how soon after a loss is good to try again

stacylopez87 · May 2011

hi my name is stacy and i lost my baby yesterday. i know that it will be a while before i can try again but i would like to know when it will be a good time to try again. and i was wondering if anyone has any advice on when is a good time and when its not just so i have my options open to anything and stuff... i will take any adive about my question.. thank you for reading.. ttyl

kate626 · May 2011

Hi Hun I am so very sorry about your loss. This may get more responses on trying to conceive after a loss as these women (including myself) are trying again after a loss. You need to talk to your doctor about when it is safe to start trying again. As everyone is different and our doctors know best. I was told to wait a few cycles and I waited about 2 months to start trying again and got my doctors permission to start again.

I know my husband and I were ready to start trying when the want for another child outweighed our fear for losing another child.

I hope this was helpful to you and again I am so sorry for your loss.

stacylopez87 · May 2011

i was told to wait until i have a normal period and anytime after that i can try. but that was by a nurse and not my doctor. i see my doctor on monday.. thank you for the advice

Cow-girl · May 2011

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You need to ask your doctor. Each situation is different. One dr told me one cycle after a D&C, another told me two cycles after a D&C. One told me a year after a 2nd tri loss, another told me 3 months. Your doctor knows your situation and will better be able to guide you. Just make sure you are emotionally ready to be pregnant again.

((hugs)) I know it is hard.

naflmj · May 2011

I am sorry for your loss. How long you wait depends on if you had a natural m/c or d & c as well as your doctor's advice. My RE said we can try as soon as we want and we will likely do an IVF cycle in July. Many want you to wait 2-3 cycles.

jenwill · May 2011

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The RE fellow originally told me one cycle (as in wait for your first period, then can try again). But when I talked to my RE when she called the other night to check on me, she actually said waiting 2 cycles. Her rationale is that they often still see debris in the uterus after the first period, but after the 2nd all is out. I'm gonna trust her on this as she was the one who was able to get me pregnant for the last 2 pregnancies when no one else could (though I really want to get started TTC again now!). I'd rather not got thru this again and want to have a take-home baby the next time. I would definitely ask your dr this when you see them Monday. Only they know your circumstances, etc.

stacylopez87 · May 2011

thank you so much for the advice i will ask my doctor on monday when i see him.. im atleast going to wait until he give me the ok to try again for another baby. yeah it has been hard for me and its only been 2 days now but my loved ones and my baby boys are keeping well busy from thinking about it.. but i do take my time away from everyone to just think and cry it out.. cause i was told not to hold in my emotions and to just let it all out.. and thats what i been doing when i start to blame myself for losing my angel.. it helps but the pain is still there and it hurts really bad.. at first i didnt think it would hurt me so bad when my doctor said i might lose my baby but when i did find out i did yesterday i came home and just cried and cried and thought about what my baby would of looked like and what sex it would of been.. it hurts me badly but with time i know i will feel better but i know the pain will be there forever whenever i look back and think about my little angel that is now with God and in a better place.. thank you for reading and listening it really helps me to talk to other about what has happened to me.. thank you so much

nursemama2be · May 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Because I had a D&C we have been told to wait 3 months. I think its up to your OB and how far along you were along with how you physically lost the baby. Good luck