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Leaving baby for the first time overnight

tripleastripleas
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H and I are getting away for the next three days.  We have weird work schedules, and I have the next 4 days off.  We decided to spend this special time off by going to a B&B.  My mom and step-dad couldn't be more excited to have a sleepover with L. I should be super excited, but I can't help but feel stressed.  I'm hoping this get away is exactly what we need.

Here's hoping that 1. I don't go insane missing my baby boy and worrying about him.  And 2. That H and I can get along and not fight during our trip.  We have alot on our plate right now with some of things going on in H's family.  (I've posted about these issues before)  We have been fighting non stop, which is really not like us.  I'm just hoping I can come back refreshed and well rested!

Have any of you other mama's felt anxious over leaving your LO's overnight for the first time?  Any tips on how to let go?

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  • AshtonMainAshtonMain
    I haven't left mine overnight, but just wanted to say I hope you have fun and try try TRY to enjoy yourselves! Big Smile
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  • momtwins19momtwins19
    Let me tell you what, when i left my 2 for the first time over night, it was with H, and i was going to be gone for 2 nights at a scrap booking retreat an hour and a half away with no cell reception. i was scared to death, and i was leaving them with their daddy!! omg. lol. but after i got to the cabin with the girls, and we started to scrap book and i started gettin pictures of the twins layed out, i got lost in what i was doing. we drank wine, watched a few movies, and just had a good girls weekend. you'll be able to enjoy yourselves, dont worry. just focus all your energy on your H and you should be fine :) if u have any other qs, feel free to ask :) good luck and congrats on your retreat. i need one with my H so bad. i never see him anymore he's working so much and when i do see him its to say good night or good morning. lol. so congrats on your weekend alone! ENJOY IT your LO will be fine. im sure the grandparents will do just fine. i mean look at you and your H. im sure u 2 turned out great. 2 days is no big deal. and it wont be long before you'll be begging to be gone for a week or more.
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  • write2nicolewrite2nicole member

    Well, I've only left him for 1 night at a time, and DH stayed home with him. But I tried to enjoy the things I can't enjoy at home. Like going out to dinner at a nice restaurant without having to worry about my meal getting cold because my baby needs to be held, or about whether the silverware is out of his reach. And sleep. I really enjoyed sleep.

    Honestly, once you're out there, and you're doing something else, the time goes pretty fast. You'll probably enjoy it.

    As for you and your H, I would suggest taking the opportunity to really communicate. Lately, DH and I have had some pretty big discussions every once in a while, and it usually starts as a fight over something small, and we realize there's something big we haven't been communicating about. 

    On the other hand, if it's not a communication issue, and it's just a difference of opinion, then you really have to agree to disagree, set it aside, and focus on remembering why you love each other and why you got married in the first place. 

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  • tripleastripleas

    Thanks!  I'm sure everything will be fine.

    We never, EVER get to spend alone time together.  We barely ever sleep together (as in resting in bed) any more.  I work 4 10 hour shifts a week, and H works from home.  H watches L the days I'm working and trys to get some hours in.  This is near impossible though, so as soon as I get home H locks himself in his office and is glued to his work.  I go to sleep long before he does, and I typically wake up before both of my boys.  Ugh.... The only time we talk is when we are fighting, or talking about L.

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  • momtwins19momtwins19
    there have been a ton of fights on this end too hun. H and i have been aruging. H has quite a temper, and with the stress of work, i get the blunt end of it. so if i dont do the dishes or the living room is messy he'll blow up. last night we had a really long talk, so hopefully that will help. but best of luck to you. all i can say is to just express your feelings to him. if you need to write it out on paper to gather your thoughts together, do that. and like the PP said, if it comes down to it, agree to disagree. and move on.
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  • tripleastripleas

    That's some great advice. I'm hoping this trip will be the answer to our problems (at least for a while), but if we still are having some problems I'm going to try writng my thoughts down.

    We both want stuff to be better, and we want stuff to work between us, we just aren't good under stress.  I tend to nag, and H has some serious anger issues.  He blows up really easily, and also gets over things quickly.  I'm the exact opposite.  I am slow to pick my words and I tend to hold grudges.  I think that writing a letter would be a great idea that way I could take my time and really express myself properly.

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  • momtwins19momtwins19
    we are a lot alike :) hehehe glad to know im not the only one going through issues. :)<3!!! hope things work out with you guys. enjoy your time away!
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  • quidditchcapn1120quidditchcapn1120 member

    We left J with my mom this weekend and DH and I went on a little trip together.  It was very hard at first, but once we got to Chicago we got kind of lost in what we were doing.  Then I got a little anxious again at the very end of the trip when I found out DS went through my ENTIRE 200 oz freezer stash and I only had pumped about 90 ounces during the trip.  However, in the end it turned out just fine.  The only thing is that somehow DS's sleeping pattern seemed to change over the weekend.  Not sure if it is because we left him or if it was a coincidence.

    Try to have fun and not worry too much.  Are you able to call in and check in often?  It made me feel better to call my mom and get a recap each morning. 

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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
    DD goes to MIL's about once a month and there have been 2 weekends.  The first few times I was a wreck but now I am okay.  Its good to get some time with you DH and you.
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  • shakesshakes member

    DS goes once or twice a month to either grandma's and has been since 5 weeks. I leave a pillowcase that smells like me and he does awesome. In all honesty, the first time we left him, I didn't even really miss him that much. I knew he was in great hands and that he'd be fine and he was. Now he waves at us when we leave. There was never any separation anxiety. :) You'll do awesome and he will be fine!

    side note...fighting...us too. Not good. xo

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