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July 2011 Moms
COMomma81
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"controversial" parenting topics
COMomma81
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Stole this. Let's discuss... The board is slow today! So, share your thoughts on the below topics, or just give a Yay or Nay if you want.
Vaccines:
CIO:
Co-sleeping:
Child harnesses/"leashes":
Baby-wearing:
Spanking:
Circumcision:
Extended BFing (past 1 year):
Homeschooling:
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20:
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Re: "controversial" parenting topics
Vaccines: Yes
CIO: I don't have the heart to do that to my LO
Co-sleeping: No, unless child is older and has a nightmare or something, then I'll make an exception, but I fully believe kids and babies should have their own beds. DH and the cat are enough of bed hogs without adding a baby to the mix
Child harnesses/"leashes": Free the leash kids
Baby-wearing: Pro, seems very convenient for shopping trips and getting things done
Spanking: Ehh I'm on the fence, I got spanked as a kid from time to time and it definitely was effective for me and I didn't turn out to be a serial killer. I think it's fine, but that there needs to be other forms of discipline used as well.
Circumcision: yes
Extended BFing (past 1 year): no
Homeschooling: More power to those who can do it, I could not
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I'm not sure what this means actually
CIO: Has its place
Co-sleeping: We plan to co-sleep, but we won't bed-share
Child harnesses/"leashes": Also have their place. I'm not against them at all.
Baby-wearing: Love
Spanking: Yay, but never in anger and only on a clothed butt.
Circumcision: We aren't doing this if we have a son, but I'm not against others doing it.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I think this is great and wish more parents would do so.
Homeschooling: I was homeschooled for 8 years and had a great experience with it. I think some people who homeschool do not do a good job, making others view it negatively. That said, I don't plan to homeschool our children.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: There's no reason to NOT keep the child rear-facing.
Vaccines: We will do a delayed schedule.
CIO: I don't know what this is?
Co-sleeping: DS will sleep in a pack n play on our room till he sleeps well through the night. I already plan on this also meaning he sleeps in the bed with us sometimes.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Unnecessary, IMO. Tacky and lazy, but hardly child abuse.
Baby-wearing: Fo sho! We have several different carriers, wraps, slings already for DS.
Spanking: Not hardcore opposed. I can see a smack on the behind every once in awhile, but it's not something I'm planning on in advance.
Circumcision: Not for us.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): You betcha. I will BF DS as long as he needs/wants it.
Homeschooling: Not my style. But I do know DS will attend a Montessori school, like I did, until at least 6th grade.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: DS will rear face for the extended period.Oooh good one! Please pardon the bluntness of the following responses. Just being honest.
Vaccines: Absolutely. It's irresponsible not to.
CIO: I fought this to the bitter end with DS, and ended up doing Ferber (a slightly kinder/gentler CIO) after trying literally EVERY other approach out there. It was the only thing that worked for DS, but I still view it as a last resort.
Co-sleeping: Dangerous.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Used to be totally anti, but now after having DS suddenly and unexpectedly dart away from me in the middle of a busy parking lot, I can see how with some kids (and before they can follow simple commands) it may be a necessity.
Baby-wearing: Awesome (in moderation - not 24/7 and not when they're like 5 years old)
Spanking: Still anti, but as with other things, I can see how it might be necessary as a last resort (i.e., if (1) LO won't listen to a parental command that involves a serious safety issue (i.e., running into the street, trying to mess with wires/cords/electrical sockets, climbing on things, etc.) (2) LO is old enough to actually learn from the spanking and (3) parents have tried everything else).
Circumcision: We did it, and I'm mostly happy with our decision, but also second-guess myself sometimes.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): In general, NMS to go long after a year (I went until 15 mos with DS), but to each their own until LO turns 2. Then I find it creepy.
Homeschooling: Fine, I guess, as long as you're not doing it to keep your kids in the dark.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&2: Didn't turn DS until 2 and he really didn't mind. Maybe if he absolutely hated it I would have broken down earlier, but it was totally fine and WAY safer.
Vaccines: Yes
CIO: I'll be honest, I don't even know what this stands for, I must've missed the abbreviation somewhere.
Co-sleeping: No. I believe a child should be in their own bed. It's one thing I don't want to start and have to ween the baby off of.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Neither. They may have their time/place for some, but when you're 2 people with 1 child and you're using a leash because neither of you want to watch your child in a public area (this is being said to my BIL/SIL, not anyone here) then I think you're just lazy about it.
