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aichandaich · May 2011

brooksygirl:

Lindsay&Eric:
I don't believe people who post on here about dreading their baby showers, because they hate to be the center of attention. If that were true, Why did you agree to a shower in the first place? Everyone likes to have some attention sometimes...and that's exactly what showers are for...Attention to the Mom to Be or Bride to be...

Some people really don't like to be the center of attention and have family or friends that just don't believe them and insist on throwing them a shower anyway. I'm on baby number 2 and did not think in any way that I should have a shower for this baby. A friend of mine insisted, said that she was going to do something for me, whether I wanted it or not. At some point what is more important- messing up a friendship because your friend wants to do something nice, or to insist on not having anything and then hurting your friend or family member's feelings?

That is one example I can provide for you of people who have showers planned but do not want to be the center of attention. You have to pick your battles and realize that for 95% of people, they have good intentions.

^ This. ETA: I end up blushing and sweating my a$% off the entire shower...

TristaD81 · May 2011

katbrian052108:

I wish everyone who was not interested in the weight gain/loss posts would just stop reading, responding negatively and complaining about them!

Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, we all realize this!!

If your not interested ignore the post!

Yes I really don't think of it as a "contest" or whatever. I participate because I honestly like to see how everyone is doing. Not everyone is so concerned/worried about how much they're gaining and obsessing over when it will come off and how long it will take to come off - I am enjoying my PG day to day and weight gain is a part of it. I will worry about the weight later.

tjmtjm · May 2011

cburitz:
tjmtjm:
cburitz:

My confession: DH and I had sex earlier this week... I'm on pelvic rest so it's a huge no-no. I felt immediately guilty afterwards but the sex was GREAT.

I am so jealous. MH does not want to even touch me....and I'm NOT on pelvic rest!!! I'm totally freaking out that he thinks I'm ugly and wants nothing to do with me. He says thats not the case but its hard to believe him when I feel so....pregnant.

I'm not sure if hes freaked out by me or the baby....or what.

Have you tried initiating it? Jump in the shower when he's in there and go down on him. Or wait until he's in bed and crawl on top of him. I can't imagine he will turn you down once you get him going... Don't ask him- just do it.

I can't imagine he finds you ugly! He is probably just worried about "hurting the baby" or maybe he thinks you don't want it because you don't feel well?

Well, there are other factors too. He has been working 60+ hours a week because of another deputy taking paternity leave, training, teaching classes, etc. And I've been working a lot lately too! So we are constantly "missing" each other. We have both been working SUPER hard to make sure we have everything set when baby comes and I'm off work.

But I think I am going to have to become more of an initiator! I've also made it pretty well known that I am very uncomfortable with my body right now. So I think a big part of it is getting my head on straight and realizing pregnancy is normal, natural, and beautiful. Because right now I find it ugly, annoying and inconvenient! Stick out tongue So I'm sure my demeanor/outlook has made him think I'm NOT into doing it right now...so I'm partly to blame!

MrsS2203 · May 2011

I'm scared of going into pre-term labor. I know medicine has come a long way,but I also know the struggle my baby would have to endure. Sadly I even had a dream about it last night.

cgrah1ai · May 2011

katbrian052108:
I wish everyone who was not interested in the weight gain/loss posts would just stop reading, responding negatively and complaining about them!
Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, we all realize this!!
If your not interested ignore the post!

Who's been complaining or responding negatively? I posted this in the FFC link rather than do that. If you understand that everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, then why even bother asking how much everyone's gained?

hcdekarske · May 2011

I am terrified of being induced. I about freaked out at the doctor's office when they said I can't go past 39 weeks and they will induce me if she doesn't come before that. A c-section is scary as well, but for some reason I find induction scarier.

caraleeb · May 2011

Jay_Cee:
I consider an hour's worth of grocery shopping my exercise for the weekend. It's truly getting hard! (And that makes me feel slow and out of shape.)

same!

caraleeb · May 2011

I havent wanted sex since the first tri, then i was to tired, then it hurt and didnt feel good, and i gave up.. we havent had sex in a long time and i feel bad but we have talked about it and he understands. Still sucks. I cant wait to have non-pregnant sex.

damabo80 · May 2011

katbrian052108:

I wish everyone who was not interested in the weight gain/loss posts would just stop reading, responding negatively and complaining about them!

Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, we all realize this!!

If your not interested ignore the post!

Agreed. I could understand the "ZOMG not another weight post" if they were posted that frequently, but seriously, I probably see one a week or so.

