older toddler bedtime

Re: older toddler bedtime

• mrs.a.butler

  May 2011

  I started doing that at a year with C.

  I slowly lessened my time in there with him every 3 days by a few minutes until it was "kiss, goodnight, leave"

  Now, after I put him down, if he comes out, I promptly take him back to leave and do it again.  He rarely gets up, so when he does, usually something is wrong (but not always).  

  I would just tell her that you can't stay with her until she falls asleep but you will stay with her for a set amount of time.  And then after a few days, tell her you are only going to be able to stay another set amount of time, etc, until you aren't staying at all.  

  Good luck!  

  
  

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• MeganBrian

  May 2011

  We still lay with them until they fall asleep...

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• Mere7706 member

  May 2011

  I can't remember when we started the put down and leave thing, but it was when he was in his crib.  When we moved to the big boy bed, we continued that for a long time. He would come out of his room and refuse to go to bed, so we gated the door and he couldn't get out. He'd often fall asleep on the floor, or just climb into his bed on his own and go to sleep. (I guess it was a form of cry it out?)  Then we started snuggling and I'd often fall asleep in there with him. We still snuggle for a bit, but this kid doesn't seem to think sleep in important anymore (he was up at 11 still last night).  He knows he has to stay in his room and keep the light off, he's usually pretty good about that.

  This is our routine: pee/brush teeth, climb into bed to read a story, (used to sing a few songs but stopped that with the hopes it'd shorten the bedtime routine), say prayers, I get out and dh goes in, snuggles for a few minutes- sometimes he reads a story sometimes he just tells a story, get out and we remind him to stay in bed, keep the lights out, don't touch the fan.

  Good luck!

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• Lotte134

  May 2011

  For all his crappy sleep Will has generally been really good about going to sleep without us.  I think us being there tends to stimulate him so he can't sleep, actually.  We just do stories, songs, and drinks of water, then kiss him and leave.  Sometimes he's paging through a book, sometimes he's just laying there, but it's incredibly rare he needs us to come back.

  In your situation I might try check-ins.  Tell her you'll come back in some short amount of time (start with 1-2 minutes), do that, then slowly start to stretch it out.  At some point most likely you'll come back and she'll be asleep.  Then you can work on having to check in less and less often over time.
  

  

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• Mere7706 member

  May 2011

  aaahhh! Check-ins... yes! Do that, I forgot we did that too!

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• Dobie_Mama

  May 2011

  Right around the time we moved her to her own room - 20mos.  Sometimes I do lay down with her until she falls asleep but generally I read her a book in bed, kiss her goodnight, and she goes to sleep by herself.
  

  
  
  

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