Is your DH/SO...

MommaA117 · May 2011

staying in the hospital with you?

When I told my Mom and MIL that he is they both thought it was the weirdest thing, like they had never heard of such an idea.

I never consider him not staying...Is this out of the norm?

Mrs_M · May 2011

My DH stayed with me the entire time, it was awesome to have him and bond with our little girl. I packed a few things for him, including snacks (lucky guy, lol) and he was busy changing his daughter since i had a c-section and day 1 I was mostly in bed.

This time he is staying too. Mom is taking care of DD and he may run home to check on her but our plan is him to stay with me, besides its only 2-3 days and DD will be fine with my Mom.

heysupnatalie · May 2011

I am not sure. I would like him to but at the same time he probably won't stay just because we have 3 dogs at home that need to get let out. If my mom stays at my house that night since she lives an hour away then he will stay with me. If she doesn't stay then yes he will go home.
I don't know why people think it's so weird I've gotten the side-eye from a few people when I tell them that too.

Serinn · May 2011

I never thought about it the first time but I found out a lot of it depends on the hospital you deliver in anyways. With DS, DH only got to stay because we got in a private room, since I needed a csection. If I had DS vaginally, I would have been put in a shared room and husbands were not allowed to stay if you were there. The hopsital I am going to this time around has mostly private rooms regardless of how you have your baby so husbands can stay and mine will.

soontobe05 · May 2011

My DH stayed nights one and three after I had DD. My mom stayed on night two just so he could get some sleep, but he didn't go home til late and came back early in the morning. This time he'll be going home at night to stay with our DD because I want her to sleep at our house.

just kita · May 2011

I think maybe it seems weird to people because shared hospital rooms used to be the norm? It would kind of be weird to have to share a room with another married couple you don't even know. Most rooms are single now with cots provided for dads to stay, at least that is what my OB told me.

soontobemrsdavis · May 2011

He is all ready to stay. He has no plans (as it stands) to leave once I am admitted. I think parents are probably used to how it was back in the day when the dads pretty much were not apart of labor.

frogyie · May 2011

I don't think we have a private room and I think that dads visiting hours are from 7am to 10pm. We also have 2 dogs at home so I don't think so.

katiewhompus · May 2011

H is planning on staying. Since the hospital is close he may pop in a little bit to check on the animals and get some food but otherwise he will be with me and the baby. His family may also stay at our house while I'm at the hospital to take care of the animals, except for the cat who will be going to my parent's house because I don't really trust my in-laws with her. (They like to leave doors open and she's a darter)

sunset+skies · May 2011

He's going to run home for 10 minutes (the hospital is literally a 3 minute drive) to let the dog out and change his clothes.

Otherwise, yeah, he's staying with me.

ohdrama09 · May 2011

He will be staying the entire time. Our hospital is all private rooms with a chair/bed combo for dads. My 16 year old brother will be staying at our house to take care of the dogs.

SeaMama · May 2011

With our son my husband went home late at night - around 11 or 12 and came back at 7am. I just slept during that time and so did the baby (waking up to nurse, of course). I found no reason for him to sleep on the prison cot of a bed they provide for the dads. We lived fairly close to the hospital and it was no biggie. He was there all day every day the rest of the time. It was actually great to head home w/ someone who had gotten a couple good night's rest rather than both of us be zombies.

kmv68 · May 2011

My husband stayed with me when we had our first daughter. I did have him leave for a 3 hours to play softball (on the campus I delivered on), shower and let the dogs out....my mom stayed with me while he was gone.

This time will be no different, except he is a professor teaching a summer class so I know he can only cancel one class so there will probably be a good chunk of a day he can't stay with me this time.

LauraOTR · May 2011

Yes, he will be. He will leave occasionally to go home to take care of our dog (our neighbors will also help with that if needed). However, if I end up with a c-section, we might change our minds about it, if I'm there 3-4 nights. We're only 10 min from the hospital, so can play it by ear if we want to.

kattyleigh · May 2011

After I had DD, DH actually climbed into bed with me and slept there. It was cute and nice knowing he was there. ETA: It was a private room and will be this time too.

justme04 · May 2011

My DH stayed with me a couple of nights when I was in the hospital after DS was born. Primarily because I was soo sick and scared and started having a nervous breakdown when everyone started to leave...lol!

This time around I dont think DH will be staying with me outside of during labor and the birthing process because DS is at home and I think its important to keep things semi-normal for him.

pam1005 · May 2011

He is staying the first night and that is it. He only stayed the first night the last time too.

MissMommyMac · May 2011

My DH did with our DD but this time we can't afford for him to take the time off of work. If I happen to go into labor on during the weekend though than of course he will.

BobbiJanay07 · May 2011

Casey never stayed when I had Ian but that was my choice. He snores so badly and I wanted to be able to sleep.

cherhop1 · May 2011

Yes my DH stayed with me. I couldn't imagine him leaving me there alone with our newborn!

