Push Present?

nicoledyoung7 · May 2011

Do you think you will get one? I never heard of such a thing when I lived in Ohio. My friends in Texas have told me about it. I told DH about it and he was like "really?!". I think it is a great idea

MilMom2B · May 2011

I think it's ridiculous. My baby is my "push present."

Shelleybell · May 2011

i know my dh is getting me something to celebrate the birth of lo. Probably something with her birthstone in it that I can pass down to her at some point. Not really a present for "pushing her out." When my mom had me, my dad got her earrings that I know have. More of a heirloom token.

korpisar · May 2011

I know this is a very controversial topic. I am getting earrings when I have the baby. I will also be getting DH something. We would not call them push presents but celebrating the birth of our son.

sallydraper · May 2011

Actually, I would have said no, but he mentioned something about it last weekend. I think he is planning on getting me some type of jewelry. It doesn't really surprise me though - DH is, and always has been, the one in the relationship to give really good gifts. He gets a kick out of it. (I'm not a crappy gift giver, but he takes it to a whole other level.) I told him not to, since I think it's totally unnecessary, but I doubt he'll listen. When my daughter is older, I think it'll be nice to give her whatever it is and tell her where it came from.

Btw, I hate the term "push present."

ejs207 · May 2011

I think context matters. 'Push Present' seems forceful and gift grabby.

But, we have celebrated many milestones in our life together with jewelry. A necklace when we moved in together, an engagement ring, a wedding ring, a 1st anniversary bracelet, diamond earrings for my 30th birthday, etc. So a piece of jewelry to mark the birth of our first child doesn't seem weird to me.

Do I expect it? No. But I won't turn one down either

soontobemrsdavis · May 2011

I don't expect anything, but if I do get something then great. If not I plan on buying my own special memento that will be a symbol of this little one's birth.

IOmommy2005 · May 2011

for DS he gave me jewelry but I doubt he will this time since he will only be here for 2 weeks from Afghanistan, so if he does I would be extrememly suprised!

nicoledyoung7 · May 2011

I don't think the term "push present" is a good one. It is just what I've heard it called.

TristaD81 · May 2011

MilMom2B:
I think it's ridiculous. My baby is my "push present."

This exactly. I've never heard of them until TB.

dairygirl19 · May 2011

soontobemrsdavis:
I don't expect anything, but if I do get something then great. If not I plan on buying my own special memento that will be a symbol of this little one's birth.

This! I have a bracelet with my first's, Hs and mine birthstones. I want the matching one when this one is born.

H knows this. I didn't demand it. We'll probably order it after LO gets here together.

JennV514 · May 2011

My mom has given me the bracelet her mom gave her when I was born. I will be engraving little one's name on it, next to mine. It means so much to me, it's making me tear up just thinking about it! As far as a "push present" from my husband, I have no idea. Certainly not something I would ever ask for or expect. Also the term "push present" is just icky.

Five_letter · May 2011

I think they're stupid and so do DH, plus the name is gross to me.

Nope.

I will be buying myself another wedding band this year (once my rings fit again). So I guess you can say that'll commemorate the birth and be something I can pass down.

magpiebride61210 · May 2011

Five_letter:

I think they're stupid and so do DH, plus the name is gross to me.

Nope.

yep!

Kristen61607 · May 2011

I really don't expect one - my babies are my push presents.

However, I will say this - my dad got my mom diamond earrings when she had me, and a diamond necklace when she had my brother. Back in the 80's these of course were not called push presents, but I always thought it was sweet of him. They are still her most cherished pieces of jewelery (although she never wears them...haha).

tjmtjm · May 2011

How are push presents any more tacky than going to a store and picking out the gifts you want people to buy you at your shower?

Just wondering.

I'm not having a baby shower and not registering anywhere (doing the "meet the baby" party afterwards) and I will probably not get a "push present" either (though if DH did want to give me something, I certainly wouldn't refuse it!!!! I like presents!)

I just never understood how one was different than the other and women get in such a tizzy over it....both are asking for gifts. One publicly and one privately....and the private one gets bashed.

Confuzzles me. Stick out tongue

google123 · May 2011

I know my DH knows about push presents, since most of our IL's have given their wives gifts. I'm not sure if he'll get me one...we really have acquired some debt with all of the baby stuff we bought (twins, double the price). I wasn't able to have a shower, since we live so far away from family and friends. So if he doesn't buy me something, I'll understand, and probably won't scream or cry about it...since it's an expense that we really don't need at the moment. But it would be nice to get something.

mbritto4 · May 2011

MH is hiring a maid service for me the next few months to come in 1-2 times a month and clean. He travels M-F and we have a 3 year old so extra help is worth more than jewelry to me. Plus my sister and I still have my Mom's stuff we haven't gone thru.

abrazz · May 2011

I don't expect anything from DH. Oh wait, he gave me the flu and I was sick for a week after I delivered DD, does that count Stick out tongue In all seriousness I would like a mother's ring or something to pass on to the kids with their birth stones but it can wait for awhile.

kell8807 · May 2011

DH brought me flowers when he came back to the hospital after running home for a shower. He bought me a necklace with DD's birthstone in it a few weeks later. But I never really thought of it as a "push present". I didn't expect it all because it's not like him to just buy me something like that.

