouldn't push your DH on it - if he feels like doing it in the moment, great - if not, no big deal.
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My husband was undecided before DD1 was born. In the moment it was offered to him, he did it, and he said he'd do it again for this baby. He said it was no big deal and felt like cutting a rubber hose, ha.
This was our situation. We're both super squeamish, so I didn't care at all that DH didn't want to cut the cord. Or see anything. But he ended up totally involved anyway. First the staff asked him to hold a leg during pushing, at which point you can't really not see everything (and yet he was still right by my head), and then once LO was delivered, the OB simply handed him the scissors without asking first and he wasn't willing to decline so he did it. And reported later that it was much easier than anticipated. He'd imagined having to hack through something but it snipped easily.
Mine has no desire to either.
Doesn't bother me at all. I don't really care in fact for some reason.
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Well i'm glad my DH isn't alone lol. but i think if the dr did hand him the scissors he'd do it, but then again my DH is a crier soooo that may not be a good idea lol.
I guess when the moment happens we shall see, and to the lady who's DH said let the dr do his job lol that so sounds like something my DH would say. I told him earlier today it's just a little snip and he said a little snip too much. So at this point lol we're on the no side of this question.
Wow, I am surprised at how common this seems to be! DH mentioned something a few weeks ago about how he's not too thrilled if he has to do it. I kind of always assumed that the father typically does and the drs/nurses would look at us like weirdos if he didn't. DH is kind of squeemish too so maybe I won't have him do it.
My H isn't sure about cutting the cord (and depending on the situation he might not even have the option). I told him he can wait and decide at the time how he feels. But we did talk about catching the baby. That was something that he seemed really interested in. I think it is sweet that he wants to "catch" her, but again, it's something that might not even be an option. I think we are going to just wait it all out and he will decide for both at the last minute.
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My father was the same way. In his mind, they were paying the medical professionals to be there, so might as well have the properly trained people do it.
My DH faints at the sight of blood, so he'll be staying far away from it.
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My DH did not want to cut the cord with DD1 (although we ended up having an emergency C-section anyway) and he does not plan to with this one, either. He's totally squeamish and would probably faint if he "had to" do it. He also didn't (and will not) plan to watch the baby come out. He stayed up by my head the whole time. That's fine with me!
Well that's interesting that he'd catch her but not cut the cord. That's a different approach to the situation. My DH would not catch her, I think that's a little too much. But I think it will be last minute for us also. Like a PP said i'll let the staff still give him the option to do it. He may change his mind who knows.
This exactly. I honestly couldn't remember if DH did or not and had to ask him. I was so relieved and happy that my son had arrived safely that I didn't even notice. It happens so quick, don't worry about it!