They want me to use a broken crib

dazidog · May 2011

Ugh! My Mom gave us a used crib (she had at her house when my nephew was a baby) for DD #1, it's pretty old, about 9 years. DH was putting it together today and said it wasn't fitting together right. Well, it was broken in two spots, including one of the spots that we had used the recall kit because it was a drop side crib.

I'm assuming it's broken from just being old, mostly plastic parts, and it may have gotten beat up during our move (we just got to our new house).

Anyway, DH got all mad at me when I said "Forget it, it's not safe, I will go out and buy a new one tomorrow." He threw a little tantrum and said he could "rig" this one to "work." Let me tell you it is NOT fixable or safe! Then I tell my Mom and she says, "You aren't going to throw it away are you? Cribs can last a long time, it will be fine."

Geesh people! I got so upset that I started crying (horomones I know). All for the sake of a few bucks they want me to put my baby in potential harm. The thing is old and broken beyond safe repair. I'm just annoyed and thought at least DH would have agreed with me.

carrieatkeson · May 2011

Uhh yeah I would be heading out to IKEA I think they have one that is like $40 if money is the problem!

Kvitale87 · May 2011

agreed I wouldn't use it either! No chances should be taken when it comes to newborns.

SeaMama · May 2011

No one's feelings are worth your baby's life. Throw that thing out and get a new crib. If money is an issue you can literally get one for $99 at Ikea and they are nice and look good.

cookierlr1 · May 2011

With DH my guess is that money isn't the issue, his pride is probably a little hurt that he can't fix it : )

kxp004 · May 2011

Try not to stress... you know what you need to do so just go get one and don't worry what they say... safety first...

justme04 · May 2011

I wouldnt use it either.

I used a hand me down crib from my cousin that was fine when we got it and she was done having kids. Well when DS hit a year I moved the crib to clean under it and noticed that a main support bar had somehow split in two. My DH just wanted to duct tape it back together...which I eventually talked him out of. DS moved to sleeping in the pack n play until we got him a toddler bed (only a couple weeks). And we went and bought a brand new crib for this baby. I can deffinatly tell this crib is deffinatly better quality then the one my cousin had given me (and she had 3 kids in 3 years so it had seen a lot of use).

Hallil · May 2011

The safety of your LO is way more important than MIL's opinions or DH's pride. I say go pick yourself up a new one for sure! As pp's have mentioned, you don't have to spend a whole bunch of money if you can't afford it and any amount will be worth it.

Jake Ian's Mommy · May 2011

Take that thing out when they're not around and buy another one. They have some really cute ones at Wal-Mart for pretty cheap. :]

Mrs_M · May 2011

I wouldn't risk Lo's life in a broken crib. No biggie about it being 9 years old, its the fact its broken. No thanks! Just look on craigslist if you want to save money and buy a good one for a whole lot cheaper price. Good luck! Safety is best!

Baileysmommy2007 · May 2011

You can get cribs for under $100 that are safe and look nice. Go out and buy your baby a new crib mama. You can replace a crib but you cant replace a life. I dont blame you one bit. I myself was offered a crib and didnt take it bc i felt more comfortable buying a crib new instead of used.

twohniyt · May 2011

I share your concerns. There is no way I would use it or give it to anyone else to use. I would put it out for the trash. I agree with the above posters, you can find one for fairly inexpensive brand new or through craigslist/consignment sales.

GL to you!

BobbiJanay07 · May 2011

I agree trash it.

alliapistor · May 2011

SIL wanted to give me her 10 year old, drop side crib. We ordered the recall kit and are leaving it at MIL's house to use when we stay there. I figure that we'll be sleeping in the room with the baby when we're there and it's better than dragging a PnP on a plane so it isn't as big of an issue.

Can you suggest something like that? Or would you be comfortable with it? Leaving it at your mom's house for use when you visit her? (Assuming you can fix it.)

KatieRL1979 · May 2011

Other than the drop-side thing, there are tons of safety standards that have changed in the last few years regarding cribs (and they changed because babies DIED IN THEM). I would not ever for any reason use something that old for a new baby, not so much for the newborn stage when they can't move themselves around much - but for when they become more mobile and get themselves stuck. Stand your ground on this one and just tell them look - safety standards are there for a reason, because babies died using old/recalled cribs (ones that also weren't already broken beyond repair) and you're not willing to risk your baby's life to make them feel better.

tikitomban · May 2011

Tell your Mom thanks, but you think it broke during the move. Tell your DH that you are chucking it, and it's a non-negotiable issue. Not worth the risk. Go buy a crib at IKEA or get a GRACO lauren -- both cheap but safe. If Mom gives you a hard time (which I doubt she will, given the fact she's been a mommy), remember, you're the mommy. Your baby, your rules

Dani0701 · May 2011

NO WAY!!!! You march right out and buy another crib! That's your baby's safety you're talking about! No taking chances there! I can't believe that everyone wants you to use a BROKEN crib!

jgiles · May 2011

I would get a new one and throw the other one out so noone gets it and doesn't know better

Ivana_Stolichnaya · May 2011

Your husband is acting like a child. Tell him to get the fvck over himself and grow up. This is for the safety of the baby, not his ego.

colorschemer · May 2011

If your mom thinks that it's a great crib, then she can have back a great crib because you're going to go get a new one. Maybe your husband can deliver it to her while you're out getting something safe for your child to sleep in.

The crib and the carseat are really the only things that I am really insistent about being new and as safe as possible. I don't mind second hand clothes or toys or really anything else. There are piles of things that people think that babies need (and need to be new) that they done, but to me a safe crib and the carseat are nonnegotiable items.

colorschemer · May 2011

alliapistor:
SIL wanted to give me her 10 year old, drop side crib. We ordered the recall kit and are leaving it at MIL's house to use when we stay there. I figure that we'll be sleeping in the room with the baby when we're there and it's better than dragging a PnP on a plane so it isn't as big of an issue.

Can you suggest something like that? Or would you be comfortable with it? Leaving it at your mom's house for use when you visit her? (Assuming you can fix it.)

My ILs proudly told us that they got a drop side crib for LO when he visits. Since they live several states away, he won't be visiting without us so I figured that he's sleep in bed with us (he'll be 1 when we first visit) and I'll save the I think I'm too good for your crib conversation (because that's totally what it would turn into).

Now if only I could find a way to get MIL to quit trying to give us their SEVENTY year-old bassinet. I'm all for family heirlooms but not having a child sleep in one.

JUSTBEYOURSELF · May 2011

seriously I would hack it to pieces and tell your mom too late it is gone and now it is completely broken. this way another child will not get hurt.

I got mine from my bil and sil where I know it was completely taken care of, no recalls, and original parts and original instructions.

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