UO Thursday!!

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

let's hear 'em........and GO!!

this is mine:

while i agree that the naming of a child is between both parents and they should agree on the name.....i think the mother should have 75% say and DH/SO should have 25% say on the name. it is my body that is carrying this baby, my sleep that is being interrupted, and it will be me saying the name all day long while DH is working!! ::stamping my foot:: i have the perfect name but DH won't agree!! and if i had 75% say, i would have my way.... Stick out tongue

indseyxlay · May 2011

jonnygurl76:

My UO:

I hate Sesame Street. I don't like what it has become. I grew up with it and it's nothing remotely like I remember. I won't even let DS watch it for a second (yeah DS watches some TV in the morning...he loves it and he's going to be fine) because I think it has lost all educational value. I'm thinking about seeing if I can find videos of the ones that I watched from the '70s and '80s (yes, I'm old). That was some good kid TV!

They released all the episodes of SS, but there is a warning on the first two seasons that kids should not watch them. haha Check out this NY Times article. It is kind of funny.

HappyAardvark · May 2011

This might be more of a FFC but NEWSFLASH: your baby's "team" is not as exciting as the season finale cliffhanger of Grey's Anatomy. I won't even click on posts that don't announce it in the subject line. Don't know why it annoys me so much. *shrug*

Saemilyn · May 2011

~ Kids can watch a certain amount of TV. There's nothing wrong with that.

~ Flip flops are not and never will be appropriate for work.

~ I'm not expecting a Mother's Day gift, nor do I plan on giving DH a Father's Day gift. But I will be participating next year.

alison2379 · May 2011

While I appreciate the outlet that blogs are, I don't read any of them. Blogspot is blocked for me at work, and that's when I'm really on a computer the most. Therefore, when someone refers to something that they referenced in their blog, I neer know what is going on, and really never find out. Pictures included.

I also agree with HA about the cliffhanger team blue vs. pink posts. YAWN.

Accounting Chick · May 2011

lissasue3:

My opinion is that more people should have the blog in their siggies.

I dont like being the only one.

And for anyone that wants to add it to their siggy, just use this code:

<a href="https://october2011.blogspot.com" mce_href="https://october2011.blogspot.com">Oct 2011 Blog: Pumpkin Patch</a>

What's the point? I've asked twice to be added, and ignored just as many times.

My opinion is that I feel that a large majority of the women on this board do not realize what an incredible blessing they have. They whine and complain about symptoms, their husband not waiting on them hand and foot, and overall do not appear at all thankful that they are able to bring a very special life into this world. As someone who was told it was unlikely they would ever conceive, and as a daughter of someone who couldn't (I'm adopted), I am so incredibly thankful every single day. I will take every ache and pain and throw up I have to.

SarahOrca · May 2011

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

shediva1 · May 2011

Lissasue - I've had the Oct blog on my siggy ever since you launched it

My UO- I am seeing weird changes with my nipples and it's scaring me!

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

what???? so what do you plan to do with your LO until they are of "the walking without tiring age"?? we take DD to the zoo all the time and she loves it, just because your LO can't walk around doesn't mean that they can't enjoy being in a new environment and seeing new things. and what if you have more than 1 child?? you are going to wait until the youngest child is old enough to go anywhere? this seems a little drastic to me.

Accounting Chick · May 2011

lissasue3:
Accounting Chick:
lissasue3:

My opinion is that more people should have the blog in their siggies.

I dont like being the only one.

And for anyone that wants to add it to their siggy, just use this code:

<a href="https://october2011.blogspot.com" mce_href="https://october2011.blogspot.com">Oct 2011 Blog: Pumpkin Patch</a>

What's the point? I've asked twice to be added, and ignored just as many times.

My opinion is that I feel that a large majority of the women on this board do not realize what an incredible blessing they have. They whine and complain about symptoms, their husband not waiting on them hand and foot, and overall do not appear at all thankful that they are able to bring a very special life into this world. As someone who was told it was unlikely they would ever conceive, and as a daughter of someone who couldn't (I'm adopted), I am so incredibly thankful every single day. I will take every ache and pain and throw up I have to.

