ear piercing

tchubirubi · May 2011

helenejr:

here's a question..... if you had a boy and your DH had a earing or flesh ring (which is socially excepatble now) would you expose your new born son to that or wait till he was old enough to make his own decision?

I think of that too. I don't really see a big difference apart from the greater social acceptance of earrings in girls.

kriskros · May 2011

no.. personally piercing when theyre that young wouldnt be for me.. id wait til she decided she wants to plus I think itd be a fun bonding moment when shes older :]

mum2monkees · May 2011

It's common in my culture to get them done as infants. I did my daughter as a baby and so has my sister and cousins for thier daughters. I guess because it's all I had ever known I never knew this was a big issue.

tchubirubi · May 2011

nicsigni:

(...) Not something that is super noticeable, but it does annoy me a little that it was a choice that was made FOR me and I now have these holes forever.

Yeah, it is a small but irreversible thing.

kaitylin · May 2011

I've been going back and forth on it. I got mine done when I was 10 and it was a really fun experience and I still remember how excited I was. So... a part of me wants to give my daughter that same experience when she's older. However, as much as I loved getting my ears pierced I didn't take the best care of them and they did get infected a couple of times. I am debating doing it when my DD is a baby because while I'm not forcing her to wear earrings her whole life, I do feel like its something the vast majority of little girls want (and honestly, when your 6 year old begs for pierced ears that by no means means they will want them for the rest of their lives either) and I figure if I do it when she's 3 months old, I can take care of them and make sure they don't get infected and she will be young enough that she won't be picking at them too much yet. Also, DH's mom is all for the idea (my mom on the other hand is 100% against it...) but she really wants to get DD her first pair of earrings and wants to get a good quality pair with the twist on backs so she can't pull them out easily and I think it might be something fun for us to do together. We haven't spent much time together and I think it might be a nice outing and special memory for her to do with DD.

I'm still debating but right now leaning towards doing it. I've had numerous piercings and when I've taken them out they've grown over with no problem and you can't even tell I ever had them so I'm not too worried about it. Piercings are easy enough to get rid of if you don't want them anymore. I will be open to her getting more piercings when she's a teenager if she wants but tattoos are a whole other story.

MommaA117 · May 2011

comparing those ear hole plug things to girls with earrings is not a good comparison. lol. They are not nearly as common and not as "socially accepted". Millions of women, the majority that I know have pierced ears while I can think of very few guys I know personally with plugs in their ears.

tchubirubi · May 2011

kaitylin:

(...) and honestly, when your 6 year old begs for pierced ears that by no means means they will want them for the rest of their lives either (...)

Maybe, but to me there is still a difference between her begging for it and my "imposing" it.

folkfemme · May 2011

tchubirubi:
kimbo1216:
I really don't understand when someone says they don't want to "decide that" for their kid and that it should be "their choice." We make all sorts of decisions for our children. We have to. It's our job as parents. So to get all high and mighty on something as little as an ear piercing (which is easily reversed and can be easily changed) just baffles me.
Her body, her choice.
Yes, we do make decisions for our children all the time, but I feel that this is not something I need to choose for her, not a decision I have to make. I see it is an opportunity to give her full control over a choice that concerns her and since those opportunities will be rare to come by at least until she grows up, I figure I should make the most of the ones I get.
Don't be annoyed - this is not a high and mighty speech, just an opinion, really. I see it as a symbol of my respect for my daughter's own choices and personal space, whereas you see it as silly and impractical. Trivial. You'd just say "oh, come on, it's just an earring" and you would, of course, be right. Objectively speaking that is all it is. Like a PP said, to each their own.

This.

mrs mosby · May 2011

we will not be piercing her ears as a baby but I do not judge anyone that does. What does it matter to me? Their kid, their decision.

Nani0710 · May 2011

Haven't read all the posts but wow... I took my daughter to get her ears pierced when she was 6 months old. I got the ok from her Pedi. They did hurt her of course she cried for a couple of minutes and then she was fine no probs what so ever until this day. She does come from a Hispanic background and it common for Hispanic Baby girls to get their ears pierced before the age of 1. My cousin did them on her daughter when she was a month old now I voiced my opinion and said she was too small. Any who I do understand that it should be her choice, but then again I have never met a girl that claims never to want to have her ears pierced. As parents we do pick their name and they have no say in it too. When my daughter is older and does not want to wear earrings I wouldn't force her.

breezy79 · May 2011

I agree with the trash comments.
People around here who do it are of the trashy variety.

OctoberCAPA · May 2011

BrandySun:
Not a fan of pierced ears on babies. At all. No offens to anyone, strictly my opinion, but I think it looks slightly trashy. If we have a girl, probably around 12 or 13 like I did - it was sort of a rite of passage.

I agree with this. I think pierced ears on babies looks tacky. If she asks when she's 10 or 11 she can have it done.

OctoberCAPA · May 2011

tchubirubi:
helenejr:

here's a question..... if you had a boy and your DH had a earing or flesh ring (which is socially excepatble now) would you expose your new born son to that or wait till he was old enough to make his own decision?

I think of that too. I don't really see a big difference apart from the greater social acceptance of earrings in girls.

I would disagree that gauged ears are socially acceptable. DH and I work in conservative professions (as in, a male with facial hair or sideburns past his ears would be pushing it), so my perspective might be skewed, but I don't think pierced ears on girls (even baby girls, of which I'm not a fan) can be compared to gauging.

ChristinaMT4 · May 2011

I'm having a boy but I wouldn't if it were a girl. If my hypothetical dd wanted them done when she was older I would take her and make a special day out of it.

That said I don't really care if other people want to pierce their kids' ears as babies (boys or girls!).

Alfie02 · May 2011

We will wait. I like the idea of my daughter making the decision herself. I also would like to make it a special day for the two of us.

I have no problem with her getting her ears pierced.

jdubh · May 2011

We will wait and let her choose. I got mine pierced when I was in kindergarten and I didn't have any problems.

tchubirubi · May 2011

OctoberCAPA:
tchubirubi:
helenejr:

here's a question..... if you had a boy and your DH had a earing or flesh ring (which is socially excepatble now) would you expose your new born son to that or wait till he was old enough to make his own decision?

I think of that too. I don't really see a big difference apart from the greater social acceptance of earrings in girls.

I would disagree that gauged ears are socially acceptable. (...) I don't think pierced ears on girls (even baby girls, of which I'm not a fan) can be compared to gauging.

I think they can in the sense that both are irreversible changes made to the body of an individual just for cosmetic purposes. As I said, the only big difference in theory is the greater social acceptance of earrings in girls.

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