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JennV514 · April 2011

H2obabyblu:
bananatiff:
H2obabyblu:
mrsbaker1128:
H2obabyblu:
mrsbaker1128:
H2obabyblu:

Blu - when is your due date? I'm due July 8th and I have 70 days left. You are due in 100 days, so July 38th?

Holy cow, we have some really nice peeps around here!

FYI I am going to be induced early due to a chronic medical condition, so yes, to answer your questionI will be giving birth at the end of July. Maybe I should have joined the AUG board after all

I think my days here on the bump are done.... I am sure you will not miss me.

I am going to choose to spend my time with adults IRL and on different forums I am on that are kinder to another and do not make fun of each other on the internet to get out their daily frustrations with their own lives.

I wish you ladies ALL a happy and healthy pregnancy, quick labor and peaceful parenthood.

1. Get over yourself.

2. Your comment on rooming in was not kind in any way.

3. My life is amazing, thanks.

colorschemer · April 2011

I'm jumping out of the threads and throwing in my own FFFC.

As I mentioned in the depths of another post, my former best friend just completely dropped me. Canceled the baby shower. Stopped speaking to me.

Her creepy live-in boyfriend of like forever started hitting on me like crazy (like actually propositioning me) and after I made it clear that he was disgusting and he made it clear that he wasn't going to stop trying, I came out with the whole thing.

He's a known sleazebag. I've known her for years and years and NEVER lied to her, about her or in front of her. So of course she stops speaking to me (still with sleazebag) and everyone in our awful little circle has decided to totally exclude me because they feel bad for boo hoo poor ex-friend because I'm obviously just a troublemaker and she's stuck with a yucky "husband".

DH even felt a little bad for her and told me that if should make me feel better that at least I'm not in her position. Um, hello! She's made her own bed. I mean, this is like the twentieth worst thing this guy has done, not the first. Seriously. Own your friggin' choices. Boo hoo hoo if you want, but do it on the way out the door. Then I'll feel bad for you.

So one of the people in the middle is the owner of the local coffee shop we both go to (and I thought I was pretty good friends with). She went as far as sending a Facebook invite for an event at her business to ex-friend and MY HUSBAND but not me. Umm... so my husband's going to go and tell me to stay home because I wasn't invited? Sorry, not how normal people operate.

So the confession part is that after being really upset about all of this, I'm started to be really happy the whole thing happened. When LO is born, he won't have to know any of these people. I don't have to pretend I don't want to puke when ex-friend's grosser half is around (I didn't like him before he showed all of his sleazy cards). I don't have to go to the other friend's coffee shop anymore and get bad service and gross decaf because she's a friend and it is a little closer to my house when there's another one that has incredible decaf, wonderful food and (to be snitty about it) much more interesting people. I get more done because I'm not wasting my time trying to maintain obviously one-sided friendships. I've started really focusing on making the effort to cultivate relationships with people who aren't ... trying to find a nice word and failing.... trash. So for now I don't really have any friends. And I'm kind of digging it.

aesf · April 2011

colorschemer:
So the confession part is that after being really upset about all of this, I'm started to be really happy the whole thing happened. When LO is born, he won't have to know any of these people. I don't have to pretend I don't want to puke when ex-friend's grosser half is around (I didn't like him before he showed all of his sleazy cards). I don't have to go to the other friend's coffee shop anymore and get bad service and gross decaf because she's a friend and it is a little closer to my house when there's another one that has incredible decaf, wonderful food and (to be snitty about it) much more interesting people. I get more done because I'm not wasting my time trying to maintain obviously one-sided friendships. I've started really focusing on making the effort to cultivate relationships with people who aren't ... trying to find a nice word and failing.... trash. So for now I don't really have any friends. And I'm kind of digging it.