How did you ask to be added? If it wasn't a paged directed at me, or on a post the same day that I posted then I didn't see it.
It wasn't anything personal against you.

I asked in a check-in (one of the last, or the last). I also asked in your first post about the blog where there were like 80 responses...I was the last one, so it's not like I got buried somewhere. Then you did an update post but closed it before I got home from work.

alison2379 · May 2011

Accounting Chick:
lissasue3:

My opinion is that more people should have the blog in their siggies.

I dont like being the only one.

And for anyone that wants to add it to their siggy, just use this code:

<a href="https://october2011.blogspot.com" mce_href="https://october2011.blogspot.com">Oct 2011 Blog: Pumpkin Patch</a>

What's the point? I've asked twice to be added, and ignored just as many times.

SarahOrca · May 2011

jonnygurl76:
SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.
So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.
what???? so what do you plan to do with your LO until they are of "the walking without tiring age"?? we take DD to the zoo all the time and she loves it, just because your LO can't walk around doesn't mean that they can't enjoy being in a new environment and seeing new things. and what if you have more than 1 child?? you are going to wait until the youngest child is old enough to go anywhere? this seems a little drastic to me.

Actually....good point! Okay, maybe let me revise it to say....I will not buy expensive tickets to places (i.e. $69.99 for Sea World was crazy...well, even for me!). I love the zoo, museums, fairs and such, so I'll definitely take LO to places like that. Plus, they sell some nice smaller strollers? I definitely get I will be "a mom with a stroller" someday....but for now, I get irritated when I'm stuck behind a roadblock of strollers....Knowing me, I'll be conscious of things like that & will learn the ropes of stroller etiquette!

I was also thinking back to my brother telling me...he took his 2 yr old & 4 yr old to Disney Land a few weeks ago. You ask the 2 yr old (almost 3) now about it, and he hasn't a thing to say. My 4 yr old (almost 5) nephew, on the other hand, is still excited at telling us his stories of his big day there!

SheLovesMrHip · May 2011

Today I shall go with slow drivers. I have a serious issue when getting on the freeway and someone is going 40. Move the heck over!! I swerved around a lady the other and she flipped me off.......hello Kia 45 is not a speed limit on the freeway!! DH hates that he bought me a stupid fast car for this reason.

I also hate how people judge you and make snarky remarks about peoples purchases on here. I'm just sayin......

SarahOrca · May 2011

lisajay09:
jonnygurl76:
SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.
So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.
what???? so what do you plan to do with your LO until they are of "the walking without tiring age"?? we take DD to the zoo all the time and she loves it, just because your LO can't walk around doesn't mean that they can't enjoy being in a new environment and seeing new things. and what if you have more than 1 child?? you are going to wait until the youngest child is old enough to go anywhere? this seems a little drastic to me.

I think ( and maybe I'm wrong) that she was talking more about places that cost a hefty penny to get into. I can see that. There are lots of things to do to expose young kids to new things/places that don't cost a lot of money. I will not be taking a Disney trip until the kids are old enought to hoof it and remember it....so maybe when they're 6 and 5. No way would I spend the money on that before.

Lisa, you are right! I definitely meant the expensive theme park-type places!

peelester429 · May 2011

alison2379:

While I appreciate the outlet that blogs are, I don't read any of them. Blogspot is blocked for me at work, and that's when I'm really on a computer the most. Therefore, when someone refers to something that they referenced in their blog, I neer know what is going on, and really never find out. Pictures included.

I also agree with HA about the cliffhanger team blue vs. pink posts. YAWN.

Crying And I thought you were my number one follower?! Wink I hate always putting up my blog link on HBDB and TTGP Grad Check-Ins, but I can't do pics at work and just wanna participate!

My UO: I think it's always important to - ah hem - please DH in the bedroom, no matter how not in the mood you are. I, unfortunately, am not one of the lucky women whose libido shoots through the roof while pregnant; however, after I got over the irrational fear that the BD would somehow hurt the baby, I really try to keep DH satisfied, no matter how much I'd rather be napping! Wink

alison2379 · May 2011

peelester429:
alison2379:

While I appreciate the outlet that blogs are, I don't read any of them. Blogspot is blocked for me at work, and that's when I'm really on a computer the most. Therefore, when someone refers to something that they referenced in their blog, I neer know what is going on, and really never find out. Pictures included.

