Does your DH stay with the kids without you?

Andrewsgal · May 2011

This is a s/o of sorts and I will explain later, but does your DH stay with the kids when you go out, girls nights, weekend trips whatever? And are he and you totally comfortable with it?

EnglishMajor03 · May 2011

Yes.

Mc_Newlywed · May 2011

Of course

Andrewsgal · May 2011

I know it sounds like a stupid question, but from the post below about their DH SAH some people said it would be more work because their DH would be asking the questions all day, it blows my mind that there are fathers out there that can't/won't take care of their kids for 8 hours without the mom around.

prism207 · May 2011

Um, yeah. And he's traveled alone with him, the first time when Samuel was 16ish months. They go on outings alone on the weekends a good deal right now too, so I can have extra rest time while this pregnancy kicks my ass.

He's his Dad. It would be bizarre if he didn't stay alone with him, or if I was uncomfortable with it.

JenJar · May 2011

Yes, though I've never been away overnight, but he would if I needed to leave.

eaglesfan700 · May 2011

Absolutely. He encourages it, actually. He enjoys the time alone with them

This week alone I will have gone out 3 nights. He is taking off from work 2 days in August so I can go on a girls trip to Vegas

Mrs.Hizzo · May 2011

Yes.

HarrietNJMommy · May 2011

Yup. He's great about it.

MAprincess · May 2011

Yes, of course.

susanmosley · May 2011

Yes.

He is alone with DD from 9ish-7ish every other Monday and a few hours every Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday....and then any time I have something not work related to do. He has been alone with her, and darn successful at it, from the beginning...even in the 2 hour gaps while EBFing. Sometimes the meals he prepares are a little random, but it works well for both of them. I am so happy for the relationship they have because of all of the hours they spend together without me in their hair. I think I just went on a AW about DH, but well, he is a super dad and loves it.

ToBeMrsT · May 2011

Yes. He's great with the kids and can do everything very well around the house. He encourages me to get out as much as possible.

MamatoJackson · May 2011

We haven't done it yet just because the occasion hasn't come up but I would have no issues with it. Nor would he.

KMM06 · May 2011

My DH is fully capable of taking care of the kids by himself for a day. Has he ever done it overnight? No...would I trust him...of course there just is rarely a reason for me to be gone overnight as opposed for just out for the night.

I know when I was little my dad did NOTHING. When we were older he would help out but I wouldnt' be surprised if he didn't even change a diaper. I don't even trust my dad to be alone with my kids....maybe my 3 year old but definitely not my 7 month old. He would freak out if she started crying.

I think it depends on the way they were raised or sometimes if the wife/mother is controlling and doesn't let dh's do as much but there is no way I would let my dh get away with not putting in his fair share of the parenting duties...he is their father not a babysitter.

Cherryblossoms07 · May 2011

Yes. We don't do things the same and if I am around he will second guess himself and ask me all sorts of questions regarding DD, but I would and have trusted him completely with DD.

Mrs.Reem · May 2011

I recently left my DH with my girls for 4 days straight (twice actually) and he'd never watched them for more than 2 hours previously. There was some prep and training involved but there hadn't been a reason for him to watch them that long before.

Sweets2005 · May 2011

Well of course, he is their father...

nekorayne · May 2011

YEA he is awesome with DS! They have so much fun together and DH does a great job doing all the taking care of him stuff as well

passar3588 · May 2011

Yes.

twh2006 · May 2011

Yes with no problem.

bellablue2 · May 2011

YES! He stays with them so I can go to the gym, girls nights, weekends, whatever! He is awesome and he knows that after being with them all day that I sometimes need a break to feel like something other then a mommy!

babypuplove · May 2011

Ummm...yes. They are his children too.

babypuplove · May 2011

Andrewsgal:
I know it sounds like a stupid question, but from the post below about their DH SAH some people said it would be more work because their DH would be asking the questions all day, it blows my mind that there are fathers out there that can't/won't take care of their kids for 8 hours without the mom around.

Well, he's with them alone all the time, but he still has to ask me questions. It slightly annoys me, but I'm with them the majority of the time, so I get it. That doesn't mean he isn't capable, but mostly with the baby, he doesn't always know what time she needs her bottle or what she should have for lunch since it changes so often.

cactus5 · May 2011

Absolutely.

The_Jen626 · May 2011

Yes, my DH is alone with DD for a few hours every single week, they both love that time! He's kept her overnight by himself probably 20-25 nights since she was born, between my work trips and girls weekends away.

