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August 2011 Moms
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FFFC!
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It's Friday, so confess away.
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Ok Sleepyheads, I'll start. I've never been a person to judge someone based on what they drive, but I also was lucky enough to have a pretty nice car (that came along before marriage and all that). But now that we've sold it and I'm driving our "spare" car while looking for an SUV, I am seriously embarrassed by what I drive.
Oh and- in the last week, someone put a huge dent/scratch in the front quarter panel, and I got a flat tire yesterday, so I have a donut on. REALLLLL classy.
I feel like people judge me when I get out of it at a store, and I hate it!
I dog sat for a friend for a week and she only gave us $100 to do so. I wish I would have asked for more or told her I wouldn't do it. I take for granted having a paper trained dog and those other 2 made our house a mess. Thankfully I have our house back but now I get to clean all weekend.
To add to the above: I am also using the $100 to get my hair highlighted and a pedicure this weekend instead of sharing it on something H and I would enjoy together. I don't feel guilty about it at all.
I have a plan to peer pressure my MIL into CDing Little Man. I'm going to use it as a threat to not let her watch him if she is going to use sposies on him. I'm not going to pay for the sposies and I think she will quickly learn how easy CDing is after all. I just don't understand why many older ladies are so against the new way of CDing.
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For Cinco de Mayo I was on a party planning committee for work...there were 6 of us. For a huge party at our new office, only 3 people on the committee helped out - no one gave two craps that the pregnant lady was doing EVERYTHING - and I am beyond exhausted and resent everyone else in my office today. It's like I never left.
And, I was supposed to dress up for work today and I completely spaced and forgot! I should feel bad but I don't. Everyone can suck it.
What do you drive? Because I bet it's not worse than mine, lol! Mine was a freebie, and it runs like a champ and has amazing gas mileage. But gatdamn is it a piece of junk in every other respect. The previous owners totally trashed this thing. It used to be black, but now the paint has eroded off in most places, leaving a fine, flat black/rusty finish. To top it off, they wrecked the front end, so I now sport a white plastic front bumper. The side panel and front door on the passenger side are dented where the car was kicked, and the interior of the same door is broken, so window rollage is out of the question. The overhead fabric in the cab is ripped to shreds, cigarette burns in the seats, and the stereo was punched with great force at some point. Talk about embarrassing, nobody will even park next to me. I wish I could put a sign in the window saying, "I didn't ruin this car, the previous owners did!!" So my FFFC is the same as yours. I should be grateful to have a running car that's good on gas, but seriously, that thing is embarrassing to drive around. =/
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Haha I'm sorry! You poor thing, your car sounds like a gem...but at least yours gets good gas mileage and is reliable-mine is neither of the two! Crappy gas mileage and the engine light comes on about every 2-3 weeks... it's a '98 Buick Lesabre. It's just got too many miles on it. Plus, it's a horrific commuter car. It does not like stop-and-go traffic at all. You have to tell me what you have!
1) No one has offered to throw me a shower yet and I'm starting to feel really hurt. I'm sure my family is just not thinking about it yet because August seems so far away but I'm getting anxious since everyone told me not to buy anything myself until after the wedding so they would have lots to choose from. I go back and forth between feeling bad that I feel entitled to a shower since we just got married 6 months ago and feeling hurt that no one is offering.
2) The only person I want to feel the baby kick is MH. I get annoyed when my mom puts her hand on my belly and tries to get the baby to kick her. I'm not ready to share that with her yet.
3) I thought we were doing well financially but now I'm starting to freak out that we don't have enough money saved.
4) I hate when people on here talk about how they can't believe how much weight they've gained, that they never thought they'd see 150 (or less) on a scale. I haven't been 150 pounds since high school. I try not to be bitter but it's really annoying. Don't put your weight on here. It may seem high to you but it may be a dream to others.
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Mine: I am really wishing my sister's wedding and DH's brother's wedding were in the spring instead of a few weeks after I have this baby. I feel like I won't be able to enjoy them because I'm going to be exhausted and have boobs the size of cantalopes that I'll have to squeeze into bridesmaids' dresses. And I know it's not about me but... dammit, yes it is! haha.