I also agree with HA about the cliffhanger team blue vs. pink posts. YAWN.

And I thought you were my number one follower?! I hate always putting up my blog link on HBDB and TTGP Grad Check-Ins, but I can't do pics at work and just wanna participate!

My UO: I think it's always important to - ah hem - please DH in the bedroom, no matter how not in the mood you are. I, unfortunately, am not one of the lucky women whose libido shoots through the roof while pregnant; however, after I got over the irrational fear that the BD would somehow hurt the baby, I really try to keep DH satisfied, no matter how much I'd rather be napping!

The REALLY SPECIAL people get pulled up on my iPhone. I've checked out those HDBD shots!!! Big Smile

antosh2008 · May 2011

I have a feeling that I'm going to get some Super Angry and some from this one, but it's my UO!!!

I don't believe in push gifts. I was listening to a local radio DJ talk about this and describe how one woman wanted a freaking BMW after she delivered! I'm sorry, you're rotten! Your gift is that beautiful baby in your arms. You don't need a new car to show you're a momma.

Sure, my husband brought me flowers and stayed by my side the entire time. That's enough for me. I got to hold a healthy baby girl. That was MY push present. That, and a different center of balance!

antosh2008 · May 2011

I have a feeling that I'm going to get some Super Angry and some from this one, but it's my UO!!!

I don't believe in push gifts. I was listening to a local radio DJ talk about this and describe how one woman wanted a freaking BMW after she delivered! I'm sorry, you're rotten! Your gift is that beautiful baby in your arms. You don't need a new car to show you're a momma.

Sure, my husband brought me flowers and stayed by my side the entire time. That's enough for me. I got to hold a healthy baby girl. That was MY push present. That, and a different center of balance!

osuwku · May 2011

lissasue3:

My opinion is that more people should have the blog in their siggies.

I dont like being the only one.

And for anyone that wants to add it to their siggy, just use this code:

<a href="https://october2011.blogspot.com" mce_href="https://october2011.blogspot.com">Oct 2011 Blog: Pumpkin Patch</a>

Done! It is added, thanks for the code!! Big Smile

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

SarahOrca:
jonnygurl76:
SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

what???? so what do you plan to do with your LO until they are of "the walking without tiring age"?? we take DD to the zoo all the time and she loves it, just because your LO can't walk around doesn't mean that they can't enjoy being in a new environment and seeing new things. and what if you have more than 1 child?? you are going to wait until the youngest child is old enough to go anywhere? this seems a little drastic to me.

Actually....good point! Okay, maybe let me revise it to say....I will not buy expensive tickets to places (i.e. $69.99 for Sea World was crazy...well, even for me!). I love the zoo, museums, fairs and such, so I'll definitely take LO to places like that. Plus, they sell some nice smaller strollers? I definitely get I will be "a mom with a stroller" someday....but for now, I get irritated when I'm stuck behind a roadblock of strollers....Knowing me, I'll be conscious of things like that & will learn the ropes of stroller etiquette!

I was also thinking back to my brother telling me...he took his 2 yr old & 4 yr old to Disney Land a few weeks ago. You ask the 2 yr old (almost 3) now about it, and he hasn't a thing to say. My 4 yr old (almost 5) nephew, on the other hand, is still excited at telling us his stories of his big day there!

ok, this makes more sense. i was thinking 'what in the world is she going to do? sit home for 5 years?' LOL.

antosh2008 · May 2011

SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

We have gone back and forth thinking about what to do about this scenario. Our challenge is that we have a 7 yo, 5 yo, and 1 yo. The older two will remember, but we have to pay to play with the baby. There are many places, thank goodness, that are starting to allow under 3 for free. It's a break. Often, we don't go places without having a coupon for admission. But, I totally agree that paying something near that price is CRAZY!

osuwku · May 2011

SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

I agree! I never understand why parents spend the money on taking children that won't remember one detail of it! But, my parents did take me to Disneyland when I was too young because I have an older brother and sister (they are 8 and 6 yrs older than me) but we did go back when I was older.

karinothing · May 2011

lisajay09:

I'm going to agree with you but take it further...I think the mom is the only person who should have a say int he name. So, under my theory, go ahead and name your baby whatever you want!!!