And, I don't really care about the total overall weight gain for people, but I am interested to see how much people gained since hitting third tri. I was doing standard normal weigh gain up until a few weeks ago, and then all of a sudden-bam! Super weight gain. Nice to know that I'm not alone.

rose1883 · May 2011

The more research I do, the more I think my neurologist is wrong and that I am NOT going to be able to BF because of the meds that I am on. I'm terrified by this because we already weren't expecting this baby, things are so tight financially as it is, and I have no concept of what formula is going to cost or what type is best etc. etc. so now I've started cutting every formula coupon I find. I don't want to tell him he's wrong or straight up ask him how many BF patients he's had, but there's very little research on the drug I'm on and BF women so I can't imagine he's got much more info than I do...

My only vice throughout this pregnancy has been blue icees. The gas station .2 seconds from my house stopped carrying them. I have boycotted them as a result.

aesf · May 2011

brooksygirl:
Shelleybell:

I am so sick of hearing about Osama Bin Laden.

I'm not going on news web sites for this reason, sort of...

I am horrified that people are demanding a photo be released proving he's dead before they'll believe him. We really have become a morbid society. I don't think its unreasonable to expect that I can turn on the tv during normal daytime hours- say 7-7 and expect that I won't have to shield my children from such a macabre image as OBL's dead body.

I don't think its about becoming. in the past his body would have been put on display in village square. Not that long ago hangings were still public.

JessandIgli · May 2011

damabo80:
katbrian052108:

I wish everyone who was not interested in the weight gain/loss posts would just stop reading, responding negatively and complaining about them!

Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, we all realize this!!

If your not interested ignore the post!

Agreed. I could understand the "ZOMG not another weight post" if they were posted that frequently, but seriously, I probably see one a week or so.

And, I don't really care about the total overall weight gain for people, but I am interested to see how much people gained since hitting third tri. I was doing standard normal weigh gain up until a few weeks ago, and then all of a sudden-bam! Super weight gain. Nice to know that I'm not alone.

This. Although I am the opposite. I gained a lot of weight in the 5th month and started freaking out. Since then, I have leveled off and have now gained around the same as everyone else. I'm not trying to compare myself to anyone, but it's interesting to see what people are gaining.

soontobemrsdavis · May 2011

I am really debating buying a cute hospital gown. I don't know if it is because I have not been able to get dressed up that much for the past 10 weeks or what, but I feel like every opportunity I am not home equals an opportunity for me to try and look cute. I know it is a waste of money, but I feel like being a spoiled kid and screaming "I don't care!"

eta: I even wear lipgloss to go to my doctor appts now. I never use to wear that to go to work. What is happening to me?! Tongue Tied

Firefly9 · May 2011

rose1883:
The more research I do, the more I think my neurologist is wrong and that I am NOT going to be able to BF because of the meds that I am on. I'm terrified by this because we already weren't expecting this baby, things are so tight financially as it is, and I have no concept of what formula is going to cost or what type is best etc. etc. so now I've started cutting every formula coupon I find. I don't want to tell him he's wrong or straight up ask him how many BF patients he's had, but there's very little research on the drug I'm on and BF women so I can't imagine he's got much more info than I do...
My only vice throughout this pregnancy has been blue icees. The gas station .2 seconds from my house stopped carrying them. I have boycotted them as a result.

Can I ask what meds you are on? I am on a seizure medicine--Trileptal/oxcarbazepine (but am getting weaned off it in July)--and I wouldn't BF if I were still taking it.

I wonder how my mood would be if I weren't on that medicine, though--it's also prescribed as a mood stabilizer, so I wonder if I haven't had any hormonal issues because of that...DH may be in for a HUGE surprise next time around

ejs207 · May 2011

caraleeb:
I havent wanted sex since the first tri, then i was to tired, then it hurt and didnt feel good, and i gave up.. we havent had sex in a long time and i feel bad but we have talked about it and he understands. Still sucks. I cant wait to have non-pregnant sex.

This. No desire whatsoever. But I still feel paranoid that I'm a bad wife. Or that he doesn't want me. Between my pillow fort and a bad chest cold, we haven't even slept in the same bed the last few nights

caraleeb · May 2011

I feel the same way like im a bad wife but the desire is just not there, its like my body switched to nature baby making mom mode and that does not involve sex! I liked it when i didnt relate boobs to baby!

KangarooMom · May 2011

My MIL is in town so I took the day for myself as she watched DD and I ended up spending a little too much money. But seriously, Zara has some really cute non-maternity clothes pure silk dresses and tops that actually fit and H&M had some great stuff as well, I just feel a little guilty spending so much

Maybe I should just tell myself that it's my mothers day gift to myself! For carrying around my LO and running after DD for the last 19 months.

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