You have a really awesome attitude. Seriously, good for you! Im really sorry you are going through all this, but I think how you are handling it is amazing.

caraleeb · April 2011

Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

lucylea · April 2011

My confession is that I was going to take a nap, but before I laid down I decided to just read this one post and thanks to the GBCN it was totally worth it. Does that make my life sad? Well, sort of, but its still worth it! And now I'm off to pray my DD sleeps another hour and I can get a good nap in.

colorschemer · April 2011

aesf:
colorschemer:
So the confession part is that after being really upset about all of this, I'm started to be really happy the whole thing happened. When LO is born, he won't have to know any of these people. I don't have to pretend I don't want to puke when ex-friend's grosser half is around (I didn't like him before he showed all of his sleazy cards). I don't have to go to the other friend's coffee shop anymore and get bad service and gross decaf because she's a friend and it is a little closer to my house when there's another one that has incredible decaf, wonderful food and (to be snitty about it) much more interesting people. I get more done because I'm not wasting my time trying to maintain obviously one-sided friendships. I've started really focusing on making the effort to cultivate relationships with people who aren't ... trying to find a nice word and failing.... trash. So for now I don't really have any friends. And I'm kind of digging it.
You have a really awesome attitude. Seriously, good for you! Im really sorry you are going through all this, but I think how you are handling it is amazing.

Thanks! I'll admit, it took a couple of weeks of major self-pity to get there. Like when DH would ask who I wanted to invited to my baby shower (now hosted by his grandmother and only including his cousins) and I would start bawling and say nooooooooobody because everyone hates meeeeeee LOL.

Gummybear · April 2011

I left my library book on the counter when I paid for my car inspection. Actually, it's DH's library book. I didn't realize it until I got home and now I am too lazy and tired to go back and get it. I called and they are holding it for me, but I may wait until tomorrow. Or better yet, maybe DH will go get it.

Five_letter · April 2011

caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

That's awesome and quite the accomplishment. CONGRATS!!!!

amoramoure · April 2011

bananatiff:

amoramoure:
I'm glad the cost of gas is up and I hope it continues to rise. I think that's the only way we'll actually utilize any of the alternative solutions that have been invented or fund more programs to come up even more solutions. Right now there's no incentive. People are fine with status quo as long as they're placated. People are not fine when their pocket books are affected.

I'm really excited for our Prius purchase we'll be making in December.

You'll love it! I bought mine almost four years ago and it took a little time for me to get used to but now I love it.

colorschemer · April 2011

caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

YAY! Quitting smoking is so freaking hard but it is SOOOO worth it. If you can deal with the first months of quitting while dealing with crazy pregnancy hormones (which obviously you did) then the rest is totally cake. Trust me.

aesf · April 2011

Gummybear:
I left my library book on the counter when I paid for my car inspection. Actually, it's DH's library book. I didn't realize it until I got home and now I am too lazy and tired to go back and get it. I called and they are holding it for me, but I may wait until tomorrow. Or better yet, maybe DH will go get it.

My library will wave the lost/late fee if you bring them a new book. Im so lazy id just be tempted to get rid of some crap book i have laying around.

amoramoure · April 2011

bananatiff:
cburitz:

ETA: Regarding the comment "If people can't afford diapers, they shouldn't have kids" - it's not that simple. I personally know a LOT of people who had 3,000 sq ft homes, good jobs, new cars, etc and then they were laid off due to the recession (directly linked IMO to gas prices) and lost everything. People who typically DONATE to food banks were forced to ask for help. Parents moved in with their children because they had nowhere to go. People with Master's degrees started working at minimum wage jobs for $7 an hour.

And for the people who were making it prior to the recession but didn't have a lot of savings, the difference between $2 and $4.25 per gallon is enough that they could no longer afford diapers. I don't think that means they were irresponsible in having children.

I really want to feel sorry for those people that had 3,000 sq. foot homes, new cars, etc. But how far above their means were they living to have those things? Did they pay cash for their cars and keep a year's salary in the bank? No? Well then they were like so many other Americans, who were just setting themselves up for total loss during the recession. The typical mindset of Americans needed to be reset. Not wishing those problems on anyone, but people in this country are ridiculous about their possessions, most of which they don't actually own.

