BRING EM ON - FFFC

yankeebaby2 · April 2011

shirls:
I know this is petty, but I don't want to acknowledge MIL at all on Mother's Day...not even a card. I feel like we have been generous enough in getting her a round trip ticket from CA to the midwest so she could visit her family when we are there too visiting DH's extended family.

I agree, that's a generous gift. What does your husband say? Why can't you give her a $2 card?

jlthompson19 · April 2011

megperk72:
jlthompson19:
megperk72:

I am hoping something happens so DD and I can stay home instead of going on our vacation. Not something bad, but maybe I can just get sick enough to not be able to fly. We are taking 5 friends to Louisville (DH's hometown) for Derby and we are staying with MIL...who is also (just recently) the full time caretaker of DH's brother's baby who is 6 months old. For some reason MIL thinks we will leave her (65 yrs old) with both babies and she can sing and play with them all day and it will all be rosy. She doesn't realize how much work an almost-walking 11 month old will be. Add a 6 month old into the mix, and that is too much for a 65 yr old woman. I just won't do it, I won't leave her alone with them. And then she'll get pissy when I won't. And then we're both afraid that she will try to lie and tell us 'so and so' is coming over to help. I just know what's going to happen, and it's not going to be pretty.

If we weren't taking a group, we would have cancelled already.

So my confession is, I wish I could get sick, just sick enough to not be able to fly. And then DD and I can spend the week alone. A nice, quiet week with no MIL.

Wow, 65 is HARDLY old. My 62 year old mother regularly watches my 7, 4 and 3 year old nephews and has no issues.

IMO, those ages would be fine. I just think a 6 month old and an almost walking 11 month old in a non-childproofed house, with 2 sets of stairs, no baby gear, being watched by someone who hasn't cared for babies in 40 years is too much for me to be comfortable with. And we spefically asked her if she was going to be needed to care for the younger baby so we could make other plans on those days and were told it wouldn't be a problem. I'm just not comfortable with the situation.

If you still disagree, then we'll just agree to disagree.

If you don't want her watching your kids b/c she wouldn't do a good job, that's fine. But to blame it on the ripe ol' age of 65 is a cop out. 65 is just not old. I know many people in their 60's who are in much better physical and mental shape than some in their 30's.

shirls · April 2011

yankeebaby2:
shirls:
I know this is petty, but I don't want to acknowledge MIL at all on Mother's Day...not even a card. I feel like we have been generous enough in getting her a round trip ticket from CA to the midwest so she could visit her family when we are there too visiting DH's extended family.

I agree, that's a generous gift. What does your husband say? Why can't you give her a $2 card?

DH doesn't care about cards. He never buys them for his family and will just call them on special occasions. It's not the cost of the card but more of me just wanting to be a petty biitch to her. I know it would probably upset her that she did not receive a mother's/grandmother's day card. DH and I agreed that it would be a combined mother's day/birthday gift for her when we got her the plane ticket. Although I'm not so sure he told her that b/c I feel like she is taking advantage of us in some ways. She knows we are financially stable and yet she should be too. However, somehow she is unable to purchase her own ticket.

Stephanie2167 · April 2011

I just went tanning and it felt great.

eitaknna9 · April 2011

Stephanie2167:
I just went tanning and it felt great.

Jealous! That sounds great right about now!

emsumm · April 2011

Stephanie2167:
I just went tanning and it felt great.

It won't feel great when you are diagnosed with melanoma. I'm sorry, I know that sounds harsh, but my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer this year from sun exposure. It is very real, and very serious. Many people do not understand that skin cancer is one of the most deadly cancers.

People are often flamed on here for smoking because it kills...tanning kills, too. Please rethink your trips to the tanning salon...

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