Also, I have done about 2 hours of actual work this week.
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1-Seriously! I would judge me getting out of that car! It doesn't help that I look like a pregnant teenager already, plus the car...sheesh.
2-LOL @ cantalope boobs. I'm beginning to wonder if mine are going to grow at all.
3-I was insanely busy at work yesterday, only to find that damn flat tire at the end of the day. I plan on blaming my job in my head for the tire and not doing anything productive today.
With #1....same thing. Except I learned this week via my DH that my MIL wanted to make sure I got a shower, but can't actually afford to do it, so my DH said we'd pay for it!!!! After thinking about this for a day, I said NO WAY. Why should my DH and I pay for MY OWN baby shower! So looks like I won't be getting a shower, and I am very hurt by this. I guess some might think I should just shut up and be happy someone thought to throw a shower, but basically I see paying for it out of our own pockets as throwing our own (which is rude to throw yourself a shower) AND money I'd rather just use to purchase what we need. I do have other family and friends who IMO are capable to throwing a shower, but aren't. That's the part that hurts.
With #4...ya, I haven't seen 150lbs in about 10 years, and so many times I want to add STFU.
1 - I am addicted to cocoa puffs.
2 - We were financially stable before I became pregnant, but then our insurance company threw this surprise separate maternity deductible at us ($7500) and so far we've had to pay for this ENTIRE pregnancy out of pocket. On top of that my job screwed me over, I quit because it was causing me serious depression and now I'm trying to make my freelance writing work full time. It's great, but we have a LOT less money than we used to, sometimes I don't have consistent work, and I'm REALLY starting to freak about finances. I would look for a job but I'm doubting my ability to get hired in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy - I couldn't even manage it in my first! DH will be losing his job at the end of the year (which is only part time currently because of his classes) because the company is merging with another, and he's half-heartedly looking for a full-time job to replace it. In the meantime, he's out of class for the summer and I'm irritated that he hasn't looked for a second part-time job to help with the bills and the baby expenses.
1- I'm embarrassed that I don't know how to use eBay. I need to know, because I have to buy things.
2- I'm going to slap someone in my immediate family if they don't stop harrassing me about the fact that I don't drive. I own a car, I can't afford insurance, no- not even liability.. so bus it will be for this baby... and I'm not the only woman who has to do this, so I don't need sympathy. In fact- I love the bus.
I started a new water aerobics class last night and one of the brauds is only like 7-8 weeks along. I wanted to punch her in her skinny face.
I seriously cannot stop looking at my registry.
I have yet to do any work yet and I've been here for 2 hours.
I am already contemplating on how I can sneak out of here early.
We are sharing our office with another company and the other day the one woman (she is in her mid-30s) asked me how to make coffee. I can't believe there are people that dumb in this world.
1. I also agree with the weight thing, I can't remember the last time I saw 150lbs and I am having a hard time with the weight that I have gained.
2. My DH just started a new position and I know that he is totally stressed out, but we have less than 15 weeks until this baby comes and there is still alot to do around our house and it is getting harder for me to move around like I used to. If he would just sit down with me and make a d*mn plan about when we will finish things I would feel so much better. We did that with our wedding and it really helped me to stay calm and I wasn't on the same hormonal roller coaster that I am now.
3. If one more person tells me how miserable I am going to be in this summer I may just scream. I know it is going to be hot and humid. I know I am going to swell up. Also, some people say it with a little bit too much happiness in their voice, like they are just waiting for it get really hot and say "I told you so" UGH
I have another board-related one. When I see one poster start multiple threads about how they "flipped out" or have had multiple "hormone-driven" outbursts or just seem generally to only post when they have a billion complaints, I think they are probably a drama queen regardless of whether or not they are pregnant.
We all have bad days (and there are a few posters who have gotten really sh!tty news that have more than enough real reasons to vent away on here), but at some point you have to grow up and take responsibility for your actions if you are blowing up all the time.