And this.

Gummybear · April 2011

aesf:
Gummybear:
I left my library book on the counter when I paid for my car inspection. Actually, it's DH's library book. I didn't realize it until I got home and now I am too lazy and tired to go back and get it. I called and they are holding it for me, but I may wait until tomorrow. Or better yet, maybe DH will go get it.
My library will wave the lost/late fee if you bring them a new book. Im so lazy id just be tempted to get rid of some crap book i have laying around.

OH REALLY??!!

I'll have to look into this.

Firefly9 · April 2011

aesf:
Gummybear:
I left my library book on the counter when I paid for my car inspection. Actually, it's DH's library book. I didn't realize it until I got home and now I am too lazy and tired to go back and get it. I called and they are holding it for me, but I may wait until tomorrow. Or better yet, maybe DH will go get it.
My library will wave the lost/late fee if you bring them a new book. Im so lazy id just be tempted to get rid of some crap book i have laying around.

Having my MLIS and working in a library (but not an official librarian), I say, "You better go get it!" As a pregnant lady, I say, eh, you can renew it online usually....as long as the car place will hold it for you, you have time

ETA: My library wouldn't waive the fee. Even if they did, I'd guess it has to be a copy of the same book you lost, especially if it's something in high demand. The library is still losing out on processing fees (barcodes, call number stickers, any sort of protective cover it has, security stuff, etc...), but it's nice of your library to do that, if they do, because it does save them the cost of replacing the whole thing, and budgets are getting cut all over the place.

MFAinNYC · April 2011

My hair is highlighted.

I get manicures and pedicures regularly.

I drink Crystal Light.

I've used my sock as a paper towel.

I just traded in my 4 cyl sedan for a supercharged v6.

My dogs ARE cuter than a lot of kids, and certainly most other dogs.

I bought more maternity clothes than I need.

I buy expensive stuff, but not with anyone else's money, so why is it anyone else's business?

I own $900 shoes.

I have cooked dinner in over a week and before that it was even longer.

mnmgirl078 · April 2011

hellaine:
CocoBrynne:

I could seriously care less about the royal wedding.

Mine is when people say 'could care less' when the correct addage is 'couldn't care less'.

YES!!!! This is one of my biggest pet peeves. When you say, "I could care less" you are saying the exact opposite of what you mean.

colorschemer · April 2011

amoramoure:
bananatiff:
cburitz:

ETA: Regarding the comment "If people can't afford diapers, they shouldn't have kids" - it's not that simple. I personally know a LOT of people who had 3,000 sq ft homes, good jobs, new cars, etc and then they were laid off due to the recession (directly linked IMO to gas prices) and lost everything. People who typically DONATE to food banks were forced to ask for help. Parents moved in with their children because they had nowhere to go. People with Master's degrees started working at minimum wage jobs for $7 an hour.

And for the people who were making it prior to the recession but didn't have a lot of savings, the difference between $2 and $4.25 per gallon is enough that they could no longer afford diapers. I don't think that means they were irresponsible in having children.

I really want to feel sorry for those people that had 3,000 sq. foot homes, new cars, etc. But how far above their means were they living to have those things? Did they pay cash for their cars and keep a year's salary in the bank? No? Well then they were like so many other Americans, who were just setting themselves up for total loss during the recession. The typical mindset of Americans needed to be reset. Not wishing those problems on anyone, but people in this country are ridiculous about their possessions, most of which they don't actually own.

And this.

My father put himself through college as a motorcycle mechanic and finished with a graduate degree in a highly complex and sought after scientific field. My mother finished high school and went to work as a bookkeeper and secretary. They are still married, never had drug, alcohol, gambling or spending problems and are generally frugal people. Neither were unemployed for long periods and the only reason my dad ever left a job was because the project's research funding had run out. They've never own a new car. My mom wanted a large family but had two children because they decided that they couldn't afford more.