I'm all for fathers taking active roles in pregnancy as well as the daily care of their children, but I really feel like if a woman wants to name her child X, it's sh!tty of the father to say no. I guess I just don't think they have the right to tell a mother no about naming their baby...she carried the baby and has a unmatchable bond with the baby, if that's what she really wants, what good does it do to tell her that she can't? I just don't get why a man would do that to his partner. Now, if a mother and father want to come up with a name together and she isn't dead set on a name, sure, his input is great, but for those women who have had a name picked long before they were pregnant, or long before they met their SO, then she should name her child that and the father should just get over himself.

I think THIS Is just crazy pants

1. There is no excuse for a father NOT to take an active role in the pregnancy. You seem to be suggesting that it should be an option and that it is nice if they decide to help out but really not all that necessary. It is 2011. A father should be 100% committed to fully caring for his child in ALL stages of life.

2. The baby is both of our biological child. Why the heck should I have any more say than the father? He is my partner. He is my equal. The child is both of ours. The fact that I am the only one able to physically carry it before its born doesn't give me a right to name the child.

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

antosh2008:

I have a feeling that I'm going to get some and some from this one, but it's my UO!!!

I don't believe in push gifts. I was listening to a local radio DJ talk about this and describe how one woman wanted a freaking BMW after she delivered! I'm sorry, you're rotten! Your gift is that beautiful baby in your arms. You don't need a new car to show you're a momma.

Sure, my husband brought me flowers and stayed by my side the entire time. That's enough for me. I got to hold a healthy baby girl. That was MY push present. That, and a different center of balance!

my DD was my push present and i didn't even push.......my DH staying with me at the hospital and being so supportive was enough. i don't believe in them either. (although DH wanting to get me a nice Mother's Day gift is a plus this year Stick out tongue , it isn't something i expect)!!

antosh2008 · May 2011

jonnygurl76:
antosh2008:

I have a feeling that I'm going to get some and some from this one, but it's my UO!!!

I don't believe in push gifts. I was listening to a local radio DJ talk about this and describe how one woman wanted a freaking BMW after she delivered! I'm sorry, you're rotten! Your gift is that beautiful baby in your arms. You don't need a new car to show you're a momma.

Sure, my husband brought me flowers and stayed by my side the entire time. That's enough for me. I got to hold a healthy baby girl. That was MY push present. That, and a different center of balance!

my DD was my push present and i didn't even push.......my DH staying with me at the hospital and being so supportive was enough. i don't believe in them either. (although DH wanting to get me a nice Mother's Day gift is a plus this year , it isn't something i expect)!!

Thank you!!!!

BettyBookworm · May 2011

antosh2008:
I have a feeling that I'm going to get some and some from this one, but it's my UO!!!

I don't believe in push gifts. I was listening to a local radio DJ talk about this and describe how one woman wanted a freaking BMW after she delivered! I'm sorry, you're rotten! Your gift is that beautiful baby in your arms. You don't need a new car to show you're a momma.

Sure, my husband brought me flowers and stayed by my side the entire time. That's enough for me. I got to hold a healthy baby girl. That was MY push present. That, and a different center of balance!

I agree with you on the "Push Present" thing. I don't understand it & I think its gift-grabby. My gift is the kid & a husband who is going to tolerate me verbally abusing him while I writhe in agony during birth.

happylady07 · May 2011

karinothing:
lisajay09:

I'm going to agree with you but take it further...I think the mom is the only person who should have a say int he name. So, under my theory, go ahead and name your baby whatever you want!!!

I'm all for fathers taking active roles in pregnancy as well as the daily care of their children, but I really feel like if a woman wants to name her child X, it's sh!tty of the father to say no. I guess I just don't think they have the right to tell a mother no about naming their baby...she carried the baby and has a unmatchable bond with the baby, if that's what she really wants, what good does it do to tell her that she can't? I just don't get why a man would do that to his partner. Now, if a mother and father want to come up with a name together and she isn't dead set on a name, sure, his input is great, but for those women who have had a name picked long before they were pregnant, or long before they met their SO, then she should name her child that and the father should just get over himself.

