Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Having babies close together

When we were in MD this past week, my grandfather asked me "When are you guys going to get pregnant again? You know me and your grandmother had 8 kids in 13 years" I was not prepared for the question and almost choked on my food. We don't plan on getting pregnant again for another year.

For those that are pregnant again with LO #2 or #3 why are having babies so close in age? I'm not being snarky, just a question.

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  • I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

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  • kg_08kg_08 member

    We always wanted our kids close in age. My brother and I are 5 years apart, so we never went through the same things at the same time. For kids 5 years is a big age difference and we never had anything in common.

    If we can time it right we will have LO #2 just before DD turns 2.

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  • I'm not pregnant but I have been asked that question SEVERAL times last week.  I dunno if it is because Hudson is turning one or because people know we would like a large family.  Bottom line is both DH and I are on the same page in not being ready yet.  We want a large family, but we also want to have a big enough house, enough money to make sure everyone is taken care of; expecially in an emergency.  I know I will never have enough money to have a large family, but you have to do what is comfortable for you marriage as well. 

    We also know that Hudson is still small and we want him to be the baby for just a little bit longer.  That being said, if everything works out okay for us, we would love to start TTC in January.

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    DD - 6-2013
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  • I want to be comfortable as well. When we bought our house, we had NOT planned on getting pregnant for a while, so after a month of being in our house and found out we were pregnant was a huge surprise. We were going to try to get pregnant again right after DS 1st birthday, but we decided to wait until next summer so the babies would be, roughly, 3 years apart.
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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    DH and I did not particularly care for the age gap between ourselves and our siblings (3-4 years) so we were hoping that our kids would get along better if they were closer in age.  Also, I would like to get the baby phase over with sooner rather than later.  Plus DH is getting old.
  • it was sort of a financial decision for us.  We both feel strongly that a parent needs to be home for at least the first year.  I can only afford to not work for so long, so mine are two years apart.  I did not want them closer because my brother and I were very close in age, and even though there were some positives I did not think the negatives were worth it.
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  • imageLambie.:
    DH and I did not particularly care for the age gap between ourselves and our siblings (3-4 years) so we were hoping that our kids would get along better if they were closer in age.  Also, I would like to get the baby phase over with sooner rather than later.  Plus DH is getting old.

    I am 24 and 22 years younger then my brother and sister. We have the same father. Now the age difference doesn't affect us that much. LOL

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  • imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

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  • imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    LOL 

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  • imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

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  • imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    Hey!  Love the new sig pic. 

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  • imagemargotmacomber:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    Hey!  Love the new sig pic. 

    Thanks! It's how LO rols, with dirty feet and never a shirt on. 

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  • LJR 84LJR 84 member

    We just prefer our children to be close in age so that they'll "grow up" together. One year apart is perhaps a little closer than we would have planned, but we definitely didn't want more than two years between them.

    That being said, we'll most likely space #2 and #3 two years apart. :)

  • imageLJR 84:

    We just prefer our children to be close in age so that they'll "grow up" together. One year apart is perhaps a little closer than we would have planned, but we definitely didn't want more than two years between them.

    That being said, we'll most likely space #2 and #3 two years apart. :)

    I think we will stop at two. We had really decided on one but since my mother passed, DH and I decided to have one more and hopefully we will have a girl so I can name her after my mother. :)

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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

  • imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    She just left him outside for 4 days in the NC humidity and rain

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  • imageyankeebaby2:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    She just left him outside for 4 days in the NC humidity and rain

    Actually she spent 3 hours a day outside for the 4 days we were gone and stayed in our laundry room the rest of the time. Get your facts straight.

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  • imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

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  • imageMasonismylove:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

    It's not abuse.  But if there's a better, proven, and reliable way to do things--why not do it that way?

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  • imageMcRib:
    I am old. That's why.

    In my brain you're the same age as me.  Are we old? 

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  • imagemargotmacomber:

    imageMcRib:
    I am old. That's why.

    In my brain you're the same age as me.  Are we old? 

    I'm pretty sure I'm older than both of you. 

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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

    So you put her outside for an hour or you put her outside for three hours and then house her in the laundry room the rest of the time?  Because if someone made me live in the laundry room I would be snapping too.

  • imageMcRib:
    imagemargotmacomber:

    imageMcRib:
    I am old. That's why.

    In my brain you're the same age as me.  Are we old? 

    Is your brain making you 38? Kinda wish mine wasn't....

    Sometimes.  We're about to for a walk and I'm going to aim for about a seven year old's brain during it. 

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  • imagemargotmacomber:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

    It's not abuse.  But if there's a better, proven, and reliable way to do things--why not do it that way?

    It was the only thing I could think of at the time.  She has been good around DS since. She is rarely left outside though. The only time she spends time outside is if we are outside enjoying the pool, washing the cars, or giving her a bath. She will be outside for DS birthday party wtih the rest of us.

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  • imageMasonismylove:
    imagemargotmacomber:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

    It's not abuse.  But if there's a better, proven, and reliable way to do things--why not do it that way?

    It was the only thing I could think of at the time.  She has been good around DS since. She is rarely left outside though. The only time she spends time outside is if we are outside enjoying the pool, washing the cars, or giving her a bath. She will be outside for DS birthday party wtih the rest of us.

    Oh.  :P 

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  • imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageLambie.:
    imageMasonismylove:
    imageyankeebaby2:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    don't even waste your breath.  OP does not care at all

    It's not that I don't care, I just feel like Jade is ok outside, in our laundry room, or in her cage. What I do with my dog is my business.

    WTF is wrong with your dog?

    Jade snapped at DS one day and for her timeout I put her outside for an hour and everyone thinks I am abusing my dog.