Baby-wearing: I'm fine with this
Spanking: When necessary, but not the only form of discipline. I think it's something that you do once and it scares the crap out of the kid to know that they don't want it to happen again. That's when the "Just wait until Dad gets home..." threat really works!
Circumcision: yes
Extended BFing (past 1 year): No. I think that after a year, it should be over and done. I also feel that after teeth come in, it should be over and done. I'm a to each her own in this situation though, but i wouldn't go over a year (I don't think I'd go over 6mths with BF).
Homeschooling: No. Children need interaction with other kids their age. I don't want to be responsible for providing them with their education and means of interaction. If I wanted that, I would've become a teacher.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I'm a turn at 1 & 20. I think 2yrs is a bit unrealistic and absurd.
Vaccines: Yes. Very necessary in my opinion for the health of LO and others.
CIO: No. I have very strong feelings about this one. If the child is old enough to willfully protest bedtime, that is another thing entirely.
Co-sleeping: We're not doing it but I have no issue with/ can see the benefits of others doing this.
Child harnesses/"leashes": I can see situations or a child's personality making this a reasonable choice.
Baby-wearing: Yes. All for it.
Spanking: Yes. Only on rare occasions, with a child old enough to understand a reason, and never with anything but a hand on a clothed bottom.
Circumcision: Yes.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Yes, we're aiming for 18-24 months.
Homeschooling: Yes, but only after elementary and maybe part of middle school has been completed. I was homeschooled after 7th grade and it was a success for me. I also feel very strongly that it isn't right for every child or even most children.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Yes. Any benefits to forward facing sooner are outweighed by the safety issues involved.
Vaccines: Yes I vaccinate my child.
CIO: Have done a version of CIO and it has saved our lives.
Co-sleeping: I have not, but that is mostly because she would never sleep in my bed.... she always thought it was playtime.
Child harnesses/"leashes": I will never put my child on a leash.... although its tempting sometimes lol
Baby-wearing: Yes! It makes life so much easier sometimes!
Spanking: Not sure yet.... I think it really depends on the child. We have not needed this as of yet. It is a last resort.
Circumcision: Yes, I will have my son circumsized
Extended BFing (past 1 year): No
Homeschooling: I dont see the need
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: DD is still RFing and will be until this baby is born since our car can not hold 2 RFing carseats:(
Vaccines: Heck yes. I am fine with delayed vaxing, but to not do it all together is irresponsible, IMO.
CIO: Not for us. It just wasn't right for our child. I am cool with sleep training beyond the age of 5-6 months and with a structured plan (i.e. Ferber), but I'm truthfully appalled by the "extinction method" which is basically leaving your child to cry for as long as it takes. No soothing, no checking, and letting it go on for hours. Sadly, I've known people that have done this.
Co-sleeping: I was one that said "never in a million years". Then I had my son
He was kind of a nightmare when it came to sleeping at the beginning...hated being swaddled, hated pacifiers, and screamed bloody murder anytime we laid him down in his bed. My ped actually suggested it and ways to do it safely and it was the best thing we ever did to preserve our sanity. We ended up loving it and it turned out to be a beautiful experience for our family. We are tentatively planning to do it again, but it depends entirely upon baby's preferences. She may be the complete opposite and want her own space. Just going to go with her cues.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Haha, this was one of the most heated discussions I remember on here! I think they can be a really great tool, I've used one. Twice. As an everyday thing? Not so much, but I think they're great for certain occasions such as the airport, zoo, amusement park, etc... I see them as a great opportunity to let your kid have some freedom to walk around and explore, while still being safe.
Baby-wearing: I didn't do it with my first, I wish I'd had the sense to. I will most definitely be doing it this time. I psyched to do it and pray she enjoys it because I think it'll be a lot more challenging to juggle an active toddler with a newborn if she doesn't.
Spanking: Not for us. I just feel there are much more productive and logical methods to discipline than spanking. I don't go as far as some anti-spankers and think it's abuse across the board, but I think there can be a fine line in letting it go too far.
Circumcision: DS is circ'd. I regret it and wish I would've actually done research on it before I made a permanent choice about my son's anatomy. If this baby had been a boy, we would not have done it but I also don't judge those that do. Just wish people would do more actual research about it first.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Big fan. BF son until he was just over 2 and hope to do so again this time. There are many health benefits to both mother and child and I really get pissy when people say it's only so the mom can keep her child a "baby" and has attachment issues. Um, no. Breastmilk doesn't suddenly lose it's nutritional value the day the child turns 1. The WHO recommends BFing to at least age 2 and AAP recommends a minimum of 1 year.