For Mother's Day all I really want is a day all to myself and not worry about my kids. I would sleep, get a pedicure, scrapbook, and anything else I just want to do. H is working 12 hour shifts all weekend so on Mother's Day I have to get the girls ready and to church ontime and then drive 1.5 hours each way to see my mom, then drive back and put the kids to bed by myself.
It's been a very long, hard, and disappointing week, so I'm sure that is not helping my mood about Mother's Day.
Augh, bad gas mileage and awful commuting are no bueno! Super sorry to hear it! Mine's a '98 Toyota Corolla. I have a souvenir fake license plate from Disney World that says, "DoomBugy" in the front windshield, lol! Picked it up right outside the Haunted Mansion, where I feel this car should go when it dies. Good times.
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As happy as I am to have such a financially responsible, frugal husband - I also kinda get jealous about all of the fun baby purchases people on here make! We haven't bought anything yet, and I have to practically produce a presentation on why we need certain things to the hubby so that he'll agree that it is necessary - and I make almost half our income, and we save more than we spend each month!!
Pre-pregnancy I was pretty good about eating healthy and indulging every once in a while on sweets and junk food. These past two weeks I have been indulging multiple times a day (ice cream bars, oreos, cupcakes, blizzards, snickeres, etc.) and blaming these "cravings" on the baby having a sweet tooth. That is total BS I have always liked these foods, I just had better self-control before.
1. I had ice cream twice yesterday...
2. 2 of the women I work with are OUT OF CONTROL. Seriously...sometimes I sit in my office with my door closed so I don't have to deal with them. They are BOTH so self righteous and never can admit that they do anything wrong. To top it all off, they HATE eachother so I am CONSTANTLY stuck in the middle of their drama, which in turn, helps them to blame me whenever there are problems between them bc I just sit and listen (which to them means I agree).
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haha. I keep telling DH that the baby wants certain foods, instead of taking responsibility for it myself :-) I've always had a sweet tooth though, and I agree...I had more self-control before I had this excuse to use!
I get that this board is great for pouring out our woes, venting, etc...but I'm really getting tired of a few posters who seem to regularly post the "woe-is-me/I need to vent for a minute" posts. Suck it up. You're pregnant, if you didn't know what you were getting yourself into before you spread your legs, that's your own fault. It's gotten to where I don't even open threads usually by certain posters, b/c it's ALWAYS the same crap.
On the semi-same note...I think most of us need to cut our H's some slack. I see a lot of venting about them, and honestly, I'll be the 1st to admit that I'm not easy to live with right now. Could H be more understanding? Sure. But we're not the only ones going through a big change right now, and when a lot of H's are suddenly having to cook more, aren't getting sex, getting b!tched at, etc...why would we expect them to be "understanding" of how we feel? I realized that will probably the VERY unpopular opinion, but oh well, I got my BGP on.
eta: I realize some husbands are honestly acting like douches to their wives, but I'm referring to the women who get upset b/c their H's won't get them certain food, work all day then don't help them clean the house, or basically don't pamper their whiny butts.
This is totally mine too!
Professional, bare belly, maternity pictures kind of creep me out. Also, when DH is in the picture too? i just can't imagine doing that without cracking up! and are these hung in the house? I'm no Demi Moore and really don't want people seeing that.....awkward.....
I totally get all of this. I did presentations on everything we have purchased only to have DH tell me that I could get what I liked. I did finally convince him that we couldn't wait until July to get a new car because I was not going to be "that family" where I am upstairs in L&D while he was in the parking lot installing a carseat. We have not purchased hardly anything but we have a "list of things to get when DH says got shopping." It is sweet but at the same time it is very frustrating.
I am not an emotional person usually, my crying/angry/happy mood swing throw DH for a loop.
Earlier this week I wanted tacos from Jack in the Box. DH jokingly (over text message) said no I couldn't get any. I cried. Yup... I cried over 2 for 99 cents tacos.
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My brother & SIL made MH & I their son's legal guardian in the event they both shall perish (In other words, Godparents without the fancy name and ceremony). My brother told me that he knew we would raise his son in a loving environment and raise him properly.