Have to add though that this time around I would be fine if he chooses to sleep at home. I know how important it is that we both rest up as we have a 15 month old and our hands will be full when I come home from hospital so this time it's a different story.

Your parents generation aren't used to men even being allowed to attend the birth let alone stay in the hospital so pay no attention to their comments.

jessicaclare · May 2011

Mine didn't the first time. DD was in the NICU and the bed was uncomfortable so I told him to sleep at home where he could get some real rest. With DD2, he didn't either, because I wanted DD1 to stay sleeping in her own bed. It will be the same this time.

COMomma81 · May 2011

Nope. He didn't when I had DS either. He was there my entire labor (which in itself was 30 hours) and the day he was born, but he was at work the day after. He deserved good rest. We also had two dogs that needed to be cared for. This time, he will be staying home with DS. I'm having a RCS, and will be in the hospital roughly 4 days. He'll be taking time off to help out after I get home with baby!

O2BaMom · May 2011

Yes he is. My DH has a bad back so I wasn't sure he'd want to (and I'd understand) when I mentioned it he acted like I was nuts for even asking.

FWIW I've never heard of a DH not staying at the hosptial unless the couple had 3+ LOs at home or something.

MommySteph2009 · May 2011

My DH stayed with me when I had DS, I couldn't imagine doing it alone, even if the guy was out of the picture, I'd have a girlfriend or relative stay with me.

kuipogirl · May 2011

My husband stayed with me the whole time. We had to pay for a private room for him to stay though but I am so glad that he did.

cookierlr1 · May 2011

DH won't even entertain the thought of not being there the whole time. I wouldn't want to be there alone so I am thankful : )

vigurl · May 2011

sunset+skies:
He's going to run home for 10 minutes (the hospital is literally a 3 minute drive) to let the dog out and change his clothes.
Otherwise, yeah, he's staying with me.

This exactly! 3 miles and 10 mins. Our doggie is wee wee pad trained but he needs to feed her, water her and change her wee wee pad.

fraservalleybride · May 2011

Def will be staying with me the entire time... My DS will be with a family member and they will bring him over.

We have a pair of pjs/extra set of clothes/few toiletries for him travel size . And in our room we have our own shower or tub!

We'll bring snacks/things to eat for M/W & Doula so dont have to spend a ton @ hospital .

Jessynlove · May 2011

seriously?

my husband wont leave my side when Im in the hospital. One, he is my number one support person and two , our baby will be rooming in with us and Ill need and want his help.

I never considered him NOT being there.

this is our first baby though. But, I even think with our next child he would stay with me...and our first would stay with grandma.

JuneBug0611 · May 2011

Yes, DH will be staying the entire time. I didn't know how all of this worked until our hospital tour, but there they seemed to assume that your DH would stay with you in your room. They are private rooms.

ekfritsche · May 2011

I don't think my H even thought that going home was an option, lol. The hospital I'm going to has all private room and beds/cots for guests, so he gets one of those, Smile

Emcat1980@yahoo.com · May 2011

When I had my son my H did stay. He was very uncomfortable on the little couch/cot thing and I should have just sent him home anyway!

With this one he'll be staying at home during the nights with DS. He will need him more than I will, and we don't have family up here anyway to watch DS.

Amya · May 2011

Absolutely! With my ds he was there the whole time and will be again. I wouldn't have it any other way.

12bailey18 · May 2011

I think it's out of the norm for our parent's generation when the husbands weren't even in the room during the birth. Totally normal nowadays and it would be weird if he weren't staying with you.

Cindilouwho24 · May 2011

No, He wont be staying. We live 5 min. from the hospital. I know him well, he would be so miserable not sleeping at home that I would rather have him get a good night sleep so he could be more help. Plus, he will have my DS.

MrsVictoriaB · May 2011

yup with DS1 he stayed the whole entire 2 days, never left once. With this one he will spend the night(s) but he will also go home here and there to keep DS1's routine as normal as possible and tuck him into bed at night

ohfour · May 2011

I feel like most people have their husband stay if it's possible.

We are going to play it by ear. It all depends when I go into labor, when DH can get off, how DD1 is doing at home with my mom, etc.

somethingscookin · May 2011

My SO has offered to stay and wants to but I would rather him go home to our dogs. We have a 15 month Rottie and he is a mamma's boy and I don't want his life to be altered to much so the transition of bringing our DS home is easier.

Dani0701 · May 2011

DH is DEFINITELY staying with me the entire time. He still has to pack his hospital bag, but he's not leaving. The hospital actually recommends it so dads get used to being around baby and helping out also.

Shelleybell · May 2011

yes he will be. That is the plan anyway.

kell8807 · May 2011

I spent the night 2 nights with DD#1. DH went home the 1st night, but stayed with me the 2nd.

This time, he will either go home both nights or possibly do the same. We live 35-40 minutes from the hospital & he will be going to work while I'm there.

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