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Most Tired Man in the Universe

JAKeefeJAKeefe
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I think i married him. It is making me insane. I can honestly say that, in the last 15 months, any time i ask DH how he is feeling/doing his response ranges from "just tired" to "completely exhausted". Give me a freakin break. I had DD at the cape since friday so, um, how was sleeping through the night uninterrupted? Cuz she and i logged a solid maybe 4 hours of sleep last night. Oh and how was sleeping til 1030 thursday morning when i took DD w me to drop my parents at the airport? Seriously, im trying not to keep score here, but if he is going to complain regardless of what i do, then i will gladly let him get up w DD and ACTUALLY BE TIRED. Maybe thats not fair. Maybe he is tired, but who lets it monopolize their time with their family? It infuriates me moreso because i will be all amped up to take DD somewhere new and hes not up for it 99% of the time. Im at my wits end. Anyone else dealing with this???
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  • shoeboxxshoeboxx member
    Yes...I'm right there with you.  H will do things with us as a family, but he's always tired.  The difference between he and I are I know he's tired...I respect that he's tired, but for him, I have no reason to be tired.  H works Sunday - Friday sometimes 60 hours per week....yes...he's tired...he has a physically demanding job as well.  I work M-F 37.5 hours per week.  H works nights, so I'm alone doing everything for LO.  When I hit the bed at night...I'm done. 
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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    Do you stay at home? I see you formula feed, so if you're both working, I don't understand why you're not splitting night duties! I breastfeed so I was always on overnight duty until recently.  When DH would complain about being tired, and he did, A LOT, I would say, um hi, I haven't slept more than 4 hours straight since two days before our child was born.  You can feel tired, but I need you to suck it up a little! I can sympathize.
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  • 1G2Bmommy1G2Bmommy
    You say this has been going on for a while, could there be a medical reason WHY he is tired? I know for a long time, I was extremely anemic (for reasons beyond my period, etc), and it really affected my energy.
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  • JAKeefeJAKeefe
    imageguppysown@yahoo.com:
    Do you stay at home? I see you formula feed, so if you're both working, I don't understand why you're not splitting night duties! I breastfeed so I was always on overnight duty until recently.  When DH would complain about being tired, and he did, A LOT, I would say, um hi, I haven't slept more than 4 hours straight since two days before our child was born.  You can feel tired, but I need you to suck it up a little! I can sympathize.
    We both work 40 hours per week-i work 13 hour shifts (ends up being a 15 hour day with commuting) and he does 10 hour days four days per week. DD drinks milk now so duties can be shared equally-and he is pretty good about trying to help. I think a big part of it is that he is used to getting to have down time during the day as well as sleeping as much as he sees fit, and places a lot of value on such things. I, on the other hand, would rather be a bit over tired if it means getting to do a fun activity for DD. Maybe it is just different perspectives but it was just really making me crazy yesterday.
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  • JAKeefeJAKeefe
    image1G2Bmommy:
    You say this has been going on for a while, could there be a medical reason WHY he is tired? I know for a long time, I was extremely anemic (for reasons beyond my period, etc), and it really affected my energy.
    You bring up a really good point. I think it might play a small role ib our situarion-in addition to what i posted above. We actually had an argument about going for a walk with DD the other day. DH goes "i dont wanna go for a walk. I walk all the time. I just wanna relax." Oy. Ive explained to him that akthough it seems like a paradox, the more physical activity you engage in, the more energy you will have. I mean, the mans a doctor, so its not like this should be news to him. I guess ill just have to put a little more energy into getting hm off his a$$ before he misses something great. That really is my biggest concern cuz i know some day DD will hit an age where we will be begging her to do a family activity! Sorry for the lack of grammar and awful spelling. The ipad and i dont get along :)
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