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WDYS when someone asks, "what do you need for baby?"

StefandToddStefandTodd member
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I've been getting a few emails and phone calls from people who say, "Please let us know if there's anything special you need for the baby!" and/or "I'd like to get something special for the baby...what do you need?" and so on...

But they're not outright asking, "do you have a registry?" so I feel weird saying, "well, we're registered (here)"

Or is that what I should say?  I mean, what are people expecting me to answer with?  Of course we have a lot of needs for baby...but we certaily don't have expectations, and I'm not comfortable saying, "well, Auntie X, we'd love you to buy us the car seat!" :P  This applies to family (of mine and of T's) that live out of the State, aren't invited to any showers, etc.  Is the registry suggestion okay?

WWYSay?  TIA!

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Re: WDYS when someone asks, "what do you need for baby?"

  • jsugrinjsugrin member

    You can always say , " well if you want options we're registered at BRU, and the top two things I'm really hoping for are X and Y".  The two options would allow you to pick a medium and large or medium and small priced item based on what you think they like to spend.

    They're asking because they want to buy you something and they want to make sure it's special.  I'd speak up with some options otherwise you're going to get their idea of a super cute and special outift that you may hate, or not be seasonally appropriate ect.

    Also when people ask ?'s like that think about any fun things you have planned, neat toys, decals for the walls.  You can always do an Amazon registry too for some more unique and "fun" things.

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  • hersheykisshersheykiss
    I would be honest & straightfoward (but that is how I am). I would say something like, "We registered at Target and BRU so people all over the US can participate. You are more than welcome to go there and get ideas. Both places are great at shipping stuff directly to us so you do not have to worry about anything."
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    You can always say , " well if you want options we're registered at BRU, and the top two things I'm really hoping for are X and Y".  The two options would allow you to pick a medium and large or medium and small priced item based on what you think they like to spend.

    They're asking because they want to buy you something and they want to make sure it's special.  I'd speak up with some options otherwise you're going to get their idea of a super cute and special outift that you may hate, or not be seasonally appropriate ect.

    Also when people ask ?'s like that think about any fun things you have planned, neat toys, decals for the walls.  You can always do an Amazon registry too for some more unique and "fun" things.

    Ditto this.

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  • angelprobertsangelproberts
    OP I'm with you on the questions. Since I'm 2u2 with a girl and a boy all I can say is diapers, diapers, and more diapers of either size. Of course clothing that is boy themed as well but if I had a registry I would just direct them to that that way they're getting you something you want/need and they can choose what price range they want to go with. GL with the newest addition!
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  • SarahCeeSarahCee
    I would say something like "we need things like X Y & Z (different price ranges), but if you need other ideas we are registered here and there". If any of these relatives/friends that are asking are crafty (and maybe older who don't quite get the registry thing), you could say "I would love if you made the baby a blanket (or whatever they do). It all makes me uncomfortable too, but like pp said, it's best to be straight forward.
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  • LoLoPandaLoLoPanda

    I got that too. The only thing we needed that we didn't get when DD was born was bottles. So when my cousin called to tell us she was visiting and asked what we needed, I said bottles and she bought us some.

    If there's a bunch of things you need, then I would say where you are registered. But, if there are specific things you would like that you're registered for, I would ask for them.

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  • StefandToddStefandTodd member

    Thanks guys!  Yeah, part of the issue for me is that this is our first so...what do we need?  Um, just about everything ;)

    And we're still several weeks + out from showers, so literally them asking me now it's like...we need everything.  haha.  I like the suggestion to say the registry plus a couple things we need.

    I know for my grandma, I tried to tell her we were registered and told her I'd email her a direct link to make it easy if she wanted (she emails, but had never heard of this "Babies r us business"...haha) and she said that'b be great, but then quickly asked, "oh wait, do you already have a silver cup?"  I was like..."no...." and she said, "ooh, okay!  I'll get you a silver cup...let me know what the baby's name is when he/she comes and I'll have it engraved...but you tell all your friends and family that grandma is getting you your silver cup!"...so yeah, she really did want something she considers "special" to give.  I guess it's just hard for me to pick those things as suggestions b/c we registered for lots of practical stuff, not really what I think most people consider "special," kwim?

    Anyway, thanks again for the ideas!! :)

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  • jsugrinjsugrin member

    I totally get it on the "special" thing, some people are just like that.  My mom has a friend that buys everyone single person a silver cup like your Gramma for baby and honestly, it's something that sits on a shelf and the other day I was considering just tossing oursEmbarrassed

    What I found is, people who have young kids will go practical off your registery.  Older people will want to buy froo froo clothes or something very practical but not terribly expensive and people without kids are totally clueless and grateful for the registry but likely to look and think, man all this stuff is boring.  I know they aren't things you'll need right away but one thing that I've started doing is buying a good toy that will last a bit because after the newborn stage you really get hit with another huge wave of expense but nobody around offering up stuffBig Smile.

    An amazon registry could look like this......

    https://amzn.com/w/YNB7BN09I4RQ

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  • StefandToddStefandTodd member
    imagejsugrin:

    An amazon registry could look like this......

    https://amzn.com/w/YNB7BN09I4RQ

    Yep yep!  We have an amazon registry.  I could add some more toys and things to it, but right now there are lots of wubbanubs and blankets and lots of more "special" things.  Thanks again!! :)
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  • amyfeliceamyfelice
    When my niece was adopted I wanted to get something "special" so I bought a silver tiffany's rattle. I gave it to her, she played with it for 5 seconds and bonked herself in the head with it. My friend put it away and I never saw it again, so much for "special". Tell them where you are registered, unless, like Granny, they just don't "do" the internet. Not that Babies R us is  not in every corner of the country, most likely. GL ! 
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