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July 2011 Moms
FFFC
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Re: FFFC
Oh, I hope not!
MaineMommy, you know that's what the media will be on the lookout for now! Wonder if they'll start right away or wait awhile?
I feel the same way! I don't want to go early by any means, I want the baby to be healthy, but I'm finally feeling worn down. I also have not had any issues and my pregnancy has been pretty smooth, I'm just not good at waiting!
Well you're not alone in that boat! I would die without my curling iron
I am petrified that my child?s head is going to be huge. When I had my growth U/S the other week, I swear the tech kept making the oval measurement for the head bigger & bigger. Now I?m hoping she was ?zoomed? in because this child?s head took up the whole monitor. I seriously am more scared about having a child with a large head, than having an 8 or 9lb baby. While my sister and I were petite babies (not tiny, not big), my H and all of his cousins/father/Aunt/Uncle have been big babies with big heads. I know it?s probably a stupid fear to have, but I just envision the baby?s head getting stuck. This has me more scared than actually giving birth. Am I being unrealistic, probably, but it still scares the crap out of me! It?s to the point that I?m considering discussing this with the doctor at my 32W appointment just to ease my fears.
I heard a rumor that she already is pregnant and that's why they had such a short engagement. I doubt it's true, but I love gossip!
I've had an extremely easy pregnancy. That being said...if I were rich...I'd hire a surrogate.
I find nothing beautiful, amazing, miraculous about this. I'm viewing my body as a vessel.
I'd much rather pay someone and avoid all of this.
I don't mind if people start naming their LOs after the royal couple... but as long as they spell the name right! Her name is Catherine with a "C"
I'm really jealous of you. My nursery has made zero progress in the past 2 months... I feel guilty asking DH to paint and hang up wall decals when he's working 6 days a week plus taking care of all the house stuff.
I'm now thinking the nursery will be half done when the baby is born and that makes me really depressed.
I wish there was a way to magically get my LO to full term overnight so I could get off bedrest, recover, & get my normal body/life back. I'm SOOO over being pregnant.
(same disclaimer applies)
haha! Wouldn't she be showing by now??
Once you sit down and take time to actually look at it all, it isn't that bad...just a lot of work!
You think that because they are. My dog is the cutest thing in the entire world.
The big guy in the back belongs to my parents. He is second most awesome dog in the world. He just showed up at their house when he was like 3 months old -- and 45 pounds.
They made sure that he didn't have his own people (fliers, notified animal control, ect.) but pretty much knew he was dumped.
Because it is a legit spelling for the nickname of Catherine, and it's how she spells it. Personally, I've never seen a Catherine with NN spelling of Cate.
I have a habit of spell checking words on my phone. I'll pull up the most recent text message, pop the word in question in and resuming my emailing/nesting/facebooking or the like.
The problem is, I rarely clear the word. I'm paranoid that I'm going to send a random text message with words like: neurotic, conscious or gestational [just a sampling of my most recent look-ups]. But obviously not paranoid enough to change the practice . . .
I haven't purchased anything besides the bedding set, which really DH did. I just have been picking out things I know I'll eventully buy...
LOL!
I feel the same way most of the time. The sooner my 39 weeks are up (RCS) the sooner I can start to get things back to normal but with my precious little girl this time. I'm really excited to see if she looks like DH or me more!
Lol. DH and I both do this
I'm resenting the financial choices of my ILs.
DH and I sat down and talked about finances over the weekend. The more I think about it, the more I want to SAH. We could totally make it work on DH's salary alone.
HOWEVER, his parents and sister are not in a good place financially. His sister is chronically ill and can't work. His dad is a severe alcoholic who can only work a few days a week (employed by his brother), and his mom is a paralegal, who is also acting as caretaker for dad and sister. Dad has a house that was left to him by his parents (and fully paid off). However, he took out a whole bunch of equity line of credits to buy crappy stuff (like $40k drapes...WTF?), and with the downfall in the market, the house is underwater. Mom and sister's house was bought in CA at the height of the real estate boom and now it's $200k underwater. Plus, they financed it with a 5-year variable rate mortgage which is ending in a few months, and will increase their mortage by $1k, which they can't afford. Both mom and dad have no real retirement savings to speak of, and they are both in their 60's. They live in CA (we're in GA). They can't move away from CA because of sister's illness (she's on a transplant list, and needs to stay close to northern CA).
So, the "X" factor in our finances in DH's family. At some point, we may need to end up supporting them. Sooner rather than later. So, because they didn't make great (or even good) financial choices, I no longer have the choice to stay home with our kids. It sucks having that choice taken away, and I'm feeling super resentful. I feel bad for their situation, but I also feel bad having to go to work to support someone thousands of miles away.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
Yikes. That sucks. I'm sorry.
I have no words. I'm so sorry.
Love this!
Same here. I don't want to do anything to it until after LO comes so that I can do it all at once. My hair is growing too fast to want to try anything right now.