Homeschooling: Not for us. I think there are many benefits to putting kids in public school. Especially the social aspect! I have known people that have been successfully homeschooled, however, so I don't judge it across the board.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: ERF proponent here. I was so glad to see the AAP finally changed the official recommendation. DS was RF until he was 2 and 30 lbs.
Incidentally, I'm very surprised so far at how many of us (basically) agree on these issues.
For those asking about "CIO" - it stands for "cry it out" - basically, letting a baby learn to "self soothe" at night/naptime by leaving him or her to cry himself/herself to sleep (not recommended before the age of 4 months).
Vaccines: Absolutely yes. I think you are an idiot if you don't vaccinate at all, JMO.
CIO: We didn't full out let DD CIO, because I can't stand listening to her cry. After she turned 1 & went back to waking at night: we would go in every 5 min on night 1 to reassure her, 10 minutes on night 2, & night 3 she slept all night. If she wakes up now, we go pat her on the back & she goes back to sleep. Plan to do the same thing this time.
Co-sleeping: No to bed sharing. Unless DD is sick or it's 5am (DH is up for work), she sleeps in her own bed. I don't mind putting her in bed when it's just me, but not with DH there (too cramped!). But we will have LO in a bassinet in our room for the 1st few months.
Child harnesses/"leashes": If your kid is a runner, then go for it. I don't care what people say, if it keeps my kid safer then I'll be using one. Right now, I have no need because DD (at this point) will still hold my hand or ride in her stroller.
Baby-wearing: Yep. Not 24/7. But I will be wearing this LO some while at home to free up my hands to help DD.
Spanking: Depends on the circumstance. We generally don't spank, but if DD is touching something dangerous I will slap her hand to get her attention. Call DCFS!
Circumcision: If we were having a boy, then yes. DH is so we would do the same to our boys.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Yep, BF'd DD until 14months & I weaned when we started TTC. Plan to do it until this LO self-weans or age 2, whichever comes first.
Homeschooling: No. I don't have the patience to do it. I think they need the other kids for interaction also.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I guess we are bad parents, but we turned DD around at 14ish months, when she finally hit 20lbs. She would scream non stop for the entire car ride until we did. This time, we are going to attempt to rear face longer, but if it doesn't work then it doesn't work for us.
Means rear facing your childs car seat for the extended period of time which has been changed to either 2yrs old or max requirments on car seat
Vaccines: Yes, even if its a modified schedule. I think parents who skip vaccines all together are terrible.
CIO:Im a firm believer in CIO. I used it with both kids & had children who happily & easily slept through the night at a very young age. I always made sure they wasnt a reason for the crying before letting them cry though.
Co-sleeping: Co sleeping, yes at the start. Bed sharing, no never. I shouldnt have to go into another room to have sex with my husband.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Im a firm believer in them for some children, Im lucky in that my children had no need for them, I know lots of children with sensory issues or who are on the autism spectrum that need them.
Baby-wearing: Eh, I get it to a point, but I dont feel like its necessary to have your child attached to you 24/7. Put the baby down, the baby will survive 30 seconds without you.
Spanking: Controlled level headed spanking for a good reason, yes. Spanking out of anger or when another form of punishment could have worked, no.
Circumcision: Yes, I do understand some peoples reasoning for not wanting it though.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): No. I think once your child can use words to ask for it you've hit a point where its no longer about the childs nutrition and other things can take that place. BFing past the age of 2? No way.
Homeschooling: Having been a SAHM for 5 1/2 years now Im saying no, unless the school systems are terrible.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: This is no longer extended rear facing, this is now the guideline & soon to be the law. Anyone who doesnt believe in it needs to google internal decapitation and watch some videos on it.
Vaccines: Absolutely
CIO: I say yes. But I will probably feel different when my LO's wailing and I'm doing nothing for her...But I like to think yes. Teaches self-soothing
Co-sleeping: Not at all
Child harnesses/"leashes": Haha nope. I think it's amusing to watch though...Just not my cup of tea
Baby-wearing: Not personally into the baby bjorn carriers. Maybe I'll try a sling, but not really sure.
Spanking: I say nope bc I wasn't. My DH says yep bc he was. We both turned out alright so I'm sure it will be on a situational basis.
Circumcision: Having a baby girl, but if it were a baby boy, absolutely.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Never. Personal choice. My plan is 8 weeks.
