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shower invite lost..WWYD?

LyndseyLCLyndseyLC member
in July 2011 Moms

I had a shower on Saturday and my 2 SIL are OOT but were mailed invites from MIL(host). I got a card and gift from one SIL but have not heard anything from other SIL who recently moved. So I am wondering if she even got the invite. I am scared to ask her if she got in because I dont want it to seem like I am looking for a gift. I dont want her to feel left out if she thinks she didnt get invite. BTW she doesnt talk to her mom (my MIL). For our wedding she got shower invite and mailed us a gift.

WWYD?

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  • WheeLinTheSky3WheeLinTheSky3 member
    maybe something simple like "we really missed you this weekend. I hope that once LO arrives we can get together soon." Or "we really missed you at the shower this weekend, LO is so lucky to have such a great aunt like you, cant wait for you to meet him/her" that was you dont mention the invite at all and you can probablye gauge whether or not she got the invite based on her response.

     

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  • damabo80damabo80 member

    How were guests encouraged to RSVP? Did you check with the host to see if she had RSVPed? 

    Since the shower had already passed, I would let it go and not mention it.

    If it was before the shower, then I would have the host call/email her to see if she would be attending.


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  • MrsIMrsI member
    The shower is over now, it's too late to ask and not look rude.  If she wants to send you a gift she will.  If I would her I would probably wait til the baby is born before sending a gift anyway so maybe she is waiting.
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  • boogerbearoriginalboogerbearoriginal member

    I don't know that there's a way to ask her without coming off sounding like you expected a gift. If you are close and would make an effort to get together, you could say something like "It stinks you live so far away, I missed you at the shower, we should make plans to get together next time you're in town." But if you don't normally hang out then it will seem off.

    Is your H and her close that he could bring it up and it would seem more natural? Honestly you may just have to let it go, assume she received the invite and didn't chose to send something at this time. Who knows, maybe with a recent move money is tight and she plans to send something when baby is born.



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  • twhatwaffletwhatwaffle member
    Give it a rest you gift grabber
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  • JennV514JennV514 member
    There's no way the invitation was lost, or that she didn't get one. If you ask her about it, it will most certainly look gift grabby. Let it go. It's not your place to ask people why they didn't come to your shower.
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  • duhdaisy86duhdaisy86

    imageJennV514:
    There's no way the invitation was lost, or that she didn't get one. If you ask her about it, it will most certainly look gift grabby. Let it go. It's not your place to ask people why they didn't come to your shower.

    ITA....why does it matter. Seems like you are expecting gifts from people even if they didn't attend

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  • GracieLou FreebushGracieLou Freebush member
    I can't answer this until I know if your opinion has changed regarding your senile grandma, etc. 
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  • pixiegirl131415pixiegirl131415 member

    imageGracieLouFreebush*:
    I can't answer this until I know if your opinion has changed regarding your senile grandma, etc. 

    This. Maybe they got an invite, maybe they didn't. But between this post and the one on your shower this weekend, you are coming across as gift grabby, whether you mean to or not. Let it go.

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