I think it's REALLY wierd if your DH is never ever alone with your kid. Seriously. Go to Target by yourself...go get a massage...anything. Get some "you time".

mbritto4 · May 2011

Yep. He's been ok with DD since my grandma was hospitalized when she was 5 days old and I'd need to go see her. Bugs the crap out of me when I have friends who call their husband spending time with their kids "babysitting" it's called parenting.

memali26 · May 2011

DH has stayed with DD numerous times, but never more than 4-5 hours, just because I haven't needed to be gone longer than that. He's perfectly capable, but I know he would have questions, simply because I am home with her all day and know her schedule, habits, etc., better than he does. But I could leave him with minimal instructions and know they would both survive just fine.

MrsBalletStar05 · May 2011

The situation doesn't come up very much, but yes - he stays with them while I'm out. I remember when we just had one and the two of them even took a couple road trips together to visit family.

Daisy77 · May 2011

Yep. It usually has to be planned a bit in advance, but he will and we're both comfortable with it.

mandymack · May 2011

Absolutely!

The first time he was with Emily overnight without me was when she was 14months old and I was in Las Vegas on a girl's trip for 4 days. Honestly, that was the first time we were both "ready" to separate in that way.

laney75 · May 2011

For brief periods of time, yes. He has never taken them both anywhere together (that is insane, but true) outside of the house. I plan on doing a girls weekend this summer/fall and he has agreed. He always agrees in theory but I'm pretty sure he is not thrilled with it. Too bad!

rab41380 · May 2011

Yes. Prior to staying home, I was working FT and he was home with her since she was a newborn on his days off. He is very supportive with taking care of her and I know he will be the same with #2.

*Willis* · May 2011

Absolutely.

However, if I'm in the house, he comes in to bother me/ask questions/etc quite a bit. So it's hard to relax, rest, get work done that way. If I leave - no problem. He doesn't call, he just figures it out.

luvmagoldn · May 2011

Yes. I'm usually not out doing something fun though - must recitify that!

But he's been alone with the twins when they were babies through now with all three. I once was in Germany on a business trip when the twins (no #3 at the time) got sick. He was home, by himself, for five days with two toddlers throwing up everywhere. He said later that after that experience, NOTHING scares him about being alone with the kids. Cool

I honestly could not be married to a man who wouldn't take care of his children without my help.

Stacyc625 · May 2011

DH has never watched either (or both) kids for 8hrs straight by himself. I will be the first one to say it. He does watch them if I have a girls night or out to dinner or whatnot. I totally trust him to watch them- and he would totally do it for 8hrs-

Honestly it the situation just hasn't presented itself (nor do I present it- it just doesn't matter to me). Only time it would happen would be on a weekend and I just consider that family time. We go away a lot together on weekends to our vacation house- or just around doing fun family things which totally contents both of us.

gatogrrl · May 2011

DH knows how to parent just as well as I do (in some ways, probably better). I'm having a 3-day weekend soon with some college friends, and although I know he'll be tired, I have zero reservations that he can handle it.

Boizmom · May 2011

Yes. He encourages me to leave and get out of the house by myself. He has no issues taking care of all 3 kids by himself.

Shozzies · May 2011

He encourages me to get out more than what I do. I've run errands and been gone several hours. I've never left overnight, but DH would be fine if I did. He gets a little stressed about food. For some reason, it's hard for him to look in the fridge and come up with the idea to make grilled cheese sandwich on his own. As long as I give him an idea of what to make, he doesn't have questions. When DD was younger, it used to make him really nervous, but now he's fine.

Temp174496125006552 · May 2011

Yes. I go out 3-4 nights a month and DH stays home with Ben. Jordan and I went to Chicago this time last year to look at colleges (she graduates from HS next month) and DH was here taking care of Ben (with a little help from his mom and my sister) for 4 days. DH is completely comfortable with it as am I. He's his father. Aside from me, no one else is going to take better care of him.

Que*Syrah · May 2011

No, because the night the rest of my friends are able to go out, he works. On nights when he is home I generally have nowhere to go. But, he will stay home with DS while I run to Target, etc.

Rink08 · May 2011

The only time that DH has ever stayed home with both boys was when they were both napping so that I could go to the store. (walking distance from our house) He had me prepare a bottle,put together a diaper, and bring our cell phone. So no he's not comfortable being left with two of them yet.

When we only had DS1, he was home with him in the evenings/overnights when I worked but DS1 was between 1-3 so he's more comfortable with kids when they are out of the baby stage.

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