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question regarding child support

kattieebugg4511kattieebugg4511
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Im usually a lurker on this board and have run into a situation. I got pregnant with my son last july and after the father found out he split. I knew i was going into this as a single mother, i should probably add i live with my parents. The father of my child has not been apart of his life at all, hasn't even ever met him-never signed the birth certificate  (my son is 2 months old!)

Well my parents want me to go after him for child support soon (my dad is trying to find a lawyer and talk to them on my behalf (not sure i want this!) 

Well i have so many worries regarding this

1. Can i force a DNA test, and will i have to pay for it, will the state pay for it, or will he have to pay for it?

2. Will the father have the right to try and take my son away from me? And if not will he be able to try to have overnight visitation (i exclusively breastfeed)

3. He doesnt have a current job (he cant keep a job for more than a couple months) will that effect anything

 4. Is it really worth it?

I dont know what all im getting into with all of this and thank you in advanced 

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Re: question regarding child support

  • okballet16okballet16 member

    In my state, the person who requests the DNA test pays for it. I'd wait for him to ask for it so you don't have to pay. 

    Visitation and custody both have nothing to do with child support, different courts.

    He will owe you money whether he has a job or not. My ex didn't have one then I hit him up for CS and he had to get one to pay.

    And yes it's worth it, it's extra money.

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  • Raspberry807Raspberry807 member
    imagekattieebugg4511:

    1. Can i force a DNA test, and will i have to pay for it, will the state pay for it, or will he have to pay for it?  If he requests one, he will pay for it.  If he denies paternity, they will make him get a test done, and he will pay for it.

    2. Will the father have the right to try and take my son away from me? And if not will he be able to try to have overnight visitation (i exclusively breastfeed) CS has nothing to do with custody... if he wants visitation/custody, he will have to petition for that separately.  Document everything.  He can't "retaliate" or anything if you file for CS... the system is there to protect you and your baby.

    3. He doesnt have a current job (he cant keep a job for more than a couple months) will that effect anything  no, they will figure the CS amount and then it begins accruing... if he doesn't pay, whether he has a job or not, it just keeps building up

     4. Is it really worth it?  yes!  Your ex should be held at least financially accountable for his child.  Even if you just sock away whatever you get for a college or car fund for your baby :) 

    Good luck.  I didn't want to file either, and it actually took my ex getting another girl pregnant for me to do it.  I regret not doing it sooner!

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  • cherryringpopcherryringpop

    I'm currently owed over $24,000 in CS for my daughter. It doesn't really  mean anything if he's going to keep working "under the table". They took away his drivers license but that doesnt matter to him. I really don't think I'll ever see a cent of it.

    Good luck!

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  • imleeannimleeann member

    im in the same situation.  i live with my parents and everything too. i actually called a place about child support and i got papers sent to me and this survey thing i had to fill out and send back, it was basically information about the 'father'. and it said that i will not have to pay for a DNA. but im not sure who will him or the state? it didnt say. so i sent them in and talked to a lady and she said she is going to be contacting him and thats all ive heard so far. at first i wasnt going to go for child support but i think that it would really help me with him.

    his 'father' doesnt even know he was born well ive tried contacting him but he doesnt respond to anything, and i havent talked to him since i was about 4 months pregnant.

    and the father doesnt have any rights as far as i no. he will have to go to court for that. and then its all in the courts hands pretty much.

    im also worried about visitation. i dont want him to be able to take DS when im not there, i wouldnt trust him. i would be a nervous wreck the whole time. and i honestly dont think he would want to see him anyways.

    but good luck with everythinnng!

     

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  • hollyg1920hollyg1920 member

    1. Can i force a DNA test, and will i have to pay for it, will the state pay for it, or will he have to pay for it?

    depends on your state...when i went and filed for CS the county ordered a DNA test since he did not sign the BC and I did not have to pay for it

    2. Will the father have the right to try and take my son away from me? And if not will he be able to try to have overnight visitation (i exclusively breastfeed)

    CS has nothing to do with visitation and custody...if he wants rights he will have to get a lawyer (and it is expensive) and go through the court

    3. He doesnt have a current job (he cant keep a job for more than a couple months) will that effect anything

    CS will be calculated on potential earnings and your earnings and expenses...my ex had no job and i did and they based child support based on what he could make

     4. Is it really worth it?

    YES!!!!  your LO is entitled to CS.  even if he does not pay it is still worth it because it is for your child

     

    you do NOT need a lawyer...go to your county office for child support and have them represent you...for free

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