Keep all that in mind when I say that at one point when I was a kid we were homeless. Without a home. When we did get one, it was a trailer with no heat, electricity, running water or phone service. We lived in the type of circumstances that would have made an outside observer question whether they should have kids for over two years until my dad got an offer for a job that paid a living wage (and I'm happy to report that they've done really well for themselves in the last last 15 years or so).Heck, the crib that my sister and I slept in was a free hand me down, most certainly covered in lead paint.

So yeah, when people in this world need help I generally don't try to second guess why because a lot of people did that to my parents and it felt like crap. I'm glad they had children, but maybe I'm biased.

caraleeb · April 2011

colorschemer:
caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

YAY! Quitting smoking is so freaking hard but it is SOOOO worth it. If you can deal with the first months of quitting while dealing with crazy pregnancy hormones (which obviously you did) then the rest is totally cake. Trust me.

Thank you everyone! I guess its hard to wrap my mind around it, i was a pretty heavy smoker, i cried for the first 4 days and wouldnt get out of bed until my husband forced me too and then i was real fun for weeks after that! I guess my confession was that i still think about it everyday and i hate that, but i guess thats prolly not going to change just get easier as time goes by!

HelloAnnie! · April 2011

colorschemer:
amoramoure:
bananatiff:
cburitz:

ETA: Regarding the comment "If people can't afford diapers, they shouldn't have kids" - it's not that simple. I personally know a LOT of people who had 3,000 sq ft homes, good jobs, new cars, etc and then they were laid off due to the recession (directly linked IMO to gas prices) and lost everything. People who typically DONATE to food banks were forced to ask for help. Parents moved in with their children because they had nowhere to go. People with Master's degrees started working at minimum wage jobs for $7 an hour.

And for the people who were making it prior to the recession but didn't have a lot of savings, the difference between $2 and $4.25 per gallon is enough that they could no longer afford diapers. I don't think that means they were irresponsible in having children.

I really want to feel sorry for those people that had 3,000 sq. foot homes, new cars, etc. But how far above their means were they living to have those things? Did they pay cash for their cars and keep a year's salary in the bank? No? Well then they were like so many other Americans, who were just setting themselves up for total loss during the recession. The typical mindset of Americans needed to be reset. Not wishing those problems on anyone, but people in this country are ridiculous about their possessions, most of which they don't actually own.

And this.

My father put himself through college as a motorcycle mechanic and finished with a graduate degree in a highly complex and sought after scientific field. My mother finished high school and went to work as a bookkeeper and secretary. They are still married, never had drug, alcohol, gambling or spending problems and are generally frugal people. Neither were unemployed for long periods and the only reason my dad ever left a job was because the projects research funding had run out. They've never own a new car. My mom wanted a large family but had two children because they decided that they couldn't afford more.

Keep all that in mind when I say that at one point when I was a kid we were homeless. Without a home. When we did get one, it was a trailer with no heat, electricity, running water or phone service. We lived circumstances that would have made an outside observer question whether they should have kids for over two years until my dad got an offer for a job that paid a living wage.

So yeah, when people in this world need help I generally don't try to second guess why because a lot of people did that to my parents and it felt like crap.

Thanks for this. I think it's important to remember that there are a million stories out there, and most of the time it's hard to know all the details of any particular family's life. I agree with pp that Americans in general are often pretty spoiled. I also agree with you that there are also a lot of people who do a lot with little and just have bad luck.

