NCDR: Say a prayer

nrlewis · May 2011

A friend of the family with a little girl close in age to DD really really needs prayers.

Long story short... They did a nanny search through a reputable company in the area and selected this retired RN with stellar references, background checks clean, etc. etc. I mean they did everything right... Came home last week and noticed a bump on their DDs head and asked the nanny what happened. Nanny says she dropped her. Yes dropped her... That evening, overnight, DD didn't seem right, so they took off work the next day to take her to pedi for checkup. Pedi sends them to hospital. Turns out the baby appears to have shaken baby syndrome... but that's not all. Facial injuries are in line with being struck in the face. My mom touched base with me over the weekend to let me know that based on the MRI results and other evidence, they believe the nanny threw. the. baby. into. the. wall. Who does that? Why would you go into this profession if you can't handle it? I threw up when I heard about all of this. Charges are being filed and I'm not sure if the local news media will pick it up or not, but I sure hope they do and I hope that woman gets the worst punishment ever. The doctors say their DD will never be the same so please say a prayer for her and the family.

emsrdh03 · May 2011

It makes me sick to know people like this exist.

Thoughts and prayers to your friends and their little girl!

pixy_stix · May 2011

omg. I feel physically sick. Thoughts and prayers for all involved.

doxgirl · May 2011

This is heartbreaking. Prayers for the LO and her family.

RobinSparkles214 · May 2011

Oh my gosh. I feel sick. That is so heart breaking. Lots of prayers for your friends and their DD.

Was this in Ohio??

ejgballerina · May 2011

OMG. This is so heartbreaking! Thoughts and prayers sent!!

Nikki1007 · May 2011

pixy_stix:
omg. I feel physically sick. Thoughts and prayers for all involved.

happyhoopla · May 2011

That is so heartbreaking. It's horrible that there are such sick people in the world.

bethandjoe09 · May 2011

pixy_stix:
omg. I feel physically sick. Thoughts and prayers for all involved.

This. Also, my dad was really pushing for us to hire a nanny (with all the economic despair in Michigan right now he thinks we could get someone for really cheap) and I told him no because I wouldn't know where to begin vetting someone for that. This is just a reminder that even when you know what you're doing and find someone with all the right qualifications, things can still go terribly wrong.

veruca5839 · May 2011

That's horrible. T&P their way.

BrittLy15 · May 2011

Thoughts and prayers for your friends and their little girl.

LadyExtravaganza · May 2011

emsrdh03:
It makes me sick to know people like this exist.

Thoughts and prayers to your friends and their little girl!

astroMom · May 2011

pixy_stix:
omg. I feel physically sick. Thoughts and prayers for all involved.

carina9 · May 2011

This is horrible and my worst nightmare. Several years ago this happened to a close family member. Their LO was in daycare and one day, when she was about 6 months old, she fell ill. After a trip to the emergency room, the doctors diagnosed shaken baby syndrome and took the baby into protective custody because at first they suspected the parents. It took several weeks, but eventually a day care teacher admitted to shaking the baby because she wouldn't stop crying (turns out she had been fired from a previous employer for a similar incident). The reason I am sharing this story is that now, about 7 years later, this little girl is one of the brightest, smartest, most well-behaved children I know. Luckily so far they aren't seeing any long-term effects. I'm praying that your friends' child can also pull through this.

bananacupcake · May 2011

That is sick sick sick >:( I am shaking from anger, and my eyes are watering. UGH! How could anyone do that? I really really hope the little girl will recover.

Much thoughts and prayers for the family...

StephanieDM · May 2011

This makes me feel so sick. My heart aches for that baby and her family! T&P for her, and her family. I hope that woman rots in hell!

jenny1980 · May 2011

I am so heartbroken for that family. I will keep them in my prayers. It's just so hard to believe someone could do that to a precious baby. Especially, as you say, someone who chooses that line of work.

How devastating.

bethandjoe09 · May 2011

carina9:
This is horrible and my worst nightmare. Several years ago this happened to a close family member. Their LO was in daycare and one day, when she was about 6 months old, she fell ill. After a trip to the emergency room, the doctors diagnosed shaken baby syndrome and took the baby into protective custody because at first they suspected the parents. It took several weeks, but eventually a day care teacher admitted to shaking the baby because she wouldn't stop crying (turns out she had been fired from a previous employer for a similar incident). The reason I am sharing this story is that now, about 7 years later, this little girl is one of the brightest, smartest, most well-behaved children I know. Luckily so far they aren't seeing any long-term effects. I'm praying that your friends' child can also pull through this.

Wait, she was fired for abuse and was able to hire in at another facility? Which state was this? That's a HUGE oversight on someone's part - I truly and sincerely hope that heads rolled over this. And that the teacher was punished. I work in a nursing home, I know it's possible to reach your limits when providing care for people... but that's when you step away and get someone else to cover for you! I am so glad the little girl recovered, and I can't comprehend what her parents must have gone through, especially with her being taken into protective custody.

Mrs.B6302007 · May 2011

OMG! Sickening.

Lots of prayers for this sweet baby.

a.bartholomew · May 2011

Oh god, with all these daycare issues I am having...puts things into perspective. Definitely sending positive thoughts.

