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The "Oh Wow You're BIG" Comments....

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OK, in preparation for the weeks to come (and probably from a bit of PTSD from my previous 2 pregnancies)....what do you say when someone asks, "How many weeks are you?" (you tell them) and then they say, "WOW....you're big. Is it twins?" or "Really? Wow, are you sure?" or WHATEVER?!!! I always carry very ROUND and forward and was often told (without asking for their opinion) that I'm ginormous. I need to plan ahead this go round. I hate that!!!
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  • bridgeybridebridgeybride

    I posted this same thing.. a few wks ago and have tried to use some of the "comebacks".... like "you'd think I was growing a baby or something?"

    Just today was told TWICE that I'm really big.  I freaking hate that so much.   I ignored BOTH people and pretended I didn't hear it.

    I gained so much after my daughter was born, then miscarried last summer.. got heavier.. and then got pregnant in November.. so I AM bigger.. and started out almost 40 pounds heavier than I did last time.. I'm now 10 pounds heavier than I was full term with my daughter.. Needless to say.. I'm not happy about being bigger... but my doctor is fine with it, hasn't said that I've gained too much (with this pregnancy only about 20 lbs so far).... 

    Anyway.. the baby is healthy and all that matters.. every BODY is different. 

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  • SFAug07SFAug07 member
    I am always told I am so small and if I am sure the baby is okay. People just feel they need to comment on your size. I don't really mind.
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  • LauraLynneCLauraLynneC member
    I just smile.  He's big...and healthy.  *shrug* (I'm carrying all out front and high - measuring only slightly ahead but I look ginormous...)
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  • Mrs_MMrs_M
    I think my boobs make the belly look smaller, at least from my view, haha! People NEVER think before they speak!
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  • kimb311kimb311 member
    I would just side eye them....sometimes saying NOTHING and giving them a minute to think about what they just said can be pretty entertaining! watching them back pedel should give you a laugh!
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  • mcwhittakermcwhittaker member

    Big babies run in our families, so I guess it doesn't phase me.

    I'd rather someone say "wow you're big!" in regards to being pregnant and not "wow you got fat" which is probably what they're really thinking LOL

    I lost 70 lbs prior to getting pregnant... i'm now up 60 pounds total. I just hope it comes back off fast. I will at least be able to take my thyroid medication again which will help. 

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  • greysmommygreysmommy
    I get the EXACT same comments!  I've had parents (at school) ask me "how many days do you have left?"  Um...it's NOT days...it's months! :(  It just happens to some of us.  I usually gain a good bit of weight, but deliver huge babies & have a ton of swelling.  I'm eating very healthy & walk when I can.  I lose the weight afterwards (well, most of it anyway).  Just ignore the comments and go on your merry way!  I know it's hurtful, but keep your chin up.  You have a precious life growing inside of you...and that takes space! Smile
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  • mpstochlinski8mpstochlinski8

    ask them whats their excuse, after all you have a baby in there! ;)

    ok that may be a little mean but if the shoe fits...

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  • fabfivefabfive
    so far i've had 2 people say "oh you must be getting ready to deliver soon!"  one was my dentist (male) and one was an elderly lady on an elevator at my ob's office.  i just laughed and said, "nope.  not till august!"  it doesn't bother me that much really.  i am just happy to be growing a baby.  oh and EVERYBODY asks if it's twins because i had twins with my previous pregnancy.  i just give them really big eyes and say adamantly, "NOOOOO!  not this time!"
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  • beazbadazme2beazbadazme2 member

    I either say "Yep this is what happens with #4 and you've been stretch out already" or I say "Yeah I know I'm huge". Either way they get the point that maybe they shouldn't have stuck their foot in their mouth.

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  • peeper72peeper72

    You know, I never had these comments about myself but I do hear this all the time about DD. I always reply, "you should see her father. He's almost 6'5"!" It drives me nuts and makes me sad for her that she may hear this in a time when her self-esteem may be impacted.

    Since when is a big, healthy baby NOT OK?

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  • SFAug07SFAug07 member
    imagepeeper72:

    You know, I never had these comments about myself but I do hear this all the time about DD. I always reply, "you should see her father. He's almost 6'5"!" It drives me nuts and makes me sad for her that she may hear this in a time when her self-esteem may be impacted.

    Since when is a big, healthy baby NOT OK?

    I hear you! I get these comments about Sarah all the time too. I always respond like you do, telling them that her father is 6'4".

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    imagekimb311:
    I would just side eye them....sometimes saying NOTHING and giving them a minute to think about what they just said can be pretty entertaining! watching them back pedel should give you a laugh!

    this ..

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  • clipingirlclipingirl
    LOL--thank you for this feedback!! I know I am probably just paranoid. I so appreciate all of your great comments to "just enjoy" and "move on"--advice I needed to hear! I do realize everyone has an opinion. It's up to ME whether or not to listen to those opinions. You've all helped me feel better!!!! THANK YOU again!!!
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  • SunidazeSunidaze member

    I've been dealing with these comments for more than a month now at work.  I try to take it all in stride, but getting a little frustrating.  I don't think I'm any bigger than most other chicks at about the same place as me.  Some of my coworkers are even convinced (and they've had children) that I won't make it past mid-May when in fact I'm due past the halfway point of June.  Although one conceded yesterday that after seeing a picture of someone else, I wasn't as big as this other person.  The other person?  Mariah Carey who just had twins.  Frustrating and I'm starting to have to bite my tongue with people!

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  • kimb311kimb311 member
    imageBrandySun:

    I've been dealing with these comments for more than a month now at work.  I try to take it all in stride, but getting a little frustrating.  I don't think I'm any bigger than most other chicks at about the same place as me.  Some of my coworkers are even convinced (and they've had children) that I won't make it past mid-May when in fact I'm due past the halfway point of June.  Although one conceded yesterday that after seeing a picture of someone else, I wasn't as big as this other person.  The other person?  Mariah Carey who just had twins.  Frustrating and I'm starting to have to bite my tongue with people!

    OMG, I had to laugh at that! How rude!! Im so sorry. People are soooo stupid.

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