Gummybear · April 2011

MrsMcB926:
aesf:
Gummybear:
I left my library book on the counter when I paid for my car inspection. Actually, it's DH's library book. I didn't realize it until I got home and now I am too lazy and tired to go back and get it. I called and they are holding it for me, but I may wait until tomorrow. Or better yet, maybe DH will go get it.
My library will wave the lost/late fee if you bring them a new book. Im so lazy id just be tempted to get rid of some crap book i have laying around.
Having my MLIS and working in a library (but not an official librarian), I say, "You better go get it!" As a pregnant lady, I say, eh, you can renew it online usually....as long as the car place will hold it for you, you have time
ETA: My library wouldn't waive the fee. Even if they did, I'd guess it has to be a copy of the same book you lost, especially if it's something in high demand. The library is still losing out on processing fees (barcodes, call number stickers, any sort of protective cover it has, security stuff, etc...), but it's nice of your library to do that, if they do, because it does save them the cost of replacing the whole thing, and budgets are getting cut all over the place.

Oh, I can guarantee I'll be getting the book. DH will have non of it. I am a terrible library patron (my books are always late, when I was a kid I lost at least 5). I am sure I am on some national blacklist. DH on the other hand, just got his card and is a stickler for rules and deadlines. I dare not sully what is sure to be a perfect library history. We use the mechanic for everything and they told me they put the book behind the desk.

WorkingMomofTwo · April 2011

katie4253:
Five_letter:

I deliberately guilted my husband into working on the nursery decor, by telling him I felt like I disappointed him in having a girl and he would be more involved if it were a boy.

He felt like pure sh!t when I said that. I know it.

BTW: the nursery has already been painted and the furniture is put together, it's just the finishing touches. He's done everything so far. I don't know what got into me.

In the past 24 hours he's looked at over 4000 wall decals and is moving on to accessories to coordinate.

I actually feel pretty sh!tty about this.

H wanted a FIFA Soccer Game for his x-box and I told him he couldn't buy it until the nursery was done. You know what, the nursery is done and he has is game.

I've never never never done anything like that before. I swear it brought out my inner beast. H didn't bat an eye though, he agreed that his game would distract him. Now that he has the game, he plays it about 3 times a week for about 20-30 mins at a time. He's no gamer, and really, it would have been fine for him to have it before.

I so need to use this on MH!!

WorkingMomofTwo · April 2011

caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

I will piggyback this. Congrats on 6 months free! My 6 months was just last week.

Five_letter · April 2011

caraleeb:
colorschemer:
caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

YAY! Quitting smoking is so freaking hard but it is SOOOO worth it. If you can deal with the first months of quitting while dealing with crazy pregnancy hormones (which obviously you did) then the rest is totally cake. Trust me.

Thank you everyone! I guess its hard to wrap my mind around it, i was a pretty heavy smoker, i cried for the first 4 days and wouldnt get out of bed until my husband forced me too and then i was real fun for weeks after that! I guess my confession was that i still think about it everyday and i hate that, but i guess thats prolly not going to change just get easier as time goes by!

My dad quit in 1983 and hasn't had a cigarette since. However, he says that even to this day he still gets urges even though he finds them gross and disgusting and the agent that killed his sister.

It gets easier, but that random craving may never go away. You can totally beat this completely. Way to go!

damabo80 · April 2011

WorkingMomofTwo:

caraleeb:
Today is my 6 month aniversary of quitting smoking.. i worry that the moment i get home from the hospital im going to want one *sigh*

I will piggyback this. Congrats on 6 months free! My 6 months was just last week.

Ditto. Many congrats!!!!!

mrsofficerjohndavis · May 2011

WorkingMomofTwo:
I deliberately guilted my husband into working on the nursery decor, by telling him I felt like I disappointed him in having a girl and he would be more involved if it were a boy.

He felt like pure sh!t when I said that. I know it.

BTW: the nursery has already been painted and the furniture is put together, it's just the finishing touches. He's done everything so far. I don't know what got into me.

In the past 24 hours he's looked at over 4000 wall decals and is moving on to accessories to coordinate.

I actually feel pretty sh!tty about this.

My FFC...

I have been using sex as bribery to get DH to finish all of our house remodel projects before LO gets here...

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