    So you put her outside for an hour or you put her outside for three hours and then house her in the laundry room the rest of the time?  Because if someone made me live in the laundry room I would be snapping too.

    No. When she snapped at DS I put her outside for an hour.

    When we went out of town this past week to finalize my mother's estate, my neighbor watched her and put her outside from 4-7 every evening, but she was waked 4 times a day and kept in our laundry room becausae she destroys things when she is alone and she has done this all of her life. She has separation anxiety. She had more room in the laundry room then she did in her cage. But really, I don't think what I do with my dog is up for debate. I don't critize Yankee for having her DS crawl through a cat door, do I?

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  • imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    I thought that part of the dog being left outside while she was away situation was that she "couldn't afford" to board the dog?  So either that's a load of crap or she also needs to get her finances under control as well.

    I usually keep the snark to myself, but animal abusers bring out what my DH has termed my "indignant rage."

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    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    I thought that part of the dog being left outside while she was away situation was that she "couldn't afford" to board the dog?  So either that's a load of crap or she also needs to get her finances under control as well.

    I usually keep the snark to myself, but animal abusers bring out what my DH has termed my "indignant rage."

    You have no idea how much it is to board my dog. Don't worry about  my finances. All of our bills and our mortgage is paid every month and we don't get any help from the govt.

    To board her, we would have had to have her vaccinated. She is vaccine allergic, so on top of the boarding fees, that would have cost us $300. She gets the vaccines that is required by law, rabies and heartworm. If you don't believe me that this is ok, call a vet.

    You can be "raging" all you want, but this is my dog, not yours. If was abusing her, she wouldn't be on the best dog food, and I would branish her to her cage 23 hours a day.

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  • imagebeccaga16:

    I think about it from a few angles.

    1. Am I in a finacial position to provide for another child.

    2. Am I cleared by a doctor to TTC? Is my body healed and in a good place?

    3. Am I emotionally ready for another child?

    If all of that is in order then I would TTC #2. I however would never do it before DD is 1yr old. I was told I needed at least a year to heal in order to attempt a VBAC.

    All that being said... I am single now so it will be a while!

    I was raised by a single woman and I must say, I have the most respect for single mothers. :)

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  • imagesuperned:
    imageECOFRIENDLYHOUSEWIFE:

    I'm not trying to be snarky when I tell you I think you should get your dog situation under control before you start breeding again. 

    I thought that part of the dog being left outside while she was away situation was that she "couldn't afford" to board the dog?  So either that's a load of crap or she also needs to get her finances under control as well.

    I usually keep the snark to myself, but animal abusers bring out what my DH has termed my "indignant rage."

    She deleted her threads but you can see it cached if you want to enjoy some champion back tracking.  First the dog was banished outside full time.  Then just from 7 in the morning to 7 at night.  Then she said she was living in the tiny laundry room.  Then she left him alone outside on a 50 foot runner which was then changed to a 10 foot runner for 4 days while she went out of state.  First seh says the dog loves it outside now she uses outside as a timeout. 

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  • JhawkCEJhawkCE member

    I have 4 siblings who are a year or less apart (4 in 4 years) and I think that's a bit too close, we're going for around 2 years.


  • There are a few reasons why We are planning on having children close in age. One of them being that I am on the older side of maternal age. We would like to have 4 kids. That being said we also do not want out DD to know what it is like without a sibling. My mom had my brother and sister nearly 13 months apart. Growing up they where always real close and still are. I want that for my kids.

    If we time it correctly DD will be just under 2 when our next LO comes, again provided we time it correctly. While I wish that they would actually be closer, I would love to have 2 under 1 it did not happen this time due to having a c/s and wanting a VBAC. Regardless of the outcome next time around our next two will come 2-3 years after LO number 2, mainly so I can finish nursing school and work for a while. And then 3-4 will come hopefully in the 2 under 1 age.

  • imagekg_08:

    We always wanted our kids close in age. My brother and I are 5 years apart, so we never went through the same things at the same time. For kids 5 years is a big age difference and we never had anything in common.

    If we can time it right we will have LO #2 just before DD turns 2.

    Your's is the only response I've read, but I just want to tell you I am INSANELY jelly of your DD hair. I'm sure you hear this alot! She is so adorable though!

  • imageSummerMoni'Que:
    imagekg_08:

    We always wanted our kids close in age. My brother and I are 5 years apart, so we never went through the same things at the same time. For kids 5 years is a big age difference and we never had anything in common.

    If we can time it right we will have LO #2 just before DD turns 2.

    Your's is the only response I've read, but I just want to tell you I am INSANELY jelly of your DD hair. I'm sure you hear this alot! She is so adorable though!

    I was thinking of you this weekend. I heard Adelle in the deep or whatever that song is and I LOVE IT!!!! DS was shaking his little head when we were listening to it.

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  • imageMcRib:
    imagemargotmacomber:
    imageMcRib:
    imagemargotmacomber:

    imageMcRib:
    I am old. That's why.

    In my brain you're the same age as me.  Are we old? 

    Is your brain making you 38? Kinda wish mine wasn't....

    Sometimes.  We're about to for a walk and I'm going to aim for about a seven year old's brain during it. 

    I aim for about 13 so I can giggle at bathroom humor with abandon. So far it's working.

    Ha!  Good call. 

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  • Oh, guess what guys.  

    My dog sometimes is outside for 3 hours.  We have a really big fenced in yard and he loves running around along the fenceline for as long possible, at top speed.  And randomly stop, skidding sand everywhere...hilarious stuff according to him.

    He also enjoys the laundry room.  DH is usually gone, because he's a superhero, and Killer misses him so likes to lay against the door DH comes through the most often.  

    AND we have a cage in our bedroom where he sleeps at night, with the door open on a dog bed.

    I like talking about my dog. 

    Shot first, questions later.
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