I think THIS Is just crazy pants

1. There is no excuse for a father NOT to take an active role in the pregnancy. You seem to be suggesting that it should be an option and that it is nice if they decide to help out but really not all that necessary. It is 2011. A father should be 100% committed to fully caring for his child in ALL stages of life.

2. The baby is both of our biological child. Why the heck should I have any more say than the father? He is my partner. He is my equal. The child is both of ours. The fact that I am the only one able to physically carry it before its born doesn't give me a right to name the child.

Amen! I couldn't imagine not having my husband's support through all of this. He is an amazing man who works incredibly hard to take care of his family, I am ridiculously lucky that he does so I can stay at home and raise our babies myself! I would never want to and couldn't do his job, just like he wouldn't want to ever have to think of cooking/cleaning/budgeting/laundry duty.

So I guess my UO is that I am all for stay at home moms/wives who treat their husbands like the heroes they are when they get home from a hard days work. He has given me the best gift ever- the ability to be there for my kids, raise them myself, and not miss a thing!

happylady07 · May 2011

osuwku:
SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

I agree! I never understand why parents spend the money on taking children that won't remember one detail of it! But, my parents did take me to Disneyland when I was too young because I have an older brother and sister (they are 8 and 6 yrs older than me) but we did go back when I was older.

My parents took me to Disneyland when I was 2, and I had nightmares that the characters (yep, those sweet furry costumed people) were chasing me for-ev-er!! Yes, I was that child, freaked about the weirdest things!!!

saffie2011 · May 2011

A new one. I don't agree with private cord blood banking. I think it's a scam that feeds on the fears of parents and I think that donation is the way to go. It's a scam because they charge you a lot of money annually to hold onto the cord cells for diseases that are (a) extraordinarily rare and (b) many of which cord cells are not of proven benefit.

The other reason I don't like them is instead of it being a public banking system, where the few kids unlucky enough to get leukemia get to use matched cord blood, the blood is only available for the one child whose family was wealthy enough to pay for it and likely won't ever use it.

Although MH and I can afford to do it, we are excited to donate, so it could potentially benefit another family.

jpeazybreezy · May 2011

Accounting Chick:

My opinion is that I feel that a large majority of the women on this board do not realize what an incredible blessing they have. They whine and complain about symptoms, their husband not waiting on them hand and foot, and overall do not appear at all thankful that they are able to bring a very special life into this world. As someone who was told it was unlikely they would ever conceive, and as a daughter of someone who couldn't (I'm adopted), I am so incredibly thankful every single day. I will take every ache and pain and throw up I have to.

You can love the pregnancy and not love the symptoms. Its okay to have the attitude that it is worth it, but that doesn't mean that being on bedrest for months or throwing up daily has be something that you're in love with. We all recognize that sacrafices must be made, and we all gladly bear these conditions with the outcome in mind. Nobody runs out to terminate their pregnancy because they don't like having tender boobs or are tired of RLP. I feel like this attitude is that same that ppl encounter when they say that pregnancy is uncomfortable, and the remark is "You have no one to blame but yourself", or "You're the one that wanted to have a baby"... While I consider all of the aches and pains a badge of honor, I can understand that some folks may not exactly *enjoy* throwing up.

jeannkerricotober09 · May 2011

happylady07:
karinothing:
lisajay09:

I'm going to agree with you but take it further...I think the mom is the only person who should have a say int he name. So, under my theory, go ahead and name your baby whatever you want!!!
I'm all for fathers taking active roles in pregnancy as well as the daily care of their children, but I really feel like if a woman wants to name her child X, it's sh!tty of the father to say no. I guess I just don't think they have the right to tell a mother no about naming their baby...she carried the baby and has a unmatchable bond with the baby, if that's what she really wants, what good does it do to tell her that she can't? I just don't get why a man would do that to his partner. Now, if a mother and father want to come up with a name together and she isn't dead set on a name, sure, his input is great, but for those women who have had a name picked long before they were pregnant, or long before they met their SO, then she should name her child that and the father should just get over himself.
I think THIS Is just crazy pants
1. There is no excuse for a father NOT to take an active role in the pregnancy. You seem to be suggesting that it should be an option and that it is nice if they decide to help out but really not all that necessary. It is 2011. A father should be 100% committed to fully caring for his child in ALL stages of life.
2. The baby is both of our biological child. Why the heck should I have any more say than the father? He is my partner. He is my equal. The child is both of ours. The fact that I am the only one able to physically carry it before its born doesn't give me a right to name the child.

