Last night DS and I were playing around on my bed. ?He started giving "the baby" kisses and hugs (so cute). ?Then he puts his hand on my boob and goes "that's another baby." ?DH and I cracked up, and just told him, "no, there's only one baby, it's in mommy's belly." ?Too funny.
But this got me thinking - how will you/did you explain to your older LO breastfeeding, and what "vocab" will you/do you use. ?I'm not concerned so much about explaining that "this is how the baby eats, mommy makes special milk for the baby, etc." ?But DS is a very inquisitive and verbal child. ?So whatever I call my boobs will instantly become part of his vocab and he will use it in public, whenever it occurs to him, etc. ?And he's articulate, so EVERYONE will understand him. He's never inquired about my anatomy so I've never raised the issue, but he probably tells me twice a day "Daddy has a penis, Matthew has a penis, Major [our dog] has a penis ..." etc etc. ?So I fully expect this to be something he'll talk about once this part of my anatomy comes onto his radar screen.
Our policy to this point has been to give him the word if he asks, and to give him the proper name for things. ?So I guess I should tell him that these are Mommy's breasts? ?Ugh. I can just picture him announcing "Those are Mommy's breasts" in the middle of the grocery store. ?Having a verbal child is wonderful, except on these occasions. ?Advice? ?Experiences?
Re: 2+ moms, funny story & a question re: breastfeeding
DD - February 2011
Our DS is the same way. It took him a while to finally ask 'what's this' and then I told him, those are mommy's breasts. It did feel weird telling him to call them that, but its better than him annoucing boobies or titties in public. At first he kept saying that I feed the baby with my bellybutton, so I just let that go on for a few weeks. Then he looked closer and realized I was using my boobs and that's when he asked for clarification. Just a warning, he also likes to grab them now. He never paid any attention to my boobs until recently and now he likes to point, ask question and grab...joy!
ETA: DS1 is also very intersted in the pump. He's obsessed with how much milk I get each time. I have to show him when I'm done and he'll comment on if it's a lot or not. As if I don't feel bad enough when I don't pump much milk, I have my 2 yr old giving me grief for it
Idk how my DD learned boobies, but that's what she calls them. She used to sit right by me when I was nursing and she would say, "Tommy, eat mommy's boobies". She even started nursing her own dolls, I thought it was cute
I am surprised that breastfeeding didn't bring up very many questions concidering how he is with everything else like who does and doesn't have a penis.
I told Max that Sam's gets milk from mommy's breast. It is sort of like his sippy cup. He really never brought it up. He might comment that Sam wanted milk or was having milk, but that is about it. When I weaned a two months ago he talked about not needing mommy's milk anymore and that only babies drink from mommy. But like I said he really didn't focus on it.