We accepted and I pray it never happens but now that it's our turn to create a will and decide who we'd want raising our child. My brother and SIL are the absolute last people I'd want!!! I feel bad but they're just not fit parents IMO. I hope he never asks me about who we've chosen.
Re: the board - For the first work day I can remember since I joined TTGP last year I didn't log on to TB once on Monday or most of Tuesday because I so rarely find anything interesting here anymore.
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I have been soooo sick all week, but feel guilty taking time off because my boss is incapable of doing his job without me, and we already have a girl off on vacation this week. Dr said I have a sinus infection, I have been working all week in my boss's office because a girl that works in my office is going through chemo, I didn't want to expose her to any of my germs. Yesterday I was sooo miserable I locked my boss's office door, laid my coat on the floor and took a 20 minute nap! I'm too uncomfortable to just put my head down on the desk, so I literally laid on the floor and slept!
This!!!! i want to punch ppl who are intent on telling me its hot in august. really? thanks.
I have a 98 Corolla too! I call it my little POS haha I actually had to spend $600 on it last friday for some new coils because it was stuttering everytime I tried to accelerate or drive up hill. When you commute an hour or more to work, all back roads, and most of it up hill... this is pretty scary haha. It has 155,000 miles on it and is still surprisingly running well other then the coils haha. But it just looks terrible and I know people judge me. I"m missing a hubcap... so classy, its a mess... I wish i could get a new car but we just got DH one in December... booo...
My FFFC this week is that I finally had my first emotional break down yesterday. I've had a kind of rough emotional week., as happy as I am about being pregnant and excited, just this week has been tough. I'm out of breath, can't put my shoes on, achy, wicked heatburn, etc. The hardest though has been the fact that I just can't focus on anything, esp. at work. I've been really forgetful and a bad employee. I actually apologized to my boss about it last week and she was really understanding but I just feel really bad about it. I know she's been having to pick up my slack and I feel bad.
Yesterday i screwed up on something and I got a call from our property manager who called me out on it. She was really nice about it and told me she didn't want to get me in trouble, she just wanted to teach me the correct way to do it so I do it right in the future. She easily could have called me out and gotten me in trouble so I was really happy that she was so understanding about it but as soon as I got off the phone with her I ran into the bathroom here and sobbed for like 10 minutes! It just was the icing on the cake after a week where I've Monday- put body wash in my hair, Tuesday-backed up into another car in our parking garage, Wednesday- spilt coffee all over my white shirt and then this.. ugh...
My FFFC's... I've been MIA from TB for about two weeks or so because I was trying to be a good employee ...I have 38 working days left till I leave and this week I'm back to not caring. I have done as little as possible this week. I am currently researching crib mattresses online.
I had my shower last weekend and had a wonderful time and everyone was so generous... but I'm secretly glad it's over. But now I regret the striped shirt I wore in all the pics...
I love HDBD even though I don't post because every week someone makes a comment about how "big" I am, and it helps to see other people with their bumps. We are all showing now, and it makes me feel normal, instead of like a giant freak like some people act like I am. So, when posting your HDBD pic, you are also performing a public service of helping me not go crazy.
I've been thinking about my baby shower. I have a big fear that only 1 or 2 of my friends will show up and that the rest of the people there will be my mom's senior citizen friends. Which is cool, but I would really like it if my friends would take just an hour or 2 out of their day/year to get together and celebrate the baby with me. My mom is putting a lot of heart and effort into this shower and I want everyone to enjoy all her hard work. She's great and I appreciate everything she's done so far.
My FFC is that even though I want a natural birth this time, the Natural Birth board can be such a turn-off. I don't know why people think that OBs are self-serving and hospitals are just a baby factory.
When I read about people recommending refusing the antibiotics for GBS and instead using garlic I just think to myself what a bad idea that is. The antibiotics WORK and your baby could die if you choose to use garlic which is completely unproven.
I also see so much judgement on that board against other moms who induce early or need a c-section. Do what works best for you but unless you are that woman or her OB you have no right to say whether her induction/c-section is necessary. And epidurals aren't bad!!! If a woman doesn't want to be in pain during labor, that's her choice. She isn't harming herself or her baby.