Whose DH gets 'Baby time'?

CrosswhiteBaby1 · June 2011

My DH is still kinda weird about the pregnant situation. like the fact that there is a little life growing inside me and he just kinda pokes at my belly. its kinda cute actually. lol. well i want him to have 'baby time' and like rub lotion on my belly and kinda 'warm up' to it and know that he's not gonna hurt me. (he treats me like a porceline doll) lol but do your DH's get belly/baby time and rub the belly or put lotion on for you? i mean everyday is getting kinda annoying and im getting tired of rubbing the lotion on my belly 2-3 times a day ya know?

is this even a good idea? hes leaving for boot camp when im 24 weeks. so he'll be gone in 10 weeks and i want him to get as much baby/belly time in as possible. what do you ladies think?

manbearpig31610 · June 2011

I think it may be a sweet memory for him to hold on to while he's away at boot camp and has limited contact with you. If you think he'd enjoy it, go for it.

HappyAardvark · June 2011

My dh only really became interested in my belly (talking to it, rubbing it) in the past few weeks after I popped and looked pg, not chubby. But would I institute some strict "belly time" appointment for him every day to rub lotion on me? No, that's sort of weird. See if it just happens on its own.

CrosswhiteBaby1 · June 2011

HappyAardvark:
My dh only really became interested in my belly (talking to it, rubbing it) in the past few weeks after I popped and looked pg, not chubby. But would I institute some strict "belly time" appointment for him every day to rub lotion on me? No, that's sort of weird. See if it just happens on its own.

well obviousy i wouldnt MAKE him do it...only if he wants..

SheLovesMrHip · June 2011

My DH gets "Belly Time".....he makes sure he loves the belly at night. Just comes over and outs his head on it. So now when this doesn't happen I tell him he missed Belly Time and he needs to get over here and do it!

chuckiep · June 2011

My SO gets his belly/baby time right before bed. After I put on my lotion, of course Stick out tongue He's a massage therapist so I understand why he doesn't jump at the opportunity to rub some lotion on me. lol. But after that he wants me to sit up and he rubs my belly, trying to feel kicks. Then he'll put his face close and talk to the baby a little bit. It's really cute. And when we sleep he always holds my belly.

I think if it's something he'd like you should definitely go for it. It can be a way for him to have a bond with the baby before he leaves for boot camp. And a nice memory for you, too.

ashleighlynn0812 · June 2011

I'd let him get as much as possible! My SO has "baby time" every night before bed. He puts his head near my bump and talks to her. She actually kicks back. Its the cutest thing ever!

My SO rubs my belly, but no lotion. That's a good idea, get his baby time in and get my stretch marks lotioned up to heal! lol! Saves the extra time of applying lotion on my time.

Roxyroodle · June 2011

DH and I read before bed and I'll put his hand where the baby is kicking while we both read, He does help put lotion on sometimes and I try to tell him what the baby is doing when we are together. I wouldn't force him to interact, I

might try to get him to start a journal to the baby where he writes feelings/notes what ever to the baby while he is away.

RobotLegs · June 2011

You people are weird.

zellerwallacebaby · June 2011

So cute. I'm wondering if all this lotion is preventing stretch marks? When I first found out I was pregnant I thought my husband would be doing that every day, he hasn't once, i think he's still scared. so, i'm interested to know if you are stretch mark free.

Anyways, my husband has had to be away one business during the week and while I get used to it and am really busy with work, I think you'll find out that you really miss the time your DH is spending with the baby so i would try to savour it for now.

But, let him know it's a bit too much. Maybe your DH thinks it's too much too and is just trying to make you happy. Maybe he could spend some music time with the baby (i don't think the baby will hear for another couple weeks, but you could get started) he could hold up headphones to your tummy and then leave a mix tape (mp3) for you to have the baby listen to while he's gone. I'm sappy, and pregnant which is increasing my sappiness. or he could just put his hand on your bump and pass on good vibes.

Good luck!

SuzJune04 · June 2011

Personally, my DH didn't really make "baby time" until I was much further along in DS's pregnancy. Early on, he picked out a pair of baby socks which he stuck to the refrig (as a reminder each day). Then he read a kids book to the belly when I was 7mo or so. He came to all my doctors appts & ultrasounds with DS but I think that was also to support me. We also took a "Baby Care & Infant CPR class" together and he read one baby care book that I gave him.

This pregnancy he has just come to ultrasounds and been helping take care of DS when I was too tired. I'm not worried though because I know he'll bond with the baby later down the road, there is tons of time.

Elsker · June 2011

I don't think it should be a scheduled thing, or require lotion or anything, but I think it's a great idea, especially if it comes natural to him. Since your DH is going to be away the book "Oh, baby, the Places You'll Go!: A Book to be Read in Utero" by Dr. Seuss, might be sweet for him to read to the baby. What a great memory to have while he's away

My DH has been great the whole pregnancy, but he really got involved when I was showing enough to start geting stretchmarks : My weight has always fluctuated and I've never had stretchmarks, so I thought for sure my skin would be able to adjust...nope.

The first day I noticed those deep purple lines on the bottom of my belly (it sucked) he smiled, grabbed the belly butter, knelt down and told the baby she was getting so big and he couldn't wait to see her as he rubbed it on She moved a lot while he was talking, which was awesome because it was like they were having their own conversation for the first time!

Since then almost every night around bedtime he has "baby time", and they "play" for a little while (he says that his poking at her and her kicking back is them playing)..I almost feel like I'm interrupting sometimes if I caugh or giggle! I in awe at how amazing he is with her already

stardust317 · June 2011

My husband pats my stomach in passing 2-3 times a day. He seems satisfied with that.

DawnJM25 · June 2011

This is our first baby, so I haven't necessarily had an expectation of my husband as far as bonding with the baby. He feels it kick when possible, and sometimes before he goes to sleep he puts his head up to my tummy and talks to the baby. I just let him do what he wants to do as far as bonding at this point. I read somewhere that often dads don't feel bonded to the baby until it is born. I can understand that; it's so different for us being pregnant feeling the baby daily and knowing that everything we consume can affect the baby. However my husband wants to handle it is fine with me- this is a learning experience for both of us!!

Mrs.M317 · June 2011

The only time my DH was interested in touching my belly was when the baby was moving. I can say with confidence that he would've given me the side eye if I asked him to have "belly time" and rub lotion on me.

But to each their own I guess...

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