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Does anyone lo cry themselves to sleep?

CleryClery
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I have been attempting to ferberize but I don't do it for naps and I still take her into bed with us around 11 or 12. So basically it is not working that well but it is better than it has been.  It has been a week and she still is cio before she falls asleep. It is never over 20 mins tonight it was 14. My question is does anyone's lo cry themselves to sleep every night? Could it be just what she is going to do? or is it because I am inconsistent with naps and taking her to bed with us? Thx, this mama needs help, I am worried I am fing her up.
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    You have to do what makes sense to you/you are comfortable with.

    But that being said...I do think not sticking w/ naps and the taking her into bed w/ you especially is probably dragging the process out. I dread having to do Ferber, if we ever do, but once we make the call to do it, I think you have to stick with the process as laid out in the book. Otherwise, it's not going to work as intended, you know?

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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member
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    You have to do what makes sense to you/you are comfortable with.

    But that being said...I do think not sticking w/ naps and the taking her into bed w/ you especially is probably dragging the process out. I dread having to do Ferber, if we ever do, but once we make the call to do it, I think you have to stick with the process as laid out in the book. Otherwise, it's not going to work as intended, you know?

    I agree with this.  Consistency is going to be the name of the game.

     

    We're not Ferberizing Elsa, but we did start a new sleep routine last Thursday.  Every sleep has been similar - we go into her room, start her sound machine, pop in her paci, start her music machine, roll her onto her tummy, and pat/rub her back.  When she's calm, we leave.  If she cries, we come right back in and do it over again until she stops crying when we leave.  

    EVERY sleep.  EVERY nap.  EVERY nighttime wakeup.  She's getting the hang of it fairly quickly because of that consistency, I think.  

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    imageScout05:

    You have to do what makes sense to you/you are comfortable with.

    But that being said...I do think not sticking w/ naps and the taking her into bed w/ you especially is probably dragging the process out. I dread having to do Ferber, if we ever do, but once we make the call to do it, I think you have to stick with the process as laid out in the book. Otherwise, it's not going to work as intended, you know?

    I agree with this.  Consistency is going to be the name of the game.

     

    We're not Ferberizing Elsa, but we did start a new sleep routine last Thursday.  Every sleep has been similar - we go into her room, start her sound machine, pop in her paci, start her music machine, roll her onto her tummy, and pat/rub her back.  When she's calm, we leave.  If she cries, we come right back in and do it over again until she stops crying when we leave.  

    EVERY sleep.  EVERY nap.  EVERY nighttime wakeup.  She's getting the hang of it fairly quickly because of that consistency, I think.  

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  • cvillecouplecvillecouple member
    According to Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, he says that it's okay to do things differently for naps and night time.  Be consistent with each-- every nap, every night time sleep, but kids know when they're going to bed for a nap and when they're going down for the night.  So, I say, do whatever works for your family.  We've done CIO a few different times, and he always stops crying after a week or so, and just settles down realizing that crying isn't going to get him anything.  Even at 2 he still does this if we have gotten on a bad sleep cycle and need to right it again.  Good luck.
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  • elisbuelisbu member

    I also read(study by american pedis) that some kids need to release energy before they can sleep, so they cry.

    I am sure it's hard, and I dont look forward to it, but I think if it works, its worth it.

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  • darkskyydarkskyy member

    We followed ferber exactly. Since then, we've had no problem STTN and dropping night time feedings and the paci.

    Some night DS talks himself to sleep, some nights like when he's over tired he cries himself to sleep. It almost never goes on for more than 10 minutes, if even.  But yes, there are nights when DS cries himself to sleep.  It's not fun, but it works for him and he is overall a VERY happy and calm baby.

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