Amen! I couldn't imagine not having my husband's support through all of this. He is an amazing man who works incredibly hard to take care of his family, I am ridiculously lucky that he does so I can stay at home and raise our babies myself! I would never want to and couldn't do his job, just like he wouldn't want to ever have to think of cooking/cleaning/budgeting/laundry duty.
So I guess my UO is that I am all for stay at home moms/wives who treat their husbands like the heroes they are when they get home from a hard days work. He has given me the best gift ever- the ability to be there for my kids, raise them myself, and not miss a thing!

ITA. This is crazy! My wife will not be 50% of the genetic makeup of the child but she will be 'mommy' and to be honest, probably a better one than me! We are equal and have vetoed each others names for months now. Together, we will decide on the perfect name for the baby. Unless he is a deadbeat, he absolutely deserves 50% of the say in naming the child.

(ITA agree with the second post too. I am now a housewife and my wife is floored by how much everything has changed - I jokingly refer to myself as her 1940's housewife and see it as my job to be sure everything is clean, put away, dinner is on, and her needs are anticipated. I am beyond lucky that she works so hard at her impossibly difficult and draining job (special ed teacher for moderate to severe kids) so I can stay home and hope to show her that every day.)

My UO - I post constantly, know it will piss people off, can't be bothered finishing it and delete it. Just as I did 2 seconds ago with my original UO. I don't want to have to sit here an defend myself all day long and I don't want to be accused of posting and leaving.. so I don't post. Now I am going to garden and not sit at the computer, having to defend a scathing post! have a good day!

karinothing · May 2011

Cate1234:
karinothing:
lisajay09:

I'm going to agree with you but take it further...I think the mom is the only person who should have a say int he name. So, under my theory, go ahead and name your baby whatever you want!!!

I'm all for fathers taking active roles in pregnancy as well as the daily care of their children, but I really feel like if a woman wants to name her child X, it's sh!tty of the father to say no. I guess I just don't think they have the right to tell a mother no about naming their baby...she carried the baby and has a unmatchable bond with the baby, if that's what she really wants, what good does it do to tell her that she can't? I just don't get why a man would do that to his partner. Now, if a mother and father want to come up with a name together and she isn't dead set on a name, sure, his input is great, but for those women who have had a name picked long before they were pregnant, or long before they met their SO, then she should name her child that and the father should just get over himself.

I think THIS Is just crazy pants

1. There is no excuse for a father NOT to take an active role in the pregnancy. You seem to be suggesting that it should be an option and that it is nice if they decide to help out but really not all that necessary. It is 2011. A father should be 100% committed to fully caring for his child in ALL stages of life.

2. The baby is both of our biological child. Why the heck should I have any more say than the father? He is my partner. He is my equal. The child is both of ours. The fact that I am the only one able to physically carry it before its born doesn't give me a right to name the child.

How can the father take an active role in the pregnancy? I know that a lot of SOs would like to, but there is not much that they can do but be there for the mother.

DH is great - he comes to all the appointments that he can, he brings me my prenatal vitamins, he is really supportive and he puts up with my crazy food aversions and cravings. But this isn't really an "active" role and it can't be.

I agree that mothers should get a larger say in naming the baby. I'm not sure that I would with 100%. I wouldn't use a name that DH hated, but I think that he should defer to my opinion.

My UO - It drives me crazy when someone suggests a horrible name or a horrible spelling of a normal name and people say "Well, as long as you and SO like it, that all that matters." No!!! These poor kids have to live with this name and right or wrong - they will be judged based name.