Homeschooling: Nope. I think it's important to be in a social setting that I wouldn't be able to provide.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Extended rear-facing.
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CIO: If it came to that, we'd consider. DD STTN by herself at 10 wks. I've heard good things about the Sleepy Planet as an alternative to straight CIO a la Dr. Ferber.
Co-sleeping: No.
Child harnesses/"leashes": No.
Baby-wearing: If LO is into it. DD liked the bjorn but hated wraps and Ergo.
Spanking: No.
Circumcision: Yes - but by a Pediatric Urologist when baby is about 1wk old.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Went to 14mos with DD. Would like to do that again.
Homeschooling: He!! No! Not for what I pay in taxes to live in the school district we live in ...
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Absolutely ERF. New recc's say 2yo at a minimum.
I took the CIO as a loose term ... I haven't read as much about the different methods as some of the other ladies have
Thanks for the clarification!
Vaccines: Do it.
CIO: Awww this makes me a little sad. I get letting them "cry themselves to sleep" to an extent but I feel like there need to be a limit.
Co-sleeping: I am against the "family bed" but, like a PP poster said, understand the need for cuddles after a bad dream. LO will sleep in his co-sleeper in our room for the first 6 months.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Not a fan but I don't really care... and I kind of get the need in a place like a busy airport. Although the other day DH randomly told me that he is totally against this (not sure what sparked that) so we will not be using these in the future.
Baby-wearing: Yes!... Just not all the time.
Spanking: Not regularly but sometimes a kid just needs a little swipe.
Circumcision: DH and I were both for it but have started to rethink it... Not sure yet.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I understand going past a year and until you and your baby are ready... Although I do feel there is such a thing as too long. Unlatch.
Homeschooling: Not for us but when done well it can be amazing for both kids and parents.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Why not?
Vaccines: Yes
CIO: depends on age and for how long
Co-sleeping: no
Child harnesses/"leashes": Try watching your kid or using a stroller. Just because they are on a "leash" doesn't mean they are safe
Baby-wearing: yes
Spanking: A very, very last result. I was never spanked. I was way more scared of losing my parents trust or losing privileges. But if spanking is the parents main go-to...then they are just being to lazy to teach the child and guide the child.
Circumcision: yes
Extended BFing (past 1 year): to a point. I know it's commonplace in other parts of the world.....but after 18 months gets a bit creepy to me.
Homeschooling: Geez no. (Mostly because I am not staying cooped up all day every day with the kids. I am a happy and proud working mama. I also think they need to socialization of the classroom)
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I *know* what the guidelines say. But 1 and 20 may be what I do again.
Vaccines: Yes all the way.
CIO: I'm not opposed to it.
Co-sleeping: Not for me
Child harnesses/"leashes": I think they have their place but I wouldn't personally use it.
Baby-wearing: I will give it a try
Spanking: not a huge fan
Circumcision: Yes
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I'm all for breastfeeding but not extended breastfeeding
Homeschooling: No thanks. Im sure homeschooling is great but its just not something I could do.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Whatever is safest for babyThanks for posting this. My answers are not actual answers... they're vague as hell because this post made me realize that DH and I have a lot to talk about before the baby comes.
Vaccines: one of the many scary decisions to make... not yet decided, I don't think I would ever feel good with not vaccinating at all but I need to do more research.
CIO: I'm a first timer so we're going to play it by ear.
Co-sleeping: We're registered for an Arm's Reach Co-sleeper... so no not in the bed but beside the bed.
Child harnesses/"leashes": As a toddler, my husband was a curious wanderer. I don't want to count it out in case she's like her daddy haha. But seriously I don't think I would ever be comfortable putting her on a leash...
Baby-wearing: Yes
Spanking: Don't know if I'll have the heart
Circumcision: Having a girl, thank god we don't have to think about this one (yet)
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I wish I had the will power.
Homeschooling: Nope. Neither me or DH are qualified to do this.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I'll stick with the experts on this one. Extended.
Vaccines: Absolutely. Zero respect for parents who don't vax.
CIO: Depends on the age of baby.
Co-sleeping: Never say never. I plan to co-sleep for a couple months and I don't plan to bed share...but my plans may go out the window if my sleep and mental health would benefit.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Eh, I don't think I'll buy one but I don't care if others use them.
Baby-wearing: Yay.
Spanking: Yay.
Circumcision: Yay.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): It's not for me.
Homeschooling: Usually nay.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I plan to rear-face as long as possible.
