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Why is the stress getting worse

julesjbjulesjb member
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I am just shy of 11 weeks and am feeling like the anxiety is getting so much worse. The few people IRL that know are excited but I cannot get there. I find the heartbeat on doppler daily with a nice strong rate. I found out at 12 weeks that my first had passed at 9 weeks so I think this is why. I have one more week until we tell our families and I just cannot wait to surprise my mom but the fear that I will not get to that point is overwhelming me. I know no one can tell me everything will be fine but I have anxiety attacks daily......Having a bad day I guess
BFP #1 6/18/10 Saw HB 7/15/10 Missed M/C 8/17/10 @ 12 weeks 2 days- 2 D&C's( 8/20 and 8/26) BFP#2 11/21/10 Nonviable at 5wks, possible ectopic. Methotrexate 12/3/10&12/9/10 BFP#3 3/10/11 Beta@12dpo 39 Beta@14dpo 160! 21 DPO 2439 HB at 7wks 127 EDD 11/17/11
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  • ravenorchidravenorchid
    ((Hugs)) I know I was the most stressed last week right before we made it to the point of our loss. I hope you get great news at your next appt and that there's no cause for your anxiety.
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  • martinimommamartinimomma member
    ((Hugs)).  I totally get where you are coming from, and am glad you have the doppler to reassure you.  I think your feelings are perfectly rational given the situation of your loss (or being PgAL at any point, really).  I hope this next week flies by for you, and you have an opportunity to see LO at your 12 week scan and feel reassured. 

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  • pennynjonpennynjon
    ((hugs)) I am a few days past when we found out last time that the baby had stopped growing. But I didn't get an us this week and we are too early for the doppler. I have another us scheduled monday. I hope everything will be fine and getting past that milestone will help some. I hope when you past that 12 week mark you will feel better too.
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  • Mom2CinderellaMom2Cinderella
    I know how you feel.  About a week ago I was like "Wow. Ok I made it to hearing the hb on doppler and so I think this is going to work out".  Now this week I am reading so many late first trimester losses that I am panicking again.  I am also panicking about labor and delivery already.  I listen to the hb on doppler at home every day.  I just can't get excited.  I hope we can all catch a breath soon. 
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  • haziedazehaziedaze member
    ((HUGS)) PGAL is a crazy rollercoaster. Hoping the time flies by and your announcements help it all feel more real. Sounds like things are going really well so far!
    BFP#1 9/14/10 (EDD 5/21/11); no fetal pole 6w6d, 7w4d, d&c 10/8
    BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
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  • julesjbjulesjb member
    Thanks ladies....my DH feels so comfortable and says he just has a "feeling" everything is fine.... Ugh I can't even imagine. I am not taking anything besides progesterone and I just keep panicking I should be on more meds to help keep the baby. No rational behind it as all testing was normal, I just feel helpless. I hope it's a good sign that the HB is still going strong. I can't pay any attention to statistics anymore as they don't comfort me! You ladies are a huge help though thank you!
    BFP #1 6/18/10 Saw HB 7/15/10 Missed M/C 8/17/10 @ 12 weeks 2 days- 2 D&C's( 8/20 and 8/26) BFP#2 11/21/10 Nonviable at 5wks, possible ectopic. Methotrexate 12/3/10&12/9/10 BFP#3 3/10/11 Beta@12dpo 39 Beta@14dpo 160! 21 DPO 2439 HB at 7wks 127 EDD 11/17/11
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  • smallfry5909smallfry5909 member
    (((HUGS)))
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  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member
    Honestly, I was a mess in week 10. I just couldn't comprehend hitting 11 weeks and still having a baby growing. Now that I'm a week out I feel a lot better. The anxiety is definitely still there but I'm not waking up every day expecting to find out that my baby has died again. I think it comes and goes, but it seems normal being PGAL.
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  • lotus88lotus88 member
    I'm sorry you're stressing out so much, Jules. It is hard and it seems like it's par for the course here. I hope making it past this milestone eases your anxiety. I get a lot of anxiety normally and it's so much worse now. I'm trying to come up with a project to distract myself with so time passes faster. ((hugs))
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  • jr63_2020jr63_2020 member
    I hear you, I'm anxious on a normal day...being PGAL, I'm just flat out neurotic. I've been using my Doppler when I wake up and before I go to bed. It helps be calm down for most of the day so I can make it through until the next. I can't wait to feel movement so I can hopefully feel more reassured. Sending you hugs!! It sucks that we have to feel this way over something seemingly so happy.
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  • D&D4Ever7D&D4Ever7
    I am sorry you are going through all this stress.  I was also very stressed between 9 and 12wks because all my PG symptoms were disappearing.  The doppler is my life saver and I pretty much use it on any bad days that I have.  I always feel a little bit of anxiety after telling someone about my PG, but try to be strong.  I hope tomorrow is better for you.  PgAL is very difficult, but I promise it gets a little easier by time.  Hugs
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