I guess I am not sure why you think that isn't an active role. My DH comes with me to all the appointments, talks to and sings to the baby, he reads books, writes in our pregnancy journal, he basically does everything I do except gestate the baby. But at almost 15 weeks I have had zero pregnancy symptoms (other than sore boobs) so its not like my role is that much more active. It is not like I sit down and say "hey baby it is time to start growing your arms."

Mandy747 · May 2011

karinothing:
lisajay09:

I'm going to agree with you but take it further...I think the mom is the only person who should have a say int he name. So, under my theory, go ahead and name your baby whatever you want!!!

I'm all for fathers taking active roles in pregnancy as well as the daily care of their children, but I really feel like if a woman wants to name her child X, it's sh!tty of the father to say no. I guess I just don't think they have the right to tell a mother no about naming their baby...she carried the baby and has a unmatchable bond with the baby, if that's what she really wants, what good does it do to tell her that she can't? I just don't get why a man would do that to his partner. Now, if a mother and father want to come up with a name together and she isn't dead set on a name, sure, his input is great, but for those women who have had a name picked long before they were pregnant, or long before they met their SO, then she should name her child that and the father should just get over himself.

I think THIS Is just crazy pants

1. There is no excuse for a father NOT to take an active role in the pregnancy. You seem to be suggesting that it should be an option and that it is nice if they decide to help out but really not all that necessary. It is 2011. A father should be 100% committed to fully caring for his child in ALL stages of life.

2. The baby is both of our biological child. Why the heck should I have any more say than the father? He is my partner. He is my equal. The child is both of ours. The fact that I am the only one able to physically carry it before its born doesn't give me a right to name the child.

ITA. Why on earth wouldn't you want your H/SO to spend time naming your child? It's his child too. Obviously they can't do as much of the 'work' right now, but I don't think that means anything. My H is actually pretty upset that he can't do anything- he's really disappointed that he still can't feel any movement.

Naming a child should be a joint decision and, assuming the father is actively involved in your life, why on earth wouldn't you want his opinion?

karinothing · May 2011

Plus I think by saying the mother has more of a right to name the baby than the mother you get into this weird area of saying the mother is more of a parent then the father, or the mother loves the baby more, which is just crap IMO.

NickyCicc20 · May 2011

jonnygurl76:
SarahOrca:
jonnygurl76:
SarahOrca:

I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.

So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

what???? so what do you plan to do with your LO until they are of "the walking without tiring age"?? we take DD to the zoo all the time and she loves it, just because your LO can't walk around doesn't mean that they can't enjoy being in a new environment and seeing new things. and what if you have more than 1 child?? you are going to wait until the youngest child is old enough to go anywhere? this seems a little drastic to me.

Actually....good point! Okay, maybe let me revise it to say....I will not buy expensive tickets to places (i.e. $69.99 for Sea World was crazy...well, even for me!). I love the zoo, museums, fairs and such, so I'll definitely take LO to places like that. Plus, they sell some nice smaller strollers? I definitely get I will be "a mom with a stroller" someday....but for now, I get irritated when I'm stuck behind a roadblock of strollers....Knowing me, I'll be conscious of things like that & will learn the ropes of stroller etiquette!

I was also thinking back to my brother telling me...he took his 2 yr old & 4 yr old to Disney Land a few weeks ago. You ask the 2 yr old (almost 3) now about it, and he hasn't a thing to say. My 4 yr old (almost 5) nephew, on the other hand, is still excited at telling us his stories of his big day there!

ok, this makes more sense. i was thinking 'what in the world is she going to do? sit home for 5 years?' LOL.

I guess my UO is that I am going to take my children to Disney--A LOT. And probably spend a ton of money over a lifetime going. My family lives in Florida and I grew up going 3-4 times per year---and loved every second of it. I still love going and try to get there as much as possible.

DH and I can afford the trips, I don't mind pushing a stroller, or carrying around tons of snacks, whatever they need. To me, it will be worth it to see their faces when they are on the rides and see the characters. I will also be taking them to state fairs and local zoos and less expensive places but Disney will definitely be in my family's future.