I think when women expect a gift after delivery, that's a bit nuts. You should never expect gifts from anyone. Besides you just carried a baby for 9ish months & I'm going to be so happy to have her out & in my arms that will be gift enough.

katie4253 · May 2011

I will never understand why people get so riled up in these posts. I couldn't care less if people want a present, don't want a present, call it a gift to commemorate the baby, or call it a push present. People need to do what works for them.

I'm not getting a gift that I know of. But, sometimes H surprises me.

katiewhompus · May 2011

Our baby will be our present. I figure we're about even and don't feel like I need an extra present. I've had the ups and downs of being pregnant, and he's had the ups and downs of having a wife who is pregnant. I'll go through the pain of labor, and he will go through the mental pain of seeing me go through labor (and not being able to do anything to alleviate my pain).

My only request/present would be that we have a few days at home with just us and LO and no one else. We haven't had a vacation just with the two of us (soon to be 3) since our honeymoon and I would love to not have to share him for a few days with other people (again, obviously except LO).

cburitz · May 2011

katie4253:

I will never understand why people get so riled up in these posts. I couldn't care less if people want a present, don't want a present, call it a gift to commemorate the baby, or call it a push present. People need to do what works for them.

I'm not getting a gift that I know of. But, sometimes H surprises me.

ITA. I laugh when I hear the term "push present" but I think the concept is sweet. I do think it's ridiculous when women ASK for a push present and give their husbands a list of what they specifically want. Greedy, much?

I'm secretly hoping DH gets me something, either for Mother's Day or after our LO is here... but I won't be upset if he doesn't.

GracieLou Freebush · May 2011

I don't expect one. My H probably doesn't even know what this is. He did surprise me with a Kindle for Mother's Day which I'm thrilled about so I don't think anything else is on the agenda when it comes to gifts. This kid is expensive as it is!

tjmtjm · May 2011

cburitz:
katie4253:

I will never understand why people get so riled up in these posts. I couldn't care less if people want a present, don't want a present, call it a gift to commemorate the baby, or call it a push present. People need to do what works for them.

I'm not getting a gift that I know of. But, sometimes H surprises me.

ITA. I laugh when I hear the term "push present" but I think the concept is sweet. I do think it's ridiculous when women ASK for a push present and give their husbands a list of what they specifically want. Greedy, much?

I'm secretly hoping DH gets me something, either for Mother's Day or after our LO is here... but I won't be upset if he doesn't.

Yes Yes

nbbride06 · May 2011

I think they're kind of funny, but hey, to each their own. I "requested" a cleaning lady once/twice a month as a "push present." So, that's what DH says he's getting me. In reality, we would do that anyway, push present or not.

brooksygirl · May 2011

He bought himself a new bike and we just bought a treadmill for me to use to get back in shape after I have the baby in July. We joke that its my "push present".

Sparla1027 · May 2011

cburitz:
...but I do think it's ridiculous when women ASK for a push present and give their husbands a list of what they specifically want. Greedy, much?
I'm secretly hoping DH gets me something, either for Mother's Day or after our LO is here... but I won't be upset if he doesn't.

I agree with the above; I would never in a million years ask/imply/mention the idea of buying me a gift to DH. If he thinks of it- great.

bethybjj2 · May 2011

I think it's great if your DH wants to purchase a push present for you to celebrate the birth of your child. Personally, I would never expect it, but I think it's thoughtful. I really think the birth of a child is a miracle and why not celebrate it with something that you will always associate it with.

hellaine · May 2011

I've never heard this before, I don't understand, this is a present for getting knocked up and having a baby? Am I supposed to get the father something also? And isn't it the baby's birthday too? What a weird concept, but I'll take any presents anyone wants to give me for whatever reason.

Steven&Jamie · May 2011

MilMom2B:
I think it's ridiculous. My baby is my "push present."

I agree. I'd never even heard of "push presents" before these boards.

damabo80 · May 2011

mbritto4:
MH is hiring a maid service for me the next few months to come in 1-2 times a month and clean. He travels M-F and we have a 3 year old so extra help is worth more than jewelry to me. Plus my sister and I still have my Mom's stuff we haven't gone thru.

Now, what you described is a push present I could totally get behind! Smile

growingmybun · May 2011

tjmtjm:
How are push presents any more tacky than going to a store and picking out the gifts you want people to buy you at your shower?

YES!!!

Yellow_Daisy · May 2011

I know my DH doesn't know anything about push presents as I've never even heard of them until this site. I think it's stupid personally to expect a gift for giving birth. If my DH bought me a gift to celebrate the arrival of our son that would be sweet (and not contrived to meet some dumb idea of a push present), but I don't expect a gift or even want one.

Honestly being pregnant has been the best experience of my life and I couldn't imagine cheapening it with something as distasteful as a push present. To me push presents seem like some kind of reimbursement for being pregnant, like the mother is being put upon by carrying and pushing out their child. I think the opportunity to be pregnant and have a child is the best gift I could ever receive. I guess it's just a matter of perspective, but I've already received my gift by being pregnant, which was something we never thought would happen and without science and the generosity of a donor would never have happened.

Yellow_Daisy · May 2011

growingmybun:
tjmtjm:
How are push presents any more tacky than going to a store and picking out the gifts you want people to buy you at your shower?

YES!!!

To me push presents seem like reimbursement for being pregnant and giving birth therefore associating pregnancy and giving birth in a negative way. I give the side eye to someone who needs a gift to do this, but that's just me. It's not the expectation of a gift I have an issue with (although I do have an issue with people expecting gifts for anything) as much as why the gift is expected and being given.