ToastieSimons · May 2011

I have a baby with special needs who screamed CONSTANTLY. I'm not exaggerating. 18+ hours a day for 5 months, then it got to about 8-10 hours a day for 3 more months. I can easily see where someone could SHAKE a baby to get them to stop crying, especially if they're inexperienced or it's not their child, etc. You hit a breaking point (this is when I would put him in his crib, put the monitor on mute go to the car and bawl my eyes out, scream, whatever I needed to do. I could easily see someone missing this "cue" for them and shaking a baby.

I, however, CANNOT fathom someone throwing a baby against a wall, hitting a baby in the face, dropping a baby, etc. Especially a child care worker. If you kno that you cannot handle a baby crying why would you be a nanny? At least in a center you would have someone else to help you but to be a nanny?!

I'm so sorry for your friends family and I will keep them in my prayers.

monona9 · May 2011

Oh.. my.. gosh. Heartbreaking.. so sad. I'm so sorry for that family and will send T&P to them.

searcy7 · May 2011

Thoughts and prayers will be said here that is awfull.

memo9 · May 2011

That is disgusting! Prayers for that family!

brownrubino · May 2011

This horrific and frightening and infuriating all at once. Thoughts and prayers with the family.

rvandiver0705 · May 2011

That is so horrifying. I'm so so sorry that happened to your friend and her little girl.

somethingchangd · May 2011

just terrible. they'll be in my thoughts.

MWoodside · May 2011

Oh my god. I am horrified. Literally have goosebumps from head to toe. What the fvck is wrong with people. That makes me sick. Prayers to the for sure.

amberry · May 2011

Oh my goodness, that is just horrific! I can't even imagine how difficult this situation is for them. I will definitely keep them in my prayers!

StellarStina26 · May 2011

This is so sad. Good for the parents being so observant of their child. Thoughts and prayers. I hope this little girl pulls through okay.

andrealynn0707 · May 2011

I literally gasped. LOTS of positive thoughts for that family.

carina9 · May 2011

bethandjoe09:

carina9:
This is horrible and my worst nightmare. Several years ago this happened to a close family member. Their LO was in daycare and one day, when she was about 6 months old, she fell ill. After a trip to the emergency room, the doctors diagnosed shaken baby syndrome and took the baby into protective custody because at first they suspected the parents. It took several weeks, but eventually a day care teacher admitted to shaking the baby because she wouldn't stop crying (turns out she had been fired from a previous employer for a similar incident). The reason I am sharing this story is that now, about 7 years later, this little girl is one of the brightest, smartest, most well-behaved children I know. Luckily so far they aren't seeing any long-term effects. I'm praying that your friends' child can also pull through this.

Wait, she was fired for abuse and was able to hire in at another facility? Which state was this? That's a HUGE oversight on someone's part - I truly and sincerely hope that heads rolled over this. And that the teacher was punished. I work in a nursing home, I know it's possible to reach your limits when providing care for people... but that's when you step away and get someone else to cover for you! I am so glad the little girl recovered, and I can't comprehend what her parents must have gone through, especially with her being taken into protective custody.

I'm not sure how bad/serious the reason was that she was fired from the first place....but it was along the lines of her losing her temper. I'm not sure if it resulted in her being physically abusive. Ultimately this lead to a huge lawsuit, setllement, etc. Yes, her parents were devastated.....each one I'm sure, even in a small way, probably was wondering if the other one did it. Now, years later, the family is good thank goodness.

pugznploons · May 2011

this is horrific my friend is a nanny for twins, one of whom has SBS. Friend was hired by the state to be their nanny when the babies were removed from the home and placed with other family members that worked full time and couldn't be with the babies during the day. Parents were investigated for SBS but never fessed up to it as they'd lose their parental rights. Babies are back in their custody now, albeit with lots of visits from CPS. The number of doctors appointments the baby has had is crazy. Fortunately she is doing well, just hitting milestones a couple of months behind her sister.

I hope this baby has a strong recovery, kids can be so resilient.

Kimmy1836 · May 2011

There is a special place in hell for people like that.

SimoneSays22 · May 2011

This is why I believe there should still be public stonings. Kidding. Maybe.

I'm so sorry for that family and that precious baby. I'm sick to my stomach.

sweetpea18 · May 2011

I just about threw up reading this. Lots of prayers for that sweet little girl.

DMCinderella · May 2011

Just speechless! T&P's to the little girl and her family!

Roxpup · May 2011

YGPM

GavinRonansMom · May 2011

I am sickened by this! I can't ever imagine ever doing that to anyone, let alone a baby....My T&P are with this family. I work with children with Special needs and I know how resilient kids can be, I hope that she pulls through

MothyrGrimm · May 2011

Thoughts and prayers for their poor little girl, prayers for a miracle and a healthy come back. It's a horrible disgusting thing to happen, and went through the same thing with my best friends 4 month old nephew. Although instead of a nanny it was his own father... sadly he didn't make it and his father now rots in prison. ::hugs:: It's a hard thing to go through no matter if it's your child or not.