Vaccines: shoot him up!
CIO: Not until he is at least 4 months old, and even then I doubt I'll have the heart.
Co-sleeping: not in the same bed, but the same room might be okay. We'll see how I feel.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Not for normal circumstances, but if you have a runner or a child with a disability like autism I can see their use. I won't judge someone who uses one because I have no idea why they are doing it.
Baby-wearing: We will baby wear. H wants to ONLY baby wear and not use a stroller. I am more pro-stroller than he is.
Spanking: Not as a standard punishment, but if he is running into the street or touching something dangerous, I could see myself doing it.
Circumcision: Nope. It is cosmetic and has no value imo.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): We'll see. I don't have an issue with it, but I don't know if I will have the will to do it that long (or that the baby will want to that long). I will be working full time, so I will be pumping. That is a long time to pump.
Homeschooling: Nay. I can't even start writing the reasons I say nay. I will just say that I have seen some terrible effects of it in my years of education.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Yay, extended rear-facing. Reading about it and watching the videos supporting it should convince anyone imo.
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CIO: For older babies yes.
Co-sleeping: The baby will sleep in our room in the beginning for night time nursing, but not in our bed!
Child harnesses/"leashes": Um no thanks. I don't believe in the harnesses however one of those rope things with the rings for kids to hold on to, is more appropriate.
Baby-wearing: It's a beautiful thing.
Spanking: We will be spankers. I was spanked, DH was practically beat... We will give a little spanking for some things. Other forms of discipline will be used more often though. Spanking will be under certain conditions.
Circumcision: We aren't having a boy, but if we did we would circumcize.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I think it's important. I'm all about people doing what's best for them, but I also believe that if more people did this it wouldn't be as taboo as it is. I've read that the average age of weaning in the world is 4 years old! Not that I'm saying I want to go that long, but in the US we are so willing to stop so early when BFing has such perks into early toddler years. I am not giving myself a deadline, but I want to make it to a year, if I make it to 2 years even better!
Homeschooling: I'm down with homeschooling if it's right for your family!
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Yay. Why not?
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Vaccines: Most definately
CIO: Depends on what it's for. I learned that going to their every cry (from my friends kid) makes them do it all their lives
Co-sleeping: For the first months, but no later
Child harnesses/"leashes": No, my child is not an animal - my personal thoughts
Baby-wearing: As in carriers? I didn't with DS, but I MIGHT with LO
Spanking: If needed. I believe in discipline... to a certian limit
Circumcision: Yes, yes, yes. DH is not and he hates it. It didn't hurt DS at all
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Side eye this personally
Homeschooling: i won't but it's okay
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I have taller children, so most likely not.
Vaccines: Yes!!!
CIO: We have used a method of CIO, worked so great he has been an awesome sleeper. We always check to make sure it's nothing serious before letting him cry when he does.
Co-sleeping: Nope, way too dangerous IMO.
Child harnesses/"leashes": not for me
Baby-wearing:On occasion, not all the time. It's helpful in certain situations
Spanking: Yes, but at the appropriate age
Circumcision: yes, DS#1 was, and we are doing the same w ds2.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Not for me, I'm EFF
Homeschooling: Nope. My niece was home schooled for kindergarten, and she makes me sad bc she said she can't wait to go to real school and have friends:(
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: not sure about this one yet. We aren't even at 1&20 yet for DS#1Ok, now that I know what it is. Then I say "yes" to a certain degree. I will be sure (even as a FTM) to go in and make sure they're not crying just to cry and get out of sleeping or whatever... but otherwise I'll let them CIO until they go to sleep.
CIO: Yay
Co-sleeping: No way, i agree i should not have to leave my bed to have sex with the hubby and the baby does not need to be in it! Baby will be just fine.
Child harnesses/"leashes": Im not sure if this is for me, i would have to see what my child was like but i would hope i wouldnt have to use it.
Baby-wearing: Yay thought dont think that will be me.
Spanking: Never. Tap on the hand or something yes.
Circumcision: Yay
Extended BFing (past 1 year): Creepy!
Homeschooling: Nay, i think being social is a big part of life.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Whatever is the law!I'd be curious to see if/how our responses change if we were to take this same poll again on the 3-6 month board!!
Vaccines: Yes
CIO: Yes, if I can determine its just for attention or out of frustration or anger.
Co-sleeping: Debating using a PnP bassinet in our room for the first few weeks. Never bed-sharing with us though.
