Invited to a random wedding, wwyd?

Emily2me · April 2011

I just got a wedding invitation in the mail from someone neither DH or I have talked to in at LEAST 3 years. We don't know the bride (didn't even know he was dating/engaged). The only thing about this situation is that the groom introduced me to DH, kind of accidentally, we were all working together and I met the groom before meeting DH. Anyway, we didn't even invite this guy to our wedding because we lost touch with him shortly after he introduced us. DH met him through work, so it's not like they were friends long either. Sorry if this seems complicated- my question is, would it be completely rude not to send a gift? We can't attend the wedding (not sure that we would, anyway) because we already have an out of town wedding to attend the same weekend. wwyd?

Miller238 · April 2011

I wouldn't go and wouldn't send a gift.

sistrkate · April 2011

Ditto what Miller said. I wouldn't go, and I absolutely wouldn't feel bad about not sending a gift.

Ttimes3 · April 2011

I agree with Miller. I'd definitely RSVP with my regrets and NOT feel obligated to send a gift.

Emily2me · April 2011

Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

kristinleigh · April 2011

This happened to me a few years ago - we were invited to a wedding of a girl I went to HS with. We were friends but not extremely close. She was not invited to our wedding. We couldn't go due to being out of town. We didn't go and did not send a gift either. Maybe not the right thing "etiquette wise" to do, but it's what we did.

Ttimes3 · April 2011

Emily2me:
Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

I'm sorry, did I really just read that correctly? CALL or EMAIL?!?

Emily2me · April 2011

Ttimes3:

Emily2me:
Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

I'm sorry, did I really just read that correctly? CALL or EMAIL?!?

Uhh, yes. The worst part, this is the second wedding invitation that we have received within the last year with this type of rsvp.

Emily2me · April 2011

Emily2me:
Ttimes3:

Emily2me:
Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

I'm sorry, did I really just read that correctly? CALL or EMAIL?!?

Uhh, yes. The worst part, this is the second wedding invitation that we have received within the last year with this type of rsvp.

Actually, I lied. The previous one was: call, TEXT, or email...yeah.

Ttimes3 · April 2011

Emily2me:
Emily2me:
Ttimes3:

Emily2me:
Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

I'm sorry, did I really just read that correctly? CALL or EMAIL?!?

Uhh, yes. The worst part, this is the second wedding invitation that we have received within the last year with this type of rsvp.

Actually, I lied. The previous one was: call, TEXT, or email...yeah.

Indifferent

Superchicy · April 2011

I just got an invite for a girl I had as a student and worked in our office. I'm not going, I am debating on sending a small gift like a gift card, but that's as far as I'm going to go with it. I haven't seen or talked to her in more than 2 years.

sistrkate · April 2011

Ttimes3:
Emily2me:
Ok, thanks guys. I feel much better about the situation. I just didn't want to look like a huge jerk. Oh, and for rsvp, we are supposed to call or email with regrets only. I'm making DH send the email, but I'm thinking it could get awkward.

I'm sorry, did I really just read that correctly? CALL or EMAIL?!?

Ditto TTT.

And seriously, if they are that gauche, then I don't even know if I'd RSVP. Either that, or my email would say something like, "Sry, can't make it. Hope u have a gr8 day."

Ttimes3 · April 2011

sistrkate:
my email would say something like, "Sry, can't make it. Hope u have a gr8 day."

CLASSIC!

hannah&ben · April 2011

In those situations I send a nice card to say congratulations but not a gift.

baze2 · April 2011

I am a bit etiquette driven. I would RSVP no via email then send a small gift $15.00/$20.00

buckeyethor · April 2011

sistrkate:
And seriously, if they are that gauche, then I don't even know if I'd RSVP. Either that, or my email would say something like, "Sry, can't make it. Hope u have a gr8 day."

bwahahha.