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Sex Worry- NBR

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Hi- I am almost five weeks pp and the thought of having sex when we get the go ahead from my doctor scares the living crap out of me. Can you ladies please offer some insight to how to handle the issue, or what helped you guys get through the fear. I only had a second degree tear and looked in the mirror everything seemed in check down there, but I am scared I will hurt something when we do get the go ahead. Not to mention I am still bleeding, but i think this is from the BC pills.

 

Thanks ladies!

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  • SandiaPinaMamaSandiaPinaMama member
    For me, it was at first like losing my virginity all over again.  Things were tender, but I just had DH go VERY slowly and use extra lube.  This may be TMI, but once he was in, I had him just stay still for a few minutes.  That really seemed to help.  Once we started moving again, everything felt GREAT.  Best. sex.  EVER!  I couldn't believe it.  Every time since then is incredible, although we continue to repeat the process: extra lube, slow entry, chill for a few, and then go.  I hope that helps! :) 

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    imagewatermelon mom:
    For me, it was at first like losing my virginity all over again.  Things were tender, but I just had DH go VERY slowly and use extra lube.  This may be TMI, but once he was in, I had him just stay still for a few minutes.  That really seemed to help.  Once we started moving again, everything felt GREAT.  Best. sex.  EVER!  I couldn't believe it.  Every time since then is incredible, although we continue to repeat the process: extra lube, slow entry, chill for a few, and then go.  I hope that helps! :) 

    that's how i felt. pp has good advice. just go slow and load the lube. but really, the only cure for the fear is just to do it. try to relax and i'm sure it'll be awesome.

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  • MG7MG7

    Go very slow and use lots of lube. I've seen a number of people suggest Astroglide. We haven't had sex yet this time but last time it was difficult. Honestly though I think because I was mentally scaring myself I made it much worse.

    I'm really going to do my best to not be nervous this time around but DH could really help seduce me by doing some heavy duty housework or something. Nothing screams sexy like a man scrubbing the bathroom right :)

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  • GHBEAGHBEA member

    This is my third and it has been ok each time.  Just have your DH go slow.  I have never needed to buy lube so I think we are all different.  It wont hurt to have it on hand just in case. 

    Just let your DH know how you feel, and if you want to have sex the first day your OB says so then just take it slow.  I waited 4 days after my 6wk pp check up because I was nervous.  

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