Child harnesses/"leashes": No. I think they are weird & tacky, but I can see how I could use one as a last resort for safety reasons.
Baby-wearing: Yes, seems very convenient. MH is very excited to baby-wear. I get too hot, so I am more than happy to let him!
Spanking: Yay, as needed to reinforce a serious point or rule, or correct total anarchy. But not in the moment out of anger.
Circumcision: yes, but not for any particularly strong reason.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): no. If I were SAHM, I might consider still pumping that long, but I'll be going back to work and just hoping I can make BF last 6 months.
Homeschooling: No, I think socialization is important.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I'll do whatever the latest regulations recommend.
Vaccines: I support all of them. I think it is incredibly irresponsible to not get your child vaccinated. It's one thing if you want them to be spread out, but not getting them at all is careless IMO.
CIO: Generally support it as a method where appropriate, though I need to do more research to see if/how it might be used with our LO.
Co-sleeping: I don't think sharing the same bed is safe...I will find other ways to bond!
Child harnesses/"leashes": no way
Baby-wearing: good by me!
Spanking: no way
Circumcision: Every parent can make their own choice...personally if we have a boy, he will be circumcised
Extended BFing (past 1 year): I'll be honest, I think it's odd, I won't be doing it
Homeschooling: I think if it's right for your family, go for it! We have good public schools here so we will be sticking with that.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I would like to stick with what the new regulations say, though as a FTM it is hard to say what we will do. I know a lot of moms who say it is really hard to keep your baby rear-facing as long as the new regs say. Hoping to find a happy medium here.
Vaccines: Yes, and am p!ssed at all the moms out there that didn't vaccinate and now there is constantly an outbreak of something that has been "dead" for years. My step daughter always brings home something. I don't plan to do them all at once, as many doctors do, I would rather spread them out. Not doing them is irresponsible.
CIO: Yes and No. My hope is to do a little of this, a baby doesn't need to be picked up every single time it cries, but at the same time, they cry for a reason, and you have to recognize when they need attended to. (and obviously there is an age you can start to test these waters, and newborn time is not it)
Co-sleeping: No, never, but I should clarify since people have different meanings for this word. I think of this to mean my baby is in bed with me till they are like 10. I find it creepy and honestly, get very annoyed listening to parents complain they get no sleep or can't get the kid to then move to their own bed. You taught them to sleep with you, and no, you won't get sleep cause you have a kid in bed with you. Duh. I don't think that is the way to a healthy marriage. Sorry. (and not all, but some parents do it out of laziness, and not training them to sleep in their own room...i.e. my husband's ex-wife)
Child harnesses/"leashes": No. Seriously? No. My dogs don't even walk on leashes. A good spanking once should clear up the "running away issue". It did for my SD.
Baby-wearing: No. My body is miserable now from carrying her...why would I want to keep doing that? And she will be bigger and heavier. My SD was a "hip baby"...my DH thought that was cute...do you still think it's cute that her mom carries her, shes 8 and half? I swore the child's legs would wither up and die from lack of use.
Spanking: Yes, Only as a last resort. (see Childharness/leashes)
Circumcision: Yes, if I was having a boy, but I'm not.
Extended BFing (past 1 year): No. Hoping to make it that long, but do not plan to do it for longer. I want my body and breasts back at some point. I am a wife and a woman.
Homeschooling: No. I work, so that isn't really an option. We already have a private school picked out. I also think the social aspects of school are a very important part of a child's development. I have several friends that home school, and while they do things outside the home, their kids are still lacking that social skill set.
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: Yes to extended rear facing. Well, I assume by the time all our LO's get to this age, it will be a law and not just a recommendation. I figure if this is what is most safe, then yes, that is what we need to do. I am not wild about it, it wouldn't be comfortable for them at some point, but safety first.
Vaccines: yay
CIO: nay for the first 6 months
Co-sleeping: nay
Child harnesses/"leashes": nay
Baby-wearing: yay
Spanking: nay
Circumcision: yay
Extended BFing (past 1 year): nay
Homeschooling: nay
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20 yay
Vaccines: Yes
CIO: Yes, depending on the age and would only go for 15 minutes
Co-sleeping: hell no
Child harnesses/"leashes": to each their own
Baby-wearing: to each their own
Spanking: sometimes it has to be done
Circumcision: yes
Extended BFing (past 1 year): to each their own
Homeschooling: no
Extended Rear-facing vs. turning at 1&20: I turned DD at 1 and would do the same for this child