My stepfather passed away =(

HadleyS · May 2011

Crying I won't be bumping much for a few days. I am just so upset. I was told about this news yesterday. I had a strange relationship with the man, I didn't like him a whole lot as a kid (none of us did), but as I got older, I understood him more and even felt a little sorry for him at times. I kept up with him more in these adult years than my sisters did. I would call him up during holidays and let him know that I was thinking about him, wish him happy birthday, happy father's day...things like that. I would call to talk about our football team and the Red Sox/Yankees.

He had kind of a rough life, and died alone in his apartment of a heart attack. I was going to call him next week and tell him about our pregnancy. And I was really looking forward to having him be a part of our child's life. He only has one family member left, everyone is back home in Arkansas and they are saying that there isn't even going to be a service, that he never really cared to have one. And he wanted to be cremated, that's fine, but no service!? Crying He didn't have many friends, it probably would just have been me, my mom, my sisters, his sister/her family, and maybe brother. I don't know what to do or where I should be! Crying

Tapatio, I hate to not be around when you might be testing, and I know you are at the point where you could technically test today/tomorrow, so I will try to watch out for that. I could use some good news!

steph141 · May 2011

I'm so sorry! I don't know what the right thing to do or say is right now, but you have my thoughts and prayers.

TigerFan · May 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you during this difficult time.

jertie · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss Hadley. He was a very lucky man to have you in his life - and it sounds like you really got each other. I'm also sorry that he won't be having a service - what people sometimes don't realize that it's not about the person that passed, it's more for the people that remain and can be very healing to attend a service. I really am sorry - ((BIG HUGS)).

camdenfaithful · May 2011

((((HUGS))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

D&D4Ever7 · May 2011

I am so sorry. ((((((HUGS))))). You and your family will be in my T&Ps.

rguinn75 · May 2011

((BIG HUGS)) so sorry for your loss hun. T&P during this time...

JoAnna914 · May 2011

Hadley, please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.

Even though your SF did not want a service, maybe you can have a small memorial service yourselves - it doesn't have to extravagant - just some time where you and your family can gather at a special place and share stories and memories of him and help you get some closure. After all, that's what a service is really all about.

csquared426 · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss.

LifeInANutshell · May 2011

I'm so very sorry Hadley - you and your family will be in my prayers.

DowagerCountessofNJ · May 2011

I'm very sorry. Thoughts for your whole family.

Mrs.Leah.Maria · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss.

MusicalMegan · May 2011

(((HUGS))) I am sooo sorry for your loss. T&P your way.?

haziedaze · May 2011

((HUGE HUGS)) Sounds like a really sad situation. Could your family decide to have a memorial on your own? Share memories, pictures, and just be together. Sometimes that's a really important part of grieving. We had a very untraditional funeral for my mom with no casket/urn there but it was right for us and still served that important purpose. T&P for you and your family.

hugs&hissyfits · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss! T&P out to your family during this difficult time.

bryanandkatrina · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss - lots of Ts and Ps for your family during this difficult time ((((hugs))))

Izabella22 · May 2011

Oh hon I am so very sorry for your loss. *HUGEST HUGS* I'm sorry there won't be a service but maybe you can find your own way to honor his memory. It sounds like you were a big part of his life and I'm sorry you didn't get to share your happy news with him. He is an angel watching over you and your LO, I hope you can find some comfort and if you ever need to talk hon I'm here.

duhdaisy86 · May 2011

oh I am so sorry...hugs

StephK86 · May 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. Maybe you can plan something with your mom and sisters? Like a memorial service? T & P's for you and your family.

Clerk9 · May 2011

((BIG HUGS))

I'm so sorry for your loss. I really like JoAnna's idea for what you & your family can do to memorialize him:

JoAnna914:
Even though your SF did not want a service, maybe you can have a small memorial service yourselves - it doesn't have to extravagant - just some time where you and your family can gather at a special place and share stories and memories of him and help you get some closure. After all, that's what a service is really all about.

My condolences to you & your whole family. We're here if you need to talk about it/vent.

mizdiz444 · May 2011

I'm so very sorry. Sending lots of prayers and ((((((Hugs)))))))).

jinx75 · May 2011

I am so sorry for your loss!!

Froggy76 · May 2011

I'm so sorry, Hadley.

RizziB · May 2011

(((HUGS))) So sorry for your loss. T&Ps to you & your family during this difficult time.

erinlovesdavid · May 2011

I'm very sorry for your loss, it sounds like you were a good daughter to him. ((hugs))

Junebug060609 · May 2011

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Hadley.

My thoughts are with you and your family. Even if he doesn't have a formal service, you can do something on your own to remember him.

ravenorchid · May 2011

((Hugs)) I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Muffinhb · May 2011

Oh Hadley I am so sorry. (hugs) If you need anything I am here!

rvandiver0705 · May 2011

I am so so sorry for your loss.

Karen1998 · May 2011

I'm so sorry sweetie. Big ((((hugs)))) to you during this difficult time.

smallfry5909 · May 2011

I am so sorry

opallover · May 2011

*hugs*

martinimomma · May 2011

I am so sorry for your loss, Hadley.

Oatoa · May 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

romigu · May 2011

I'm so sorry. Its so sad when someone passes away and even more so when that person had a difficult or lonely life. If it were me, I might celebrate his life in a small service to acknowledge that you cared for him and that he has passed. You mentioned that there would be people in your family that would attend a service, can you ask them what they think?

lots of hugs to you and your family.

Orchard27 · May 2011

I'm very sorry for your loss.

olivia_eve · May 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))

julesjb · May 2011

Im so sorry for your loss.... I will be thinking of you and am here if you need to talk

itsmegin · May 2011

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry that is very sad. I am sure that it meant a lot to him that you cared and kept in touch with him, and he knows you loved him and are mourning him now.

(((HUGS)))