Agreed. "Oh well, I thought they were all the same. I don't really know the difference between Unpopular Opinion and Flame Free Confessions, I just thought they were posts were we wrote whatever we feel like."
This is not the same as those who think that expressing an opinion is a confession. That's a fine line to tread, but sometimes can be accomplished.
I completely 100% disagree with you. Perhaps if you live in a major city, you could take a bus or walk to work. I live in a rural area... there are no buses, trains, or cabs. Most people commute an hour (on the expressway) to get to work because there are NO jobs locally. The nearest grocery store is 20 minutes away.
Maybe you are financially well off but for a lot of people, the rising cost of gas prices means they may not be able to afford food, diapers, or their utility bills.
I know this is supposedly FF, but I think you need a serious reality check.
Says who? I spent 3 hours at the salon yesterday. Until someone proves to me that my kid will come out with an extra eye....my hair is getting colored.
Here's the thing (I actually do agree with the OP)...need to look a little bit bigger and more long term. When gas prices start going up, then even in rural areas, people start looking at more fuel-efficient type cars when the time comes to get a new car. More demand for these type of fuel-efficient modes of transportation are going to make auto makers take note and start producing more fuel efficient cars. More fuel efficient cars in the market (going back to the basics of supply and demand here) will help to bring the fuel efficient cars into more of the affordable range, and more people will start driving them. Is it going to happen overnight? Of course not. Rather, the catalyst for change needs to have a good 5-10 years until we start seeing tangible results. Is it going to suck in the short term for the people on the lower end of the economic scale? Of course. 50 years from now, will it matter that we have cleaner skies or that little Lucy had to eat more than her fair share of mac n' cheese for 2 years of her life? (And on a side note, if people can't afford diapers and basic food for their kid, they should learn how a condom works. Personal responsibility, yada yada yada.)
Plus, this doesn't just affect cars and gas. It also works for home builders as well. If you don't believe me, look at any basic single family home that was built in the 1970s. You're going to see a common theme: low ceilings. That is because they are more efficient. Doesn't take as much heat/A/C to keep the temp good. That is because high energy costs in the 70's caused builders to meet the demand of their clients, lowering the ceiling to 7 feet in the kitchen and 8 feet elsewhere.
Even for suburban type areas, when voting measures come up to expand public transportation, people are more apt to vote for it when they feel the pinch of high gas prices. They are not going to vote for it when gas is cheap. Simple economics, really.
The US does need to start looking further in the future beyond 6 months. The population is growing and resources need to keep up. The only way to have our resources meet the population's needs is to tweak the way we live now.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
I completely understand where you are coming from & I agree with most of it. However, I can tell you flat out that we cannot afford a new car. We are stuck with our old gas guzzlers (and so are most people).
For a lot of people, it will cost more to get to work than they bring home. Which means they will be forced to quit their jobs (or will be laid off)... and live off of government assistance. More people will lose their homes and be on the streets. Michigan got hit really hard last time gas prices were this high - I am terrified of what's going to happen this time around. Everyone is still recovering... or they were forced to move to another state.
Businesses (especially locally owned) will close because people can't afford to shop & go out. And a lot of towns will be nothing but empty store fronts.
ETA: Regarding the comment "If people can't afford diapers, they shouldn't have kids" - it's not that simple. I personally know a LOT of people who had 3,000 sq ft homes, good jobs, new cars, etc and then they were laid off due to the recession (directly linked IMO to gas prices) and lost everything. People who typically DONATE to food banks were forced to ask for help. Parents moved in with their children because they had nowhere to go. People with Master's degrees started working at minimum wage jobs for $7 an hour.
And for the people who were making it prior to the recession but didn't have a lot of savings, the difference between $2 and $4.25 per gallon is enough that they could no longer afford diapers. I don't think that means they were irresponsible in having children.
Im a sh!thead maybe but honestly... I think you should be a stay at home mom. If his family ends up needing it you could consider going back but truthfully why give up what you want and can afford for a possibility?
I just hope you really think about it. I feel terrible other people have made you feel that you can't have what you can afford.
Im really sorry.
Agreed. I think that my comment about caring about Kate's dress even as I whine about how tired I am about hearing about the wedding is a confession, because it's me admitting that I'm a big hypocrite. But others might see it as just an opinion. FWIW, I'm almost never around for UO day, so maybe I just don't have a chance to get it out of my system then...
I know, I know--that's why "can't" in asterisks--I just can't pull the trigger and do it though.
I use both. a flat iron for my bangs and then a curling iron to give my hair more volume - though I rarely straighten my hair, I don't like it poker straight the way a flat iron will look.
ITA. I love my DH and his family but I can't imagine supporting them just because they made poor financial decisions.
I think if you want to be a SAHM and you can afford it, you should SAH. Your duties and responsibilities are to your husband and your LO... and you can always deal with your ILs if/when the situation arises. Hopefully they are able to get their heads out of water before then.
Exactly.