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why do women feel the need to tell bad stories?

jb2rnjb2rn member
in November 2011 Moms

When I was about 7 weeks pregnant, I had a dentist appt. I told the hygenist no x-rays, please, as I was pregnant. She and the office manager then went on to talk about how much they vomited in pregnancy, including hospital visits for rehydration.

Other women, upon hearing I am pregnant (and me saying nothing negative about pregnancy) feel the need to talk about their morning sickness, back pain, how much weight they gained (usually a lot), or horrible labor stories.

WHY do women do this to each other? I didn't ask "so, how was pregnancy for you?". My mom, for years, told my sisters and I how wonderful she felt during pregnancy, she never had morning sickness, just heartburn, and that overall it was great. I have had a similar experience thus far, and even if I didn't, would not feel the need to tell others (especially strangers) of a negative story.

Anyone else experience this yet?

b/w=FSH 15.6, AMH 0.4 surprise natural BFP on 3/12/11
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d

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Re: why do women feel the need to tell bad stories?

  • Liz1485Liz1485 member

    When I was growing up my mom told me how horrible pregnancy and labor was for her. How she was in labor for days and she had morning sickness from the start until 3 weeks after she had me. I was terrified to have kids  from it and I never wanted them. My mom was also tiny before she got pregnant and had really narrow hips (why she thinks she had such a hard time). So if anyone else started telling me horror stories about it now I'd just ask them to stop nicely and if they didn't I'd get a little less nice about it. I overcame the overall fear of it and got pregnant, I don't need more reasons to be afraid.

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  • KateCollins11KateCollins11
    I've gotten that a few times, but not nearly as much as "get as much sleep as you can now because you'll need it later" or "be sure to spend a lot of time with your husband while you can" and other stories about how things are going to be so different when the baby gets here... That annoys the heck out of me......
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  • kelly2983kelly2983 member

    I know what you mean!! A few people we've told feel the need to share with us all the negatives that come along with pregnancy and "get your sleep now!". I want to be like "really? is that what happens? thank you for enlightening us!"

    I think that is just the way some people are. I know that anytime someone has told me they're pregnant I've been really excited for them. If they then want to ask me how it's been for me, I will be honest but I'm not going to go on a rant about how I've been nauseous for about 10 weeks now.

    My boss came up to me on Friday to ask how everything is going and then proceeded to tell me a story about his friends who are pregnant and they found out the baby has a disease and will probably not survive birth but they are planning to carry it full term. Half way through I wanted to ask "Why are you telling me this?"....some people are just negative. Yuck.


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  • 1fish2fish3fish1fish2fish3fish
    People just love turning any story about YOU into a story about THEM. I get annoyed about this too, unless I specifically asked them for advice or something.
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  • jb2rnjb2rn member
    imagekelly2983:

    My boss came up to me on Friday to ask how everything is going and then proceeded to tell me a story about his friends who are pregnant and they found out the baby has a disease and will probably not survive birth but they are planning to carry it full term. Half way through I wanted to ask "Why are you telling me this?"....some people are just negative. Yuck.

    Yes, this is the other thing. I had a co-worker start to tell me (in her defense, she didn't know I was pregnant until I told her) about a woman in the ICU at our hospital that was pregnant. I had to stop her right there.

    My NT scan is on Tuesday, so anytime someone starts to tell me a sad story about a friend or family member, I have to shut them off.

    b/w=FSH 15.6, AMH 0.4 surprise natural BFP on 3/12/11
    DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d

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  • mrsredroxmrsredrox
    I've only gotten this a few times. Luckily, most people around me always tell me to enjoy this time, pregnancy is a wonderful time, you're only pregnant with your first child once, and etc.
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  • caffrincaffrin member
    YES! Thank you! What irks me even more is when I mention not feeling well or something and another pregnant women (who is further along) feels the need to chime and and say "Oh you don't even know what pregnancy is yet! You just wait!!!" Then it makes me feel like I can't ever talk about my symptoms because they were already there and have had every symptom in the book! Oiye!
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