Mandy747 · May 2011

danes22:

My UO: I think it's unnecessary when women on here say "..but we would NEVER terminate, even if there was an issue" when referring to genetic screening and other tests- like terminating due to severe genetic defects is the most horrible thing a person could do. That's great that you are so firm in your decision, but I don't think there is anything wrong with a person terminating a pregnancy due to something like that. My SO and I didn't plan this pregnancy (on BC) and while I am thrilled to be having a baby, we don't have the funds or ability to care for a special needs child. I HAVE to work after I finish grad school, and even then I won't be making tons of money. I'm not saying I would or wouldn't terminate (because I haven't been in that position), but I know I would have to think long and hard about it and I would never judge someone based on their decision.

I think you're just overly sensitive to this type of comment and reading too much into it. Unless it's in direct reference to someone stating you are going to terminate, then I don't see any issue with someone, unprompted, stating they would never terminate their pregnancy.

No one is saying that terminating due to genetic defect is the most awful thing a person could do and that is in no way actually communicated via an innocent "I would never terminate" in a thread about genetic testing.

PitaBread · May 2011

SarahOrca:
I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.
So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

I live in San Diego. Season passes for SoCal residents to Sea World, the zoo, Legoland, Disney, etc. are fairly inexpensive and give you the ability to take your young kid whenever you want. Nothing wrong with that!

What you should have noted is the stroller parking...there have been reports of a ton of BOB strollers stolen and sold on Craigslist. If you go on forums like TripAdvisor (and local forums), people complain all the time about their expensive stroller being stolen yet didn't think twice about just leaving it there, unlocked.

itsmegin · May 2011

SarahOrca:
I went to Sea World San Diego on Monday. While it was a "quiet" day at the park (easy to walk around, not very crowded); I cringed at the sight of the "stroller parking" areas outside some of the "show venues." It wasn't so much that...as thinking that that the parents paid a cool $69.99 to get those strollered children into the park for the day.
So my UO is.... unless my child can walk themselves the whole day, they will NOT be going to Disneyland, Sea World, etc. What a waste of money on children so little...I'd rather wait until they can at least remember some of the memories...and I don't want to be "one of those Moms" crashing into people with my huge stroller.

I don't know about Sea World, but kids under 3 are free at Disneyland. I will be taking my baby when its a few months old.

KindraMc · May 2011

Saemilyn:
~ Kids can watch a certain amount of TV. There's nothing wrong with that.
~ Flip flops are not and never will be appropriate for work.
~ I'm not expecting a Mother's Day gift, nor do I plan on giving DH a Father's Day gift. But I will be participating next year.

I'm at work, and currently wearing flip flops

alison2379 · May 2011

Mandy747:
danes22:

My UO: I think it's unnecessary when women on here say "..but we would NEVER terminate, even if there was an issue" when referring to genetic screening and other tests- like terminating due to severe genetic defects is the most horrible thing a person could do. That's great that you are so firm in your decision, but I don't think there is anything wrong with a person terminating a pregnancy due to something like that. My SO and I didn't plan this pregnancy (on BC) and while I am thrilled to be having a baby, we don't have the funds or ability to care for a special needs child. I HAVE to work after I finish grad school, and even then I won't be making tons of money. I'm not saying I would or wouldn't terminate (because I haven't been in that position), but I know I would have to think long and hard about it and I would never judge someone based on their decision.

I think you're just overly sensitive to this type of comment and reading too much into it. Unless it's in direct reference to someone stating you are going to terminate, then I don't see any issue with someone, unprompted, stating they would never terminate their pregnancy.

No one is saying that terminating due to genetic defect is the most awful thing a person could do and that is in no way actually communicated via an innocent "I would never terminate" in a thread about genetic testing.

I'm actually on the original opinion on this one. There are few things I would *NEVER* do. Stick around for a while and read a few tragic stories, and I realize that NEVER is a sticky word to use in the context of decisions we make regarding our children.

MereB · May 2011

It really bothers me when some of my home-birth/birthing center 1st time mom friends always bash everything about hospitals. If you have never had a baby in a hospital, how can you hate everything they do and know you'll have a miserable "birthing experience?" I find that a lot of things they've been told and spread are lies or stories that have been extremely exaggerated. Can't they just tell their "gold star" birth story without comparing it to the horrible hospital birth they've